|
The Accident We Had On Christmas Night
The car accident we had last night could have been
worse and we're certainly glad it wasn't.
In thinking about what happened and this
newsletter, we don't mean to "rock" your idea of
relationships and life but...
We're believers in the idea that everything that
happens in our relationships and lives happens for
a reason and that in almost every case, this reason
is to help us to heal, to learn and to grow as we
move toward being our best selves.
In our opinion, this "growth" that seems to
happen, whether we invite it or not or find it easy
or a struggle, is essential in helping us to create
more joy and happiness in each present moment.
Last night, as we were driving home from a
holiday celebration at Otto's parent's house (about
a two hour's drive from where we live), a very
large deer ran in front of our car and we hit it.
Hard.
The accident could have been much worse than it
was and we were grateful that we weren't hurt. We
could continue driving the car, although the damage
to the right side was considerable.
What we discovered is that this "jolt" from the
deer running into our car pulled us rather abruptly
from our thoughts of all the things that had gone
on throughout the past few days into what was
happening in the present moment.
Our focus had to change to dealing with the
present circumstances, like assessing the damage to
the car and reporting the accident to the State
Highway patrol.
We had to quit the "I wish I had..." or "Why did
I..." thoughts of what happened in the past and
just focus on what we needed to do in the present
moment.
Think about how valuable this change of focus
would be for you to do (without the accident),
especially at this time as you approach the
beginning of a new year
You, we and in fact all of us can let go of the
thoughts that have held us back.
Thoughts like guilt, blame, judgment and
anything else that limits us and our
relationships--and focus on what is possible and
what we want in this coming new year.
Whether you consciously create new year's
resolutions or not, if you're like most people, as
the new year approaches, you have thoughts of what
you want either more of or less of in the coming
year.
In order to create more vibrant, alive, loving
relationships and to live a better life, we suggest
that you take a few moments to think about what you
want.
Here are a few ideas to help you do that and to
be more successful in keeping your new year's
resolutions...
1. Go beyond your edge.
The good stuff in our relationships and our
lives always gets created and happens "beyond your
edge" of what is comfortable.
What was once difficult is now easy (or at least
easier.) This is called by many names but in
essence what we're talking about is expanding your
comfort zone or "norm."
2. Don't bite off more than you can chew.
This might seem like a contradiction considering
what we just said about going beyond your edge. But
it isn't.
Choose one relationship or one area of your life
that you would like to improve.
It may be a truly troubled relationