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Ackerman, Diane, Natural History of the Senses. In this
course of this grand tour of the realm of the senses, the author
writes about the evolution of the kiss, the sadistic cuisine of
eighteenth-century England, the chemistry of pain, and the
melodies of the plant Earth with an evocativeness and charm that
make the book itself a marvel of literate sensuality. Vintage,
1991 ISBN 0-679-73566-6 Buy
this book!
Aihara, Kyoko, Geisha: A living
tradition. The maiko and geiko of Kyoto in Japan inhabit a
unique and curious role in Japanese culture. A century ago they
were a frequent sight in the city, as were similar female
entertainers in other cities, but today their existence is fragile
and few women remain in these demanding professions. It takes many
years for the women to hone and refine their artistic and
conversational skills so that they can expertly entertain men in
the traditional manner and participate at Japan's colorful
seasonal festivals. Only in Kyoto does this level of expertise and
training still exist, ensuring that the maiko and geiko who still
live and work here are truly guardians of Japan's cultural past.
Accompanied by her stunning original photographs, the author's
informative and honest text provides a fascinating and detailed
portrait of a distinctive and intriguing aspect of Japanece
society. Few are allowed behind the crested curtains of the
ancient teahouses of Japan, and, as a result, misconceptions have
arisen about the roles of the female entertainers - popularly know
as geisha - who work within them. It is with Japan's ancient
capital, Kyoto, that these women are historically associated and
where the traditional strictures of their training are still
upheld today. Here they are called maiko during their apprentice
years, and geiko when they reach the required level of artistic
skill. This book describes every aspect of the often harsh lives
of these remarkable women: their elaborate dress, hair, and make
up; the ceremoies and rituals in which they are involved; their
accomplishment in traditinoal artistic skills and their
relationships with men and the outside world. A flattering
companion read to Memoirs of a Geisha.
Carlton Book, 1999, ISBN 1-85868-970-8 Buy
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Alman, Isadora, Doing It: Real people
having really good sex. With topics ranging from dating to
coupling, solo sex to lovemaking, oral sex to anal sex, and sex
toys to varieties of sex play, this book offers a remarkable
variety of sexy suggestions. Men and women of all ages and
persuasions let you in on what they think are the important
details about sexual happiness. Drawing on discussions from
Alman's popular web site and from written responses to her column,
"Ask Isadora", this book offers thoughts, experiences, stories and
advice on all topics sexual. Conari Press, 2001,
ISBN 1-57324-520-8 Buy
this book!
Alvrez, Alicia, Bedtime: 365 nightly readings for passion
& romance. From Pablo Neruda contemplating the curves of a
woman's body and Emily Dickinson's poetics of love, to Diane
Ackerman ruminating on the eroticism of a kiss, this book will
transport you to a more passionate state of mind. With selections
from the greatest romantic poets - Shelley, Sappho, Rilke - and
experts on sensuality - Barbara De Angelis, Daphne Rose Kingma,
Margot Anand - this book is to charm, arouse, even amuse, as it
stimulates your imagination and erotic impulses. Have more fun in
bed. A delicious collection of romantic readings and amorous
suggestions to induldge your heart, mind, body and soul. Conari
Press, 1995 ISBN 1-57324-184-9 Buy
this book!
Anapol, Deborah, Polyamory The New Love
Without Limits: Secrets of sustainable intimate
relationshps. What is polyamory? Can marriage and
unconditional love co-exist? How do you cope with
jealousy? Is polyamory immoral? Can you really
love two or more people at a time? What about sexually
transmitted diseases? What's wrong with serial
monogamy? Does polyamory harm children? Find the answers to
all these question and more. IntiNet Resource Center,
415.507.1738, pad@well.com, 1997
ISBN 1-880789-08-6 Buy
this book!
The Seven Natural Laws of Love, Deborah
Anapol. As we search for love in our lives, most of us often feel
as though we're on a journey without a compass - or even worse,
with a faulty map. We are programmed from our earliest childhood
experiences with scores of assumptions about love. We're taught
male and female roles, and ways of seeing ourselves, that may lead
to separation, fear, and mistrust. These many fallacies and
misconceptions lead us to associate love with disappointment and
pain. In this book the author gives us a warm, simple and
universal guide to the principles that are common to all loving
relationships. Drawing from the stories of the thousands of
individuals and couples she has counseled in her workshops and
private practice, from her own personal struggles and victories,
and from sacred texts, she distills love down to its basic
essentials. Based on real-world observations, she identifies the
seven laws that flow naturally from the true nature of love, and
shows how we can apply these to our lives. Her warmth, humor,
utter honesty, and lucid writing style cut through the
misunderstandings that get in the way of intimacy, and give us an
accurate map to the source of love inside ourselves. www.sevenlawsoflove.com,
2005. Elite Books, www.elitebooks.biz
ISBN 0-9710888-7-X 
Barash, David P., and Judith Eve Lipton,
The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and infidelity in animals
and people. Applyng new research to sex in the animal world,
esteemed scientists dispel the notion that monogamy comes
naturally. In fact, as this book reveals, biologists have found
that for nearly every species, cheating is the rule - for both
sexes. Reviewing findings from the same DNA fingerprinting
science employed in the courtroom, the authors take readers from
chickcadee nests to chimpanzee troops to explain why animals
cheat. (Some prostitute themselves for food or protection, whiole
others strive to couple with genetically superior or multiple
mates.) The book then illuminates the implicatoins of these
dramatic new findings for humans, as partners and as parents.
Henry Holt and Co., www.henryholt.com,
2002, ISBN 0-8050-7136-9 Buy
this book!
Bauer, Thomas G., Bob McKercher, editors Sex
and Tourism: Journeys of romance, love, and lust. An
inside look at the intersection of tourism and
sexuality! With a unique combination of academic and personal
accounts, the book takes you behind the scenes with motel owners,
adventure travel guides, backpackers, and others working on all
sides of the international tourism industry. The editors have
created a model that views the situation from three diffeent
perspectives: tourist, tourism provider and nature of the
encounter. Unlike other related volumes, this book is not just
about the sex trade but also about the role of tourism in love,
marraige, and relationships. Haworth Hospitality Press, www.HaworthPress.com,
2003, ISBN 0-7890-1203-0 Buy
this book!
Bechtel, Stefan & Laurence Roy
Stains, Sex: A man's guide. What no one else will
tell you. How to read her body signals. The difference between
vulgar and arousing language. How exercise affects your
lovemaking. The fine line between a friendly look and a hostile
ogle. These are just a few of the things every man wants to know
but doesn't know how - or whom - to ask. This is the first
comprehensive book about sex written entirely for men. It includes
anthoritative advice from experts on more than 130 topics as well
as questions, concerns and tips from men just like you. Covering
everything from sexual techniques to sexual harassment, this book
gives you all the information you need about male sexuality in one
clear, concise and up-to-date volume. Berkeley Books, 1998
Berkowitz, Bob, His Secret Life: Male
Sexual Fantasies, Bob Berkowitz. Former host of CNBC's call-in
sex show "Real Personal", Bob offers a provocative look at men's
deepest sexual longings, fantasies so personal that they rarely
confide them, even to their wives and girlfriends. Revealing how
men feel not only about sex, but about women, power, and
themselves, this is a tool that couples can use to explore and
enrich the most intimate aspects of their relationships. The
author believes that men are becoming more candid about their
sexual fantasies in response to women's new openness and
self-confidence about sex. Some images may be graphic and even
shocking, but the subtexts of the fantasies are always
illuminating. Simon & Schuster www.simonsays.com
1997 ISBN 0-684-81103-0 Buy
This Book!
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Berkowitz, Bob, His Secret Life:
Male Sexual Fantasies. Former host of CNBC's call-in sex show
"Real Personal", Bob offers a provocative look at men's deepest
sexual longings, fantasies so personal that they rarely confide
them, even to their wives and girlfriends. Revealing how men feel
not only about sex, but about women, power, and themselves, this
is a tool that couples can use to explore and enrich the most
intimate aspects of their relationships. The author believes that
men are becoming more candid about their sexual fantasies in
response to women's new openness and self-confidence about sex.
Some images may be graphic and even shocking, but the subtexts of
the fantasies are always illuminating. Paperback. Simon &
Schuster www.simonsays.com
1998 paperback Buy
This Book!
Bilgere, Dmitri, Beyond the Blame Game:
Creating compassion and ending the sex war in your life. Learn
how to get beyond the blaming that keeps men and women apart.
Understand and heal the shame men and women feel. See men's hidden
powerlessness and women's hidden power. Stop accidentally creating
the behaviors you hate the most in members of the opposite sex,
and encourage those you do. Develop your sexual compassion, sexual
style and sexual self-esteem. Stop blaming others for the problems
in your life without blaming yourself for them, either. And much
much more. MPC Press http://pobox.com/~LifePower
1997 ISBN 0-9613177-3-6 Buy
This Book!
Bockting, Walter O., and Eli Coleman,
Masturbation as a Means of Achieving Sexual Health. This
thorough and unbiased book shows that masturbation is a critical
component in the development of sexual health; explores the power
- both negative and positive - of the act, and outlines viable
ideas for future research. It also presents a concise historical
overview of societal attitudes towards masturbation and reports on
changes in masturbatory behavior in the twentieth century,
including the trend toward an earlier age when women begin to
masturbate and the increased recognition of masturbation as a
source of sexual pleasure irrespective of relationship status or
other sexual activity. This important book examines the
connections between masturbation and other sexual activity, sexual
fantasy and desire. The Haworth Press, www.haworthpress.com, 2002,
ISBN 0-7890-2046-7, Buy
This Book!
Brooks, Gary, Centerfold Syndrome: How men can
overcome objectification & achieve intimacy with women.
It's no secret that millions of men read magazines like
Playboy and Penthouse and lust after bikini-clad
models. After all, guys will be guys, and what's the
harm? Plenty! claims the author of this ground-breaking
book that shows how many so-called normal male attitudes toward
sex are actually harmful and destructive. He identifies the five
principal symptoms of this pervasive disorder: voyeurism (I
can't stop watching gorgeous women), objectification (obsessive
fetishism over body parts that interferes with the ability to have
relationships with an actual person; the need for validation
(women have great power to make or break my sense of masculinity),
trophyism (Beautiful women are collectibles that show the world
who a man is) and the fear of intimacy (I'm desperately lonely but
deeply fearful of getting too close.) Here is the first candid
analysis of how boys are conditioned to pursue airbrushed photo
fantasies, and how they're brought up to depend upon and yet fear
the perceived power women hold over them as gatekeepers to a
previous commodity - their objectified bodies! And even more
importantly how this syndrome prevents true emotional intimacy
between men and women. But he also offers a way to overcome this
destructive malady. Using actual case histories and transcripts
from groups he has led over many years, he documents how a variety
of men from different backgrounds have struggled to escape the
depersonalization, the isolation and the sense of frustration and
powerlessness in this syndrome. Both men and women will appreciate
the candor in this book. He offers specifis guildelines and
practical plans of action for all of us in our various roles - as
friends, lovers, partners, husbands, wives, parents, responsbile
citizens - in an era of changing gender relations. Jossey-Bass,
1995 ISBN 0-7879-0104-0 Buy
this book!
Carruthers, Malcolm, The
Testosterone Revolution: Rediscover your energy and overcome
the symptoms of male menopause. Reduced activity of the
hormone testosterone can have a hugh effect on a man's health and
potency - and for many men this means going through a time of
change. The author explains how around the age of 50, but
sometimes some years earlier or later, many men experience a drain
in their energy, positivity and libido. This book explains how men
experiencing andropausal depression and loss of drive can
revolutionize their health to feel younger and stronger. Based on
his work with over 1,000 men showing the classic symptoms of
andropause, he has fought long and hard to have the condition
recognized and to establish that it can be safely and effectively
treated with testosterone replacement therapy, or TRT. Carefully
monitored use of TRT is now acknowledged by many doctors to be an
important and highly effective hormone therapy for men. This book
will answer all your questions about the male menopause and TRT,
as well as offering a lifestyle plan to transform men's lives.
Thorsons Publishers, www.thorsons.com,
2001, ISBN 0-00-712275-6 Buy
this book!
Castleman, Michael, Great Sex: A Man's
Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex. Do you want
to be a great lover and enjoy consistently great sex? Would you
like reliable erections that don't wilt in the middle of
lovemaking? Would you like superb ejaculatory control? Would you
like your penis to be as large as it can possibly be? Do you want
women to sing your sexual praises? All these sexual benefits can
be yours if you read this book and take its message to heart.
Written with the help of an advisory board that includes some of
the nation's leading sex therapists, this book is certain to help
you overcome your sex problems; become a better, more confident
lover; and enjoy the sex of your dreams. The message is
surprisingly simple: Stop imitating the rushed, all-genital sex
you see in pornography. Instead, cultivate the opposite:
leisurely, playful, total-body, massage-based lovemaking that
includes the genitals, of course, but is not focused on them. Sex
inspired by pornography is a major reason why men think their
penises are too small and why they have erection and ejaculatory
problems. With wit, wisdom, and down-to-earth sympathy for men,
the author discusses his own penis -- like yours, it's a little
too small -- and his own struggles with balky erections, rapid
ejaculation, and not expressing orgasm at all. Then, based on
state-of-the-art sex therapy techniques, leading sexology texts,
and almost 400 medical journal articles, he reveals how to
overcome these issues and enjoy a satisfying and exciting sex
life. What's more, the sexual style he advocates is the way most
women prefer to make love. Take this advice and you'll benefit by
having a lover who is more arousable, responsive, enthusiastic,
and complimentary. In other words, when you embrace sensual,
creative, whole-body lovemaking, everybody wins. You have fewer
sex problems. The woman you love gets what she wants in bed. And
you both enjoy sex that's hotter, more erotic, and more
fulfilling. Rodale Press, Rodale Press, 2004, ISBN: 1-57954-737-0
Chartham, Robert, The Sensuous Couple. At last, someone has
taken up where the others left off... Everyone knows that
sensuousness is more fun together. Now the author reveals how to
make the most of all you have learned. Here are the simple things
every couple can do together to bring the greatest pleasure and
enjoyment to each other. From timing, to the right setting, to the
secret of champagne, the author covers every detail a man and a
woman should know to become a Sensuous Couple. Penthouse
International, 1971 SBN 345-02517-2-125
Chia, Mantak & Douglas Abrams Arava,
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: How any man can experience
multiple orgasms and dramatically enhance his sexual
relationship,. At last a book for men that provides the type
of information we provided for women. Male multiple orgasms
provide men and women with the opportunity to experience enhanced
sexual pleasure and this book provides the information to make
this possible. This holistic and non-mechanical approach to
lovemaking is a perspective for which American men have been long
overdue. HarperCollins, www.harpercollins.com,
1996 ISBN 0-06-251336-2 Buy
this book!
Comfort, Alex, The Joy of Sex: Sexual
Foreplay. Foreplay is what turns sex into lovemaking, and what
sets one lover apart from all possible others. It can heighten the
level of arousal in the sexual act - or it can be an exquisitely
sensual experience in itself. The author shows how lovers can
fully explore each other's desires and add greater intimacy and
excitement to every encounter. Written frankly and with humor, the
book covers every aspect of this most ancient form of adult play,
from eating and dancing to erotic massage. Beautifully illustrated
in full color throughout, this book will be a delight and an
inspiration to all adventurous lovers. Crown Publishers www.randomhouse.com
1997 Buy
This Book!
Dalby, Liza, Geisha.The mystique never
dies. Available again, this classic best-seller offers an intimate
glimpse into a unique community. In her account of her experience
as the Kyoto geisha Ichigiku, the author, the only non-Japanese
ever to have trained as a geisha - reveals the realities of a
world that has long been the subject of rumor and fantasy, and
that continues to fascinate Japanese and Westerners alike to this
day. It is filled with facts and history, shot through with
insights and understanding. A lot of historic photography, not as
flattering as Aihara's work. It does have a map showing Gion
(Memoirs of a Geisha) and other information
that helps put that work of fiction into visual perspective.
University of California Press, 1998 ISBN 0-520-20495-6
Buy
This Book!
Deida, David, Blue Truth: A
spiritual guide to life & death and love & sex.
Be the first man in your men's group to get an advance reading
copy of this book! Not on the shelves and available only from the
publisher, this is a powerful, heart opening book. Profound,
challenging, an poetically beautiful, this book is page after page
of deep, naked truths, an unexpected teaching of enormous value
and passion. This is one of the clearest, most original and useful
guides to authentic spiritual practice. No one interested in real
spiritual growth can afford to be unaware of this work. Plexus
www.deida.com 888.626.9662 1999
ISBN 1-889762-14-8 Buy
This Book
Deida, David, The Red
Realm: Adventures in sexual spirituality. This book
is the deepest, most alive, insightful book on the wonders and
subtleties of sexuality as a spiritual path. It inspires us to the
knowing of total openness to who we are as the lover, and
beloved...until we disappear into love. Plexus www.deida.com
888.626.9662 1999
Delacoste, Frederique & Priscilla
Alexander, Sex Work: Writings by women in the sex
industry. The first (and only?) book to be reviewed favorably
by both The Women's Review of Books and Hustler,
this book popularized the term "sex work" to describe the
occupations of street prostitutes, exotic danvers, nude models,
escorts, porn actresses, and workers in massage parlors and so
changed the way we talk about sex and money. Features the original
stories of women in the life, including writings by Sapphire, Nina
Hartley and Joan Nestle. Includes Sex Workers' response to AIDS.
Latest information on the legal status of sex work in the US,
Europe and Asia. Growth of the international prostatutes' rights
movement. Bibliography, revised to reflect a decade's worth of
writing and publishing on sex work. Resources, including activists
organizations and publications - many just a web click away. Cleis
Press cleis@aol.com 1998
Ebel,
Charles, Mike Dulude, Lawrence Corey, Managing Herpes: How to
Live and Love with a Chronic STD. American Social Health
Association, 1998, ISBN: 1885833032 Buy
This Book!
Ensler, Eve, The Vagina Monologues.
You might think this is a rather odd addition to a men's library.
However, this book transforms the vision of the "cunt", "twat",
"pussy" to a higher level where it should be, to all men, and
especially to men raising daughters. The author writes, "I was
worried about vaginas. I was worried about what we think about
vaginas, and even more worried that we don't think about them...So
I decided to talk to women about their vaginas." In
talking to over 200 women, old, young, married, single, lesbians,
college professors, actors, corporate professionals, sex workers,
African American, Latino, Asian American, Native American,
Caucasian, Jewish. At first, women were a little reluctant to
talk. They were a little shy. But once they got going, they
couldn't be stopped. So she begins her hilarious, eye-opening tour
into the last frontier, the forbidden zone at the heart of every
women. This groundbreaking book gives voices to a chorus of lusty,
outrageous, poignant, and thoroughly human stories, transforming
the question mark hovering over the female anatomy into a
permanent victory sign. With laugher and compassion, she
transports the reader to a world we've never dared to know,
guaranteeing that no one who reads this book will ever look at a
woman's body the same way again. (Cunt: A
declaration of independence is a great companioin.) Villard
1998 ISBN 0-375-75052-5 Buy
This Book!
Fitzgerald, Matthew,
Sex-Ploytation: How women use their bodies to extort
money from men. "This book is about truth, not vilification,"
says the author. "It is based on direct observation and interviews
with hundreds of men who have shared similar experiences and so
represents an actuality which can neither be denied nor disproved,
despite the shrill outcries of a world full of dishonest women."
Inside, you will information about the power of female sexuality
and how women use it to extort money from men. What women really
want from men. Dating and marriage as legalized prostitution.
Female con games. How society is unequivocally biased toward
women. Female self-deceit. The truth about "romance". The
arrogance of the female gender. Feminist lies and the failure of
feminism. How men can fight back and what women can do. April
House www.sexploy.com 1999
ISBN 0-9669639-0-3 Buy
this book!
Goldberg, Kenneth, Viagra: The
potency pill. The demand for Viagra, the new drug to treat
impotence, has outpaced that of any new medication - ever. It's
being touted as the easiest, most effective, and most discreet
remedy for male sexual dysfunction. But is there a quick and easy
fix? Will Viagra help you? And at what cost physically
and financially? This book will answer those questions
and more. Inside you'll find: A discussion of the causes of
impotence. Descriptions of current and future treatments for
impotence and their pros and cons. A detailed explanation of
Viagra, including how and why it works and the benefits and risks.
Helpful hints for "getting in the mood." A resource
section that tells you where to go for help. Viagra and
women: Can it help female sexual dysfunction,
too? And how do women feel about the "potency pill?"
Publications International, 1998 ISBN 0-451-19792-5 Buy
this book!
Golden, Arthur, Memoirs of a Geisha. A
literary sensation and runaway bestseller, this brilliant debut
novel presents with seamless authenticity and exquisite lyricism
the true confessions of one of Japan's most celebrated geisha. In
the book, we enter a world where appearances are paramount; where
a girl's virginity is auctioned to the higest bidder; where women
are trained to beguile the most powerful men; and where love is
scorned as illusion. It is a unique and triumphant work of fiction
- at once romantic, erotic, suspenseful - and completely
unforgettable. (Number one recommended companion read is Geisha: A Living
tradition, by Kyoko Aihara, 2nd Geisha
by Liza Dalby. Vintage Contemporaries, www.randomhouse.com
1999 ISBN 0-679-78158-7 Buy
This Book!
Harris, Bud, The Fire and the
Rose: The wedding of spirituality and sexuality. Our
encounters with love, spirituality and sexuality play a major role
in shaping who we are. These powerful aspects of our lives are
woven into the pattern that forms our potential for wholeness.
Through growing consciousness, sexuality and spirituality can
support our efforts to live more passionately and do understand
love in all of its forms. In this stimulating and inspiring book,
a Jungian analyst challenges us to reconsider our views of
spirituality and sexuality as opposites and bring them into
harmony and creativity. Together, we can heal some of our
culture's great wounds of the soul. Chiron Publications, 2007,
ISBN 978-1-888602-42-5 
Heilbrun, Carolyn G., Toward a Recognition of Androgyny.
"That graceful circle symbol of Yin and Yang, feminine and
masculine, curving into each other, containig seeds of each other,
is a very old expression of the ideal which the author examines.
In this book of three essays she seeks to ameliorate the word
itself, which derives from the Greak andro (male) and gyn (female)
and to her suggests a spirit of reconciliation between the sexes."
Harper & Row, 1974 SBN 06-090378-3
Howard, N. Kathryn, The Stripper
Diaries: A novel about passion. Admit it. You're
curious why men go to strip clubs. What are the dancers really
like? Are these girls emotionally impoverished women, in
search of a quick payoff and cheap male admiration? Do they
have any brains at all? Have they heard of
self-respect? Or, are they savvy businesswomen-feminists in
the truest sense of the word? Geniuses for their ability to
exploit men's infamous weakness for sparsely clothed female
attention? The book answers these baffling questions. Inside,
you'll meet Alex Parker, an educated professional who's lost sight
of her childhood dreams of being a performer. In an abrupt,
deciding moment to chase per passion, she walks out on corporate
America, takes a job in an L.A. strip club, befriends three
other exotic dancers, and together the flawed foursome plot to
take control over their men and their futures within the comedic
confines of the fantasy world they call work. With a gift for
dialogue, the author has created entertaining characters you can't
help but root for. It is a must-read and a great gift for your
best girlfriend, your mom, and even the men in your life. (They
just might learn something about women that may save them
thousands in lap dances!) Curl up somewhere comfortable, and
prepare to lose yourself in this savor-worthy read. Tenth Speed
Press, 2005, ISBN 0-9755645-4-4
Joannides, Paul, A Guide to
Getting It On. This guide isn't like other books on sex. It
doesn't have pictures of male or female private parts that look
like they were taken from a cadaver and it doesn't hide behind a
wall of fancy sex terms or read as though it were written by Mr.
Rogers. This guide encourages you to explore dimensions of
sexuality that people in our country usually aren't told about -
from the emotional part of getting naked together to why a guy who
takes his penis too seriously might have trouble pleasing his
sweetheart. It covers subjects like hand jobs and heart throbs,
kisses above and below the waist, vibrators, friendship and even
sex on the interstate. But most important of all is the Goofy Foot
Philosophy which says that it doesn't matter what you've got in
your pants if there's nothing in your brain to connect to it.
Check out Paul's
monthly column here at menstuff.org.
Goofy Foot Press, www.goofyfootpress.com
2000 ISBN 1-885535-10-4 Buy
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Judson, Olivia, Dr. Tatiana's Sex Advice to
All Creation. This is a unique guidebook to sex. It reveals,
for example, when necrophilia is acceptable, and who should commit
beastiality with whom. It discloses the best time to have a sex
change, how to have a virgin birth, and when to eat your lover. It
also advises on more mundane matters - such as male pregnancy and
the joys of a detachable penis. Funny, quirky, and wonderfully
informative, the book comprises letters from all creatures worried
about their bizarre sex lives to the wise Doctor, the only sex
columnist in creation with a prodigious knowledge of evolutionary
biology. Fusing natural history with advice to the lovelorn,
blending wit and riger, she is able to reassure her anxious
correspondents that althought the acts they describe might sound
appalling and unnatural, they are actually perfectly normal - so
long as you are not a human. In the process, she explains the
science behind it all, from Darwin's theory of sexual selection to
why sexual reproduction exists in the first place, and, applying
the standards of the human world to the mating habits of the
natural one, in the end she reveals the wonders of both. This book
marks the debut of a dazzlingly original writer. www.drtatiana.com,
Henry Holt, www.henryholt.com,
2002 ISBN 0-8050-6331-5 Buy
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Kaplan, Helen Singer, PE: How to overcome premature
ejaculation, Brunner/Mazel, 1989
Kaplan, Louise, Female Perversions: The temptations of
Emma Bovary. In her latest breakthrough study, the author
leads us on a rare, literary foray into the minds of the
perverse: men and women governed by unconscious strategies
which distort their behavior while regulating shameful, forbidden
desires. As she explores the dynamics of aberrant sexual and
social behavior, she dispels the myth that perversion is the
province of males alone. Just as male perversions caricature
masculine ideals of virility, female perversions parody feminine
models of submission and purity. Manifestations vary by
sex: fetishism, transvestism, and exhibitionism are male
afflictions; while kleptomania, delicate self-cutting, and
anorexia are female pheonomena. But the author asserts that all
perversions are expressions of socially normalized gender
stereotypes, and that all are instruments of deception. Disguised
in the manifest performances of perversion are potentially
crippling anxieties and mortification, repressed aggressive and
sadistic impulses, and especially, cross-gender ambitions and
desires. Thus, the perverse strategy is insistent and
irresistible, for if it were not played out, the person might be
assailed by his or her own demons. As this book unfolds, and the
elements of the perverse strategy emerge, readers too will be able
to interpret their meaning. Interwoven with the author's
astounding perceptions are case studies and the accessible,
illuminating story of one woman, enslaved by the social
stereotypes of her time. Using this and other texts as a
reference, the author examines the ways in which women endow men
with the power to dominate them, and she describes how social
structures perpetuate the war between the sexes. Doubleday, 1991
ISBN 0-385-26233-7 Buy
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Katzenstein, Larry,
Viagra: The potency promise: How it can work
for you and change your life. Doctors can't write out the
prescriptions fact enough - thousands of men (and women) are
racing to get their hands on Viagra, the new potency drug that
experts predict will revolutionize our sex lives. And the results
look good - Viagra may be the magic bullet for many people who
thought they could never enjoy sex again as well as for those who
simply desire a more rewarding sex life. Read firsthand reports
from men, young and old, who have actually used Viagra and see if
it can change your life, too. St Martin's Press www.stmartins.com
1998 ISBN 0-312-96929-5 Buy
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Kay, Kerwin, Jill Nagle, Baruch Gould, editors,
Male Lust: Pleasure, power and transformation. This is
a provocative collection of personal essays and poetry that
explores the emotional realities of men's diverse relationships
with sex and desire. A wide variety of topics and poltical
perspectives are covered, including a discussion of sexual abuse,
celebrations of S & M, rants against pornography,
and discussions of racism. Five of the essays are by women, and
two by transgendered men. This book reflects both gay and straight
viewpoints and offers a positive sexual vision that moves far
beyond the narrow messages offered in mainstream media. Harrington
Park Press 2000 ISBN 1-56023-982-4 Buy
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Keyes, Laurel Elizabeth, The Mystery of Sex: A book
about love. What causes men and women to have almost opposite
concepts of the word "love"? Why do men feel superior to
women? Why do women find it easier to use intuition than
logic? Why can men fight, shake hands and forget it, but
women who fight never forget it? Why the importance given
virginity in women but not in men? Why have women revolted
against their natural role of motherhood? Why
homosexuality? Are we missing greater experiences by
confining sex to a physical level? These and other
quesitons are answered in this book, from sources of ancient and
modern wisdom, gathererd by the author over many years of study
and research. Gentle Living Publications, 1976
Knight, Sirona,
Greenfire: Making love with the Goddess,. Now
you and your partner can apply the vast amounts of energy
generated by sexual union and orgasm to improve every facet of
your relationship, spirituality - and your life! This
book offers an innovative approach to the goddess tradition
through sexual expression and exploratoin, blending elements of
traditional Celtic Gwyddonic ritual and symbolism with tasteful
erotic passages and guided fantasy. As you journey through each of
the eight Sabbats with a different aspect of the Goddess and her
consort, you will learn how you and your partner can make love,
sending your bodies, minds and spirits to new heights. Sexual
union can be an ecstatic mode for intensifying your connection to
oneness-oneness between woman and man, Goddess and God. Here is
your personal guide to merging with the aspects of the Goddess and
consort that exist inside of you, shaping and strengthening your
relationship with your mate and with your divine nature. Llewellyn
Publications, 1996
Lamm, Steven, & Gerald
Secor Couzens The Virility Solution: Everything you need
to know about the FDA-approved potency pill that can restore and
enhance male sexuality,. The recent FDA approval for the first
oral medication for sexual enhancement, Viagra, and Pfizer’s
upcoming multimillion dollar advertising campaign for the drug is
expected to send millions of Americans - male and female - running
to their doctors for prescriptions. Predicted to usher in a new
sexual revolution, probably as significant as the birth control
pill, Viagra and the other drugs its class will redefine the
meaning of a functioning sex life. This is the only book available
that explains the intricacies of this breakthrough medication and
the potential risks involved. The book is necessary to understand
the impact of the drug on the sexual lives of women, men,
relationships and society because the drug will redefine what a
functioning sex life means. Explained here is a broad-based
program that works in tandem with the drug to restore and enhance
male sexuality. Simon & Schuster www.SimonSays.com
(Also, see commentary on Viagra.)
1999 Buy
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Latteier, Carolyn,
Breasts: The women's perspective on an American
obsession. This book describes and explores our national
breast fetish, which is defined as a culturally constructed
obsession that is deeply interwoven with beauty standards,
breastfeeding practices, and sexuality. By tracing the complex
history of this erotic fascination and discovering how it affects
men's and women's sexuality and their relationships, this book
will help women accept their breasts as they are and provide male
readers with insight into how women think and feel about their
bodies. Harrington Park Press 1998. Also see POV about Breasts
and books on breasts by Marilyn Yalom and
Meema Spadola. 1998
ISBN 1-56023-927-1 Buy
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Litten, Harold, Best Erotic
Fantasies: How to enjoy and understand the sex in your
head. This book takes sexual fantasies to a new level of
honesty, vividness, and pleasure. The author stuides not just the
vanilla daydreams of high schoolers, but the five consistently
most popular fantasies among both men and women: sex
with a stranger, rape, exhibitionsim/voyerism, homosexual
encouters, and sadomasochism. With both citations and
bibliography, the author argues authoritatively that there's no
such thing as an evil sex fantasy. Even the most bizarre are born
in the unconscious and can help us to understand ourselves. Factor
Press, 1999 ISBN 1-887650-16-4 Buy
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Litten, Harold, More Joy...An Advanced Guide to Solo Sex.
From the "World's leading apostle of autoeroticism". This book
begins where other books on solo sex leave off covering topics
like Positive Narcissism, Safe Exhibitionism, Advanced Games,
Erotic Piercing, Sounds, Regaining youthful sexuality, Hours of
brinkmanship, unique homemade solo sex toys, commercial sex toy
evaluations, mystical and spiritual sex. More than a hundred
stories and testimonies from men who enjoy sharing the most
intimate details of their solo sex lives with appreciative
readers. (Newsletter available - Celebrate
the Self.) Factor Press, 1996
Lloyd, Joan Elizabeth, Totally
Private: Answers to the questions lovers long to ask. Got
a question on sex? The author has the answer! "Can
I get STD from oral sex?" "Is cybersex considered
cheating?" "How can my partner and I put the sizzle back into
our love life?" These questions - and countless others from
her readers - have inundated the mailbox of the author, one of
America's most trusted sex experts. Now she answers her most
frequently asked and provacative queries...from lovers of all
ages, passions, and persuasions. Have you ever wondered: How quick
is a quickie? Are threesomes possible in a loving
relationship? Does size matter? How can I approach my
partner about my bondage or fetish fantasies? Do women
ejaculate? Am I normal if I enjoy sex toys and kinky
games? The answers to these and other questions you've
always had about sex are all here. Share what you like with
your lover or your friends. Or keep it...Totally Private.
Time Warner, www.twbookmark.com
2001, ISBN 0-446-67718-3 Buy
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Louis, Lisa, Butterflies of the
Night: Mama-sans, Geisha, Strippers, and the Japanese Men
They Serve. The world of mizu shobai - Japan's night life of
bars, clubs, geisha houses, and sex emporiums - is the oil that
greases the wheels of Japanese business and government, and it is
the women of that world who make it run. These "butterflies of the
night" span a wide spectrum from the lower depths to the higher
echelons of respectability, but their common lot is to work in a
profession dedicated to entertaining men, sometimes socially,
sometimes sexually, often both. The author, an American woman
studying in Japan, entered this world for the most ordinary of
reasons - to supplement a tight budget with a few hours of
part-time work. What began as a little bit of moonlighting soon
developed into a mission - to trace the outlines of this shady
realm and tell the stories of the women and men who inhabit it.
With extraordinary intelligence, sympathy, and energy she has
researched and recorded the goings-on of this noctural world, in
interviews that allow the denizens of the mizu shobai to speak
eloquently for themselves. After an autobiographical account of
her own first job, she moves on to examine the high-class world of
exclusive bar hostesses and their traditional counterparts, the
geisha. She exposes the "special kind of sleaze" of what is known
in Japan as "the ejaculation industry", and discusses the
experiences and special problems of foreign women in Japan, not
only white Europeans but Southeast Asian women, who increasingly
play a large role in Japan's world of night-time entertainment. To
come to grips with the need from which the mizu shobai arose and
flourishes, she speaks also to its customers and patrons, and
opens a window on the ominous role of the yakuza or Japanese
mafia. She provides an intimate and vivid picture of a part of
Japan few foreigners ever see, but which they must confront to
understand Japanese culture and the Japanese as they really are.
Tengu Books, 1997 ISBN 0-8348-0249-X Buy
this book!
MacDonald, Richard, Be Better in
Bed. Have great sex - start the fire and keep the flames of
passion high in your relationship, no matter how long you and your
lover have been together. Here's how best to satisfy the needs and
desires which you both like to indulge and enjoy. Organized into
three parts - one for the two of you as a couple, one for men, and
one for women - the advice covers: What to wear to bed. The
dos and don'ts of orgasms, masturbation, and lovemaking. How to
give and receive oral sex. Wet patches, condoms and other things.
How to have sex and children at the same time. How to ask for (and
how to refuse) new experiences. Love games. How to be intimate
with each other. Enjoy your sexuality. Bask in the romance. And
thrill yourself and your lover with the passion you'll awake in
each other. Godsfield Book, 2000. ISBN: 0-8069-2771-2
Buy
this book!
Mangan, Michael,
Sleepsex: Uncovered. This is the first book to be
published on sexual behavior that occurs during sleep. Writing in
a frank, down-to-earth style, the author sheds light on many
questions surrounding sleepsex such as, "How many people 'have'
sleepsex?" "What causes it?" "What can be done about it
if it is a problem?" In plain language, he summarizes what sleep
experts have written and provides a detailed and thoughtful
analysis of over 60 "stories" of people with first-hand experience
of sleepsex. The anthor's analysis reveals what direct experience
with sleepsex is like, and how it affects those involved.
www.sleepsex.org. Xlibris
Corporation, www.Xlibris.com
2001 ISBN 1-4010-3766-6 Buy
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Maserton, Graham, Wild Sex for New
Lovers. First night fever. Every new relationship has a
learning period, where you and your partner each figure out what
the other enjoys, and how to make sex the best experience for you
both. With this book, the author, who has published fourteen sex
manuals, shows you how to get the ultimate pleasure from each
encounter - and leave your partner begging for more! In
the pages of this uninhibited guide, you'll find seductive secrets
of how to behave in bed - and out of it - to start off right and
keep the sex hot! Real women and men share their own
experiences in titillating tales of their first times - and the
sexual techniques that made all the difference. In a new
relationship, anything can happen. Set the stage for a night of
mind-blowing passion that will leave you both coming back for
more. Signet, www.penguinputnam.com
2001, ISBN 0-451-20227-9 Buy
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Moore, Thomas, The Soul of
Sex: Cultivating life as an act of love. We have a habit
of talking about sex as merely physical and yet nothing has more
soul. Sex takes us into a world of intense passions, sensual
touch, exciting fantasies, many levels of meaning and subtle
emotions. It makes the imagination come alive with fantasy,
reverie and memory. Even if the sex is loveless, empty or
manipulative, still it has strong repercussions in the soul, and
even a bad sexual experience leaves a lasting, haunting
impression. Here the author explores sex from the soul's point of
view, revealing its profound humanity and connecting it to the
rest of life. It speaks to the ordinary individual and couple
looking for deeper meaning and sensuality in all areas of their
lives. He uses mythology, literature, and religion as he discusses
a wide and provocative range of sexual issues, including sexual
fantasy, erotic dreams, the body, hair and cosmetics, the sex
organs, sexual comedy, chastity and purity, the sensuous life, sex
in the workplace, marital sex, homosexuality, pornography, and sex
in myth. HarperCollins www.HarperCollins.com
1998 ISBN 0-06-018697-6 Buy
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Muscio,
Inga, Cunt: A declaration of independence. An
ancient title of respect for women, the word "cunt" long ago
veered off this noble path. The author traces the road from honor
to expletive, giving women the motivation and tools to claim
"cunt" as a positive and powerful force in their lives. With humor
and candor, she shares her own history as she explores the
cultural forces that influence women's relationships with their
bodies. Sending out a clal for every woman to be the Cuntlovin'
Ruler of Her Sexual Universe, the author stands convention on its
head by embracing all things cunt-realated. (Good companion to
The Vagina Monologues.) Seal Press,
www.sealpress.com 1998
ISBN 1-58005-015-8 Buy
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Olsen, Erik, designer of Position of the
Day: Sex every day in every way. DO try this at home. And
this time, keep a record. From the creators of Position of the
Day comes a titillating new playbook that illustrates 365
mind- (and body--) bending sexual positions, one for each day of
the year. Find out the answers to questions like: Just how
many calories does a woman expend in "The Tootsie Roll"? Do
any positions work better with equipment - say a six-pack and a
helmet? Are there any possible hazards (leg cramp,
lawsuit)? Remember, a position a day keeps the love doctor
away. Chronicle Books, www.chroniclebooks.com,
2005, ISBN 0-8118-4701-2 
O'Reilly, Sean Joseph, How to Manage Your
Dick* (Destructive Impulses with Cyber
Kinetics): Redirect sexual energy and discover your more
spiritually enlightened, evolved self. This is one of the most
unusual concepts you may ever encounter. It is also one of the
most important. This is the book that might have saved Bill
Clinton and Gary Condit from personal and political chaos. The
author presents ideas about energy, moral development, and sexual
management that will revolutionize your life. Our society
emphasizes concepts like time and resource management, but for the
most part ignores one very importnat kind of
management: DICK Managment. An ecology of persoanl
energy use that studies destructive, testosterone-driven impulses
from the perspective of metaphysics and science, it is a new
discipline that will teach you how to redirect your sexual energy
and discover your more spiritually enlightened, dimensionally
evolved self. This is an extraordinary new guide to the soul. It's
about finding your own personal life ethic - not just saying "no"
or suppressing your desires but rather about saying "yes" to
something larger than the tunnel vision of the Cyclops in your
pants. Auriga Publishing Group, Ten Speed Press, www.dickmanagement.com,
2001, ISBN 158008350-1, Buy
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Panati, Charles, Sexy Origins and Intimate
Things: The rites and rituals of straights, gays, bi's,
drags, trans, virgins and others. Who invented the
condom? Has there ever been a gay pope? What is
history's first love poem? Why do men have nipples? How
did "drag" come to mean cross-dressing? Who was the
first prostitute? At what age does a man's penis stop
growing? Do female animals have orgasms? How long have
people been giving the finger? From the lascivious to the
romantic, from the hard-core to the scientific, this engaging
compendium of little-known facts about sex is both informational
and endlessly entertaining. Employing the same careful research
that made his Extraordinary Origins of Everyday Things a
bestseller, the author explores hundreds of racy and
"unmentionable" subjects, including words, practices, and taboos.
Obsessed with getting to the root of things, he reveals facts that
will surprise even the most informed reader. This titillating
collection is as provocative and stimulating as its subject
matter. Penguin Book www.penguin.com
1998 ISBN 0-14-027144-9 Buy
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Patton, Cindy, Fatal Advice: How safe-sex education
went wrong. The American public responded to the first cases
of AIDS with fear and panic. Both policy makers and activists
were concerned not only with stopping the spread of the disease,
but also with guiding the public's response toward those already
infected. This is an examination of how the nation attempted, with
mixed results, to negotiate the fears and concerns brought on by
the epidemic. A leading writer on the cultural politics of AIDS,
she guides us through the thicker of mass-media productions,
policy and public health enterprises, and activists projects as
they sprang up to meet the challenge on the epidemic, shaping the
nation's notion of what safe-sex is and who ought to know what
about it. There is the official story, and then there is another,
involving local groups and AIDS activists. Going back to
early government and activist attempts to spread information, she
traces a slow separation between official advice and that provided
by those on the front lines in the battle against aids. She shows
how American anxieties about teen sex played into the nation's
inadequate education and protection of its young people and
chronicles the media's attempts to encourage compassion without
broaching the touchy subject of sex or disrupting the notion that
AIDS was a disease of social and sexual outcasts. Her
overview of the relationship between shifting medical perceptions
and safe-sex advice reveals why radical safe-sex educators
eventually turned to sexually explicit, including pornographic,
representations to spread their message - and why even these
extreme tactics could not overcome the misguided national teaching
on AIDS. She closes with a stirring manifesto, an urgent cal to
action for all those who do not want to see the hard lessons of
AIDS education and activism wasted, or, with these lessons,
the loss of so many more lives. Duke University Press, 1996
ISBN 0-8223-1747-8 Buy
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Peterkin, A.D., editor, The Bald-Headed
Hermit & The Artichoke: An erotic thesaurus. In
many cultures, sexuality has been a taboo topic for centuries; we
are obsessed by it, repulsed by it, and endlessly fascinated by
it. As a result, thousands of sex-related phrases and words in the
English language - ranging from the polite and the poetic to the
explicit and the offensive - have been invented over the years.
This is a unique guide to the lingo of sex, compiling over 15,000
terms relating to all aspects of human sexuality, from breasts and
penises to fetishes, paraphernalia, and specific erotic practices.
Taken from American, British, and Canadian sources, they offer
varied and "imaginative" interpretations of sexual experience that
are alternately literary, humourous, and shocking, while providing
unusual insight into how western culture views sexual pleasure.
This offbeat thesaurus also documents how previously silent sexual
communities, including gays, lesbians, and various fetishists and
libertines, have challenged attitudes towards sexual expression,
and continue to change the very language of sex. Arsenal Pulp
Press, 1999 ISBN 1-55152-063-X Buy
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Picozzi, Michele, Controlling Herpes
Naturally: A Holistic Approach to Prevention and Treatment.
Southpaw Press, 1997, ISBN: 0965860000 Buy
this book!
Pogany, Susan Browning, Sex
Smart: 501 reasons to hold off on sex. When it comes to
teen sex, teenagers and their parents often don't see eye to eye.
Parents may skirt the subject of sex with dread and anxiety, while
teens wonder what all the alarm is about. When parents do talk to
their kids about not having sex, teenagers may act like they're
tired of hearing the same old lectures. Yet teens are still
nervous about getting in over their heads when it comes to sex and
relationships. How can parents and teenagers come closer to
understanding each other's point of view? Teenagers see sex
as part of their independence, their times and their rights. When
adults urge them to wait, their first thought may be, "What do
they know about my life, my generation, and my
relationships? Why shouldn't kids our age be enjoying
sex? We see it on TV, in the movies, in ads -
Everywhere! We're nearly grown up. We can handle it. So
what's the big deal? This book is designed for teenagers who
aren't afraid to learn about the realities of teen sex and to read
what other young people have to say about their experiences. The
book was created to help teens understand what their parents are
trying to tell them when they say, "Sex IS a big
deal." This book is for parents who don't want to be
confused or silent about sex any longer. It can help them advise
their kids about a host of sexual issues. Fairview Press,
www.press.fairview.org
1998 ISBN 1-57749-043-6 Buy
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Posner, Richard A. and Katharine B. Dilbaugh,
A Guide to America's Sex Laws. The first concise
compendium, this book summarizes the laws regulating personal
sexual activity. In doing so, it reveals gaps, anachronisms,
anomalies, inequalities, and irrationalities, and provides an
empirical basis for studies of sexual regulation. The authors
cover broadly defined areas of regulation, provide background and
definitions and place the laws in their historical and
constitutional context. University of Chicago Press, 1998,
ISBN 0-226-67565-3 
Radakovich, Anka, Sexplorations:
Journeys to the Erogenous Frontier. Well, she's on the road
again and if the sign promises sex, she'll stop. Nudist colonies,
orgies, Vegas - it's all part of the sexual subterrain. It may not
be pretty, but with Anka taking your there, it's exciting and very
funny. Written in the same signature style that has made her
column in the thirty-something newsstand magazine Details, this
book goes on a hilarious trip through the sometimes lunar-like
sexual landscape of America. There's no better guide to lead us
into the virginal terrain of the erogenous frontier than Anka.
Crown www.randomhouse.com
1997 Buy
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Richardson, Justin & Mark A.
Schuster, Everything You Never Wanted Your Kids to Know About
Sex (but were afriad they'd ask) The secrets to surviving your
child's sexual development from birth to the teens. If you've ever
tried to tell your six-year-old how babies are made or your
fourteen-year-old how condoms work, you know that grappling with
telling your kids about sex can be a sweat-drenched exercise. But
it doesn't have to be. This book is a one-of-a-kind survival guide
that will help you stay sane through every stage of your child's
sexual development. After interviewing scores of parents and
analyzing decades of scientific research, two nationally
respected, Harvard-trained physicians share their expertise in
this brilliantly insightful, practical and hilarious book that has
fast become the leading resource for parents of toddlers to teens.
Three Rivers Press, www.crownpulishging.com,
2003, ISBN 1-4000-5128-2 
Roszak, Betty,
Masculine/Feminine: Readings in sexual mythology & the
liberation of women. The book starts in the forward with one
of the best readings on women and men avaiable anywhere. "He is
playing masculine. She is playing feminine. He is playing
masculine because she is playing feminine. She is playing feminine
because he is playing masculine." And if goes on, a skillful piece
of writing on how much of the game is still played today, over 30
years after this book was printed. It's worth scouring used books
stores, just for that piece. It all boils down to "How do we call
off the game." "I'll stop when you do." Right. Harper Colophon,
1969
Ryan, George, Reclaiming Male
Sexuality: A guide to potency, vitality and prowess.
If you have been told impotence is "all in your mind," you owe
yourself a second opinion. Generally the cause is physical and
nearly all cases can be cured. This is the only book that helps
the reader choose the treatment most appropriate to his case. This
book is based on the latest research on conventional medical
treatements, holistic treatments, nutritional and herbal remedies,
and lifestle and attitude modifications. It brings these new cures
into the open. Men who try to deny their impotence problems lose
big, because cures are so readily available today. After reading
this book, no one will feel dumb and helpless in the doctor's
office. No man should have to give up sexual performance against
his will, and this book gives every man hope and concrete
solutions. M Evans & Co, 1997,
ISBN 0-87131-809-1 Buy
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Sacks,
Stephen L., The Truth About Herpes. Soules, Gordon Book
Publishers, Ltd., 1997 ISBN: 0919574661 Buy
This Book!
Schnarch, David, Passionate Marriage. The greatest sexual
pleasure and emotional fulfillment in a person's lifetime is
possible in the middle and later years when they have developed a
mature sense of self and found genuine intimacy with another
person. That's the exciting message of this daring and pioneering
work that challenges couples to work together on the sexual and
emotional blocks that hold them back from total satisfaction with
each other. In a respectful, erotic, uplifting and spiritual guide
dedicated to making love and intimacy a reality for every couple.
It is a book to read and reread for inspiration and enlightenment.
Henry Holt www.passionatemarriage.com
or an excerpt from the book at www.fsbassociates.com/books2/passionatemarriage.htm
1998 Buy
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Scott, George Ryley, Phallic Worshop: A history of
sex & sexual rites. The author's introduction to this
fascinating and provocative work opens with a singularly bold
contention: 'The study of phallicism is the study of
religion. In this lies its importance.' Phallic workshop as a
sensual, ritualistic celebration of fertility was almost totally
banished from our lives by the strictures of Christian moralism.
The silence that followed prevented popular understanding of the
very natural and widespread religious impulse. This exciting work
returns sexual cults to the central position they once occupied in
many of the world's great religions. The author vigorously argues
for the importance of phallicism throughout history and across
cultures, from the cult of Priapus in classical times, through
witchcraft and paganism in early Europe to the sensual religions
of the East. Superbly illustrated, this is of interest to
sociologists fascinated by the history of sex. Senate, Random
House, 1966 ISBN 1 85958-195-1
Shalit, Wendy, A Return to
Modesty: Discovering the lost virtue. Where once a
young woman had to be ashamed of her sexual experience, today she
is ashamed of her sexual inexperience. Where not long ago an
unmarried woman was ashamed to give publish evidence of sexual
desire by living with someone, today she must be ashamed to give
evidence of romantic desire. From sex education in grade school to
coed bathrooms in college, today's young woman is being pressured
relentlessly to overcome her embarrassment, her "hang-ups", and
especially her romantic hopes. Meanwhile, the problems young women
struggle with grow steadily more extreme from sexual harassment,
stalking and date rape to anorexia and self-mutilatoin. Both men
and women endlessly lament the loss of privacy and of real
intimacy. What is it all about? Beholden niether to
conservatives who discount as exaggeration the dangers facing
young women, nor to feminists who steadfastly affix blame on the
patriarchy, the author proposes that, in fact, we have lost our
respect for an important classical virtue - that of sexual
modesty. From seventeenth-century manners guides to Antonio
Canova's sculpture, Venus Italica, to Frank Loesser's 1948 tune,
"Baby, It's Cold Outside", this book unfolds like a detective's
search for a lost idea as the author uncovers opinions about this
lost virtue's importance, from Balzac to Simone de Beauvoir, that
have not been aired for decades. Then she knocks down the
accompanying myths one by one. Female modesty is not about a
"sexual double standard," as is often thought, but is related to
male virtue and honor. Modesty is not a social construct, but a
natural response. And modesty is not prudery, but a way to
preserve a sense of the erotic in our lives. With humor and
piercing insight, she invites us to look beyond the blush and
consider the new power to be found in an old ideal. She maintains
that the sex education curriculum forced on those of her
generation from an early age is fundamentally flawed, centered as
it is on overcoming reticence - what we today call :hang-ups". She
surprisingly and persuasively argues that without these misnamed
hang-ups there can be no true surrender, no richess and depth to
relations between the sexes. The natural inclination toward
modesty is not a hang-up that we should set out to cure, but
rather a wonderful instinct that, if rediscovered and given the
right social support, has the power to transform society. Free
Press www.SimonSays.com1999
ISBN 0-684-84316-1 Buy
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Shapiro,Eugene, Upright Man. Finally,
a book that treats the penis with the respect it deserves. The
Upright Man: Knows who's in charge. Has thrown off the
fig leaf. Has conquered the threat of impotence. Knows he can
always get it up. Is conscious of the power of his penis. Is
reshaping his attitude and what it means to be a man. Upright Man
reconnects man to the power of his penis. Pir Press, 1999,
www.uprightman.com
ISBN 0-9677496-0-3 Buy
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Spadola, Meema,
Breasts: Our most public private parts. Why a book about
breasts? More than just another body part, breasts are
symbols of sexuality, motherhood and power. They are
simultaneously romaticized and taboo, workshipped and exploited.
Yet, despite their notoriety, women rarely talk about them. For
the first time we hear why women love them, loathe them, flaunt
them, hide them, compare them, and sometimes alter them. From
embarrassed early bloomers to the vice-president of the
"Itty-Bitty-Titty Committee", surgeons to strippers, mothers to
daughters, breast cancer survivors to lingerie professionals,
teachers to housewives - this book reveals what women really feel
about their breasts. Candid, hilarious, sad, and sexy, this book
is an invitation for women to talk honestly about their experience
and ultimately accept their own breasts. Meema is an award-winning
producer, director and writer of film, tv and radio and produced a
documentary film by the same name. Also see POV about Breasts
and books on breasts by Carolym Latteier
and Marilyn Yalom. circulus@aol.com
Also on video from HBO Home Video, $14.95
ISBN 0-7831-1235-1 800.367.7765. Wildcat Canyon Press, 1998
ISBN 1-885171-27-7 Buy
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Steinberg, David, Erotic by
Nature: A celebration of life, of love & of our
wonderful bodies. This book is the author's response to
pornography - a collection of erotic material, addressed to both
women and men, that is not only arousing but also honest,
intimate, playful and full of emotional warmth. Rejecting the
notion that sexual infatuation need be sordid, the author has
assembled an imaginative volume of visual and written erotica that
celebrates "the incredible potential sex has to bring us deep joy,
wonder, intimacy, growth and wisdom." Drawing on the work of
36 women and 25 men, aged 30 to 73, who openly and sensitively
evoke the mystery and magic of sex, his book presents a wide range
of erotic perspectives that take the reader from the sensual to
the sexual, from the familiar to the novel, from the conventional
to the daring, from lighthearted play to the deepest aspects of
personal identity and interpersonal connection. By extolling the
goodness, sanctity and wholesome power of eroticism in our lives,
this book calls us to move beyond both pornography and the sexual
inhibitions of conventional art forms in order to welcome and
explore the best of our erotic selves. Shakti Press, 1988,
ISBN 0-933211-03-1 Buy
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Column.)
Steinberg, David, Erotic
Impulse: Honoring the Sensual Self. This book is a feast
of thoughts, feelings, findings and fantasies about our erotic
nature. It draws on the insights of therapists, sexuality
teachers, and advocates and the wisdom of great writers and
poets.. This provocative collection examines how society denies
and dishonors the generative and healing power of Eros that may
cause widespread feelings of fear, isolation and inadequacy.
Together, the contributors seek to break the reader out of the
prison of cultural stereotypes, opening the gates to a richer,
more satisfying erotic life. It offers a liberating vision of
human sexual potential for those who seek to expand and deepen
this everfascinating area of life. Tarcher, www.penguinputnam.com,
1992, ISBN 0-87477-697-X Buy
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Column.)
Steinberg, David, editor, Photo
Sex: Fine art sexual photography comes of age. This
book is a ground-cutting overview of the wonderful, artful sexual
images being produced by dozens of skilled and thoughtful
photographers -- photographs that are not afraid to focus on sex
directly, and that give us opportunities to look at and think
about sex far beyond the well-worn perspectives of commercial
pornography. In the words of the publisher, this book "provides a
stunning sampler of the range of activities that individuals
consider sexual, and a survey of the styles and perspectives that
different sexual photographers bring to their work, and a stunning
testament that all sorts of 'ordinary' people are truly sexy and
sexual." If you think the ideas of fine art and sexual photography
are incompatible, tghis book will change both the way you think
about photography and the way you think about sex. Down There
Press, www.goodvibes.com,
2003, ISBN 0-949298-32-6 Buy
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Column.)
Stolar, Mark, Viagra
& You: New treatments for potency and sexual
health. It's been called a "miracle drug" that promises to
restore potency and vitality to the sex lives of countless
couples. With strong and growing sales, this new treatment has
made it clear that in many, if not most cases, sexual difficulties
aren't "all in your head". This sensible guide discussees the new
"potency prescription" - and explores issues such as: How it
works, cautions, potential side effects and other practical
concerns, looking closely at alternative treatments, teaming up
with the right doctor, achieving and maintaining sexual health,
making Viagra part of a loving realtionship. CMB Publishing
www.penguinputnam.com
1999 ISBN 0-425-16802-6 Buy
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Stubbs, Kenneth Ray, editor Women of the
Light: The new sexual healers.This work consists of a
series of revealing, compelling essays written by women in various
professions dealing with sexuality. Perhaps the most telling essay
concerning our culture is the one by a woman who became a sexual
surrogate many years ago, when the idea was just being defined.
This is an incredible account of the modern history of loneliness
and the fight against narrow-mindedness. Fascinating and highly
readable, it makes the convincing case that sexwork (that rather
euphemistic job category covering everyone from strippers and call
girls to sex surrogates and full-service masseuses) can be a
source of sexual healing, psychological growth, and spiritual
awareness. The nine women who tell their stories recount numerous
touching incidents...Entering into temporary intimate encounters,
while keeping the full humanity of themselves and their clients
intact, these women embody the ancient role of the sacred
prostitute, harking back to early Goddess workshop, when sex was
part of religious observance. Secret Garden, 1997
ISBN 0-939263-12-2 Buy
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Szuchman, Lenore & Frank
Muscarella, Psychological Perspectives on Human Sexuality.
This book offers a comprehensive and much-needed empirical
examination of human sexuality. It is the first book in the field
to speak to the needs of both the social scientist and the mental
health professional. This important work also provides a complete
scientific survey of the latest research along with guidance for
its application to clinical practice. The book encapsulates the
state of the art in research in such new subjects as genital
surgery on children and Internet sex, as well as the most current
approaches to such traditional topics a sexual orientation and
gender/transgender issues. Topics include male and female
sexuality, sexual fantasy and erotica/pornography, disabled sexual
partners, older adult sexuality, HIV/AIDS and sexuality,
paraphilias, the aftermath of child sexual abuse, rape and sexual
aggression and therapists' sexual misconduct. John Wiley
& Sons, 2000 permreq@wiley.com
ISBN 0-471-24405-8 Buy
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Tanenbaum, Leora, Slut! Growing up female with a bad
reputation. This is a groundbreaking account of the lives of
young women who stand up to the destructive power of name-calling
- written by one of the rising young talents of journalism today.
This book seamlessly weaves together three narative
threads: powerful oral histories from an impressive and
diverse group of girls and women who tell us their stories and how
they finally overcame sexual labelling; the author's own
fascinating story; and her cogent analysis of the underlying
problem of sexual stereotyping. A girl may be labeled a slut or ho
for any number of reasons, including expressions of sexuality, but
also for nonsexual expressions of independennce or openness, or
because she was raped. The author herself was labeled a slut in
high school. The confessional article she wrote about the
experience caused a sensation after it was published in
Seventeen (it was ranked the No. 1 story for that issue in
a readers' poll) and led her to write this book. Seven Stories
Press, www.sevenstories.com
Hard Bound 1999 ISBN 1-888363-94-0 Buy
This Book! Soft Bound Perennial, www.harpercollins.com,
2000,, ISBN 0-06-095740-9 Buy
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Tan, Cecilia, ed SexMagick2: Men conjuring
erotic fantasy. These are erotic fantasies of the most
powerful kind, stories in which the power of sexual love
transforms and renews. Bringing rain to a parched earth, healing
an injured soul, birthing a new sun for a dying planet, driving
out evil spirits - in the erotic visions of these talented
authors, all these things are possible and much more. Circlet
Press www.circlet.com/circlet/home.html
or circlet-info@circlet.com
1997 Buy
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Taylor, Gary, Castration: An
abbreviated history of Western manhood. Stone Age man invented
it, the Sumerians exalted it, the Christians banned it, and Freud
got it wrong. Over the last century, castration has meant loss of
manhood. But at earlier points in Western history, the author
argues, it was a mark of power and divinity. This book is a lively
history of the meaning, function, and act of castration from its
place in the words of Jesus in the Gospel According to Matthew and
the early Church - where Augustine and the Fathers shaped the
basic philosophic concepts of sexuality and chastity - to its
secular reinvention in the Renaissance and its twentieth-century
position at the core of psychoanalysis. With wit and insight, he
connects castration to the ancient (and continuing) human drive to
re-engineer our own biology. In the medieval love story of Abelard
and Heloise a violent castration makes Abelard a better
theologian. In the year 2000 a sterile but otherwise functioning
man is a boon to the woman who desires sex without the burdens of
pregnancy. Clever, offbeat, and learned, ranging from allegory to
zooarchaeology, the book turns an unusual and discomforting topic
into a thoroughly enjoyable narrative on man's obsessive
relationship to his genitals, his sexuality, and his manhood.
Routledge, www.routledge-ny.com
2000 ISBN 0-415-92785-4 Buy
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Taylor, Timothy, The Prehistory of
Sex: Four million years of human sexual culture. In an
effort to unravel the mysteries of human sexuality, the author
paints a dramatic and startling picture of our sexual evolution
from its beginning four million years ago to modern times. He
draws on recent archaeological discoveries to trace practices such
as contraception, homosexuality, transsexuality, prostitution,
sadomasochism, and bestiality from their ancient origins to today.
How has human sexuality changed - and how has it remained the same
- over the span of millions of years? How did the ideas
of eroticism, ecstasy, immortality, and beauty become linked to
sex? He explores these questions and demonstrates how
our sexual politics - issues of gender, power, control and
exploitation - are deeply rooted in our prehistory. One of the
most illuminating and controversial books on human sexuaity ever
written, this book invites readers to become voyeurs into the
bizarre - and so far hidden - prehistoric sexual world. Bantam
Books 1997 ISBN 0-553-37527-X Buy
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Underwood, Eleanor, The Life of a
Geisha. The mysterious milieu of Japan's treasured geisha -
with her stylized makeup, elaborate coiffure, elegant kimono, and
artful, coquettish manner - has long fascinated observers around
the globe. With gorgeous illustrations and a lively text, this
book explores the world of geisha, from their early predecessors
in the seventh century to modern geisha today. Beautiful ukiyo-e
woodblock prints by Japanese masters Hiroshige, Toshitoshi,
Kunisada and others reveal the special geisha spirit, or iki, that
brought forth the popular rise of geisha. Geisha songs, haiku, and
senryu (satirical Edo-period verse) accompany enchanting images of
geisha in various stages of development - from skikomi or
indentured servant, to maiko or apprentice geisha - to portray the
unique realm of these female artist-entertainers who gained
full-fledged geisha status only after years of shamisen-playing
and other lessons. Antique photographs from the late nineteenth
century as well as vintage postcards and posters offer a glimpse
into this singular Japanese subculture that was little know in the
years before World War II, while stunning art photography from the
mid-1940s to today illustrates geisha's contemporary role as
beloved standard-bearers of traditional arts. This lovely volume
fully illuminates the seductive geisha world, offering a look
"behind the scenes" into the life and times of this chastely
beguiling female icon who has captivated Japan's most powerful men
for over 200 years. Smithmark Publishers, 1999
ISBN 0-7651-1739-8 Buy
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Vaughan, Susan, Viagra: A guide
to the phenomenal potency - promoting drug. As revolutionary
as "the pill" and more controversial than Prozac,
potency-promoting Viagra has quickly become the most successfully
launched drug in pharmaceutical history. Since its FDA approval,
the oral medication has proven nearly 80 percent effective -
reviving the sex lives of hundreds of thousands of couples, while
finally bringing the age-old problem of erectile dysfunction out
from under the covers. Here the author clearly explains the full
potential of America's favorite new drug - and its possible
ramifications. Pocket Books www.simonsays.com
1998 ISBN 0-671-02733-6 Buy
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Walkerdine,
Valerie, Daddy's Girl: Young girls and popular
culture. When she's itty, bitty and blond, wearing ribbons and
curls and an aura of money, she's adorable and vulnerable, the
tiny, innocent heart of our culture. But when the little girl
comes from the working class, she's something else. Just what, and
why so little is said about it, are the questions the author asks
in this book, a book about how we see young girls, how they see
themselves, and how popular culture mediates the view. The
author's challenge to certain feminist conceptions of today's
problems is both refreshingly iconoclastic and worth considering.
She provides a provocative historical analysis of the portrayal of
girls. She also offers her view of the implications of television,
where young girls, primarily working-class girls, dress up like
adult women rock stars and gyrate provacatively while they sing
pop songs full of sexual innuendos. Harvard University Press, 1998
ISBN 067418601X Buy
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Weider, Joe and John & Beth Tomkiw,
Total Sex: Complete guide to everything men need to know
and want to know about sex. Straight from the mouths of world
renowned cliniciams...sex therapists...and even the guy next
door...comes the most authoritative, up-close-and-personal guide
to the "quest for great sex" ever written. Written under the
auspices of Men's Fitness magazine, this all-inclusive,
fully illustrated sourcebook contains everything from general
anatomy, physiology and chemistry to the low-down on sexually
transmitted diseases, what to expect at your age, to the wilder
side of sexual ecstasy. What's more, it's so fact-packed with
eye-opening surveys, ratings, personal expeirences, sexbits, and
he/she points of view that you'll be hard-pressed to put this book
down to actually have sex. HarperResource Book www.harpercollins.com
1999 ISBN 0-06-273629-9 Buy
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Williams, Miriam, Heaven's
Harlots: My fifteen years in a sex cult. This is an
explosive first-person account by a young woman who spent fifteen
years in a sex cult that encouraged "sacred prostitution" and the
idea that "God is our pimp." Like so many children of the
1960s, she was an idealist who just wanted to belong; so when a
Jesus person invited her to live with "God's family" in upstate
New York, seventeen-year-old Miriam left her home in Lancaster,
PA, got on a bus, and never looked back. In this compelling,
cautionary tale of a spiritual odyssey gone haywire, she shares
her extraordinary existence as a holy whore and the daunting
experience of rebulding a normal life. After her escape from the
cult, she helped establish a web site, www.excognet.com,
dedicated to helping former cult members cope with life on "the
outside." She makes her home in the South. Eagle Book, 1998,
ISBN 0-688-17012-9 Buy
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Williams, Warwick, Rekindling Desire: Bringing your
sexual relationships back to life, New Harbinger, 1988
Witberg, Annalise, illustrations by Ann
Field, Hot & Steamy Erotic Baths for Two, Soapdish
Edition, waterproof. Make a splash with a book for the
bath! Designed to fit in your soap dish, this waterproof book
is filled with enticing ideas for heating up your next bath a
deux. Discover erotic edibles, sensuous scents, and how to seduce
while you soak! Chronicle Books, www.chroniclebooks.com
2000 ISBN 0-8118-2969-3 Buy
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Wolf, Naomi,
Promiscuities: The secret struggle for womanhood. In
this provacative and highly personal book, the author explores a
subject that has long been taboo in our society: women's sexual
coming-of-age. It brazenly exposes the truths behind the
conflicting messages directed at young women during and after the
sexual revolution. Drawing on surprising examples from the ancient
and recent past, along with vivid recollections of her own youth,
the author shows how our "Liberated" culture still fears and
distorts female passion. She also shares fascinating true stories
that illustrate the fantasies and sometimes overwhelming realities
women pass through on their way toward erotic and emotional
discovery. A landmakr book, it is a call to women of all ages to
reclaim and celebrate their sexuality. Fawcett Culumbine www.randomhouse.com
1998 ISBN 0-449-90764-3 Buy
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Wyatt, Gail Elizabeth and Lewis. No More
Clueless Sex: Ten secrets to a sex life that works for both
of you. Has sex disappointed you recently? Do you and
your partner repeat the same sex script over and over
again? Do you fake orgasms? Do you or your partner need
alcohol, videos, or other aids to make sex easier or more
exciting? If you said yes to any of these questions, you may
be surprised to discover that no matter how much experience you've
had in bed, you're still clueless about sex. The authors challenge
you to learn more and to think differently about sex by exploring
the ten most common sexual patterns that sabotage love. It will
help you learn how to keep self-desctructive patterns from
sabotaging your chances for a gratifying sexual relationship.
Whether you have a lot to learn - or unlearn - about sex, the
authors' customized program will help you achieve greater intimacy
and better relationships, and most important, show you how to
overcome the sexual obstacles that are standing between you and
sexual happiness. Wiley, wiley.com,
2004, ISBN 0-471-19485-9 
Yalom,
Marilyn, A History of the Breast. In this provacative,
pioneering, and wholly engrossing cultural history, the book
explores twenty-five thousand years of ideas, images, and
perceptions of the female breast - in religion, psychology,
politics, society and the arts. Through the centuries, the breast
has been laden with hugely powerful and contradictory meanings.
There is the "good breast" of reverence and life, the breast that
nourishes infants and entire communities, as depicted in ancient
idols, fifteenth-century Italian Madonnas, and representations of
equality in the French Revolution. Then there is the "bad breast"
of Ezekiel's wanton harlots, Shakespeare's Lady Macbeth, and the
torpedo-breasted dominatrix, symbolizing enticement and
aggression. The author examines these contradictions and
illuminates the implications behind them. A fascinating, astute,
and richly allusive journey from Paleolithic goddesses to
modern-day feminists, this is full of insight and surprises. The
author says, "I intend to make you think about women's breasts as
you never have before." In this, she succeeds
brilliantly. www.randomhouse.com
Also see POV about Breasts
and books on breasts by Carolym Latteier
and Meema Spadola. Ballantine, 1998,
ISBN 0-345-38894-1 Buy
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Zoldbrod, Aline, Sex Smart: How your
childhood shaped your sexual life and what to do about it. A
wonderfully written, clear account of the many factors that shape
the influence our sexual selves. Unlike most self-help books which
focus on aspects of sexual performance, the author takes a broad,
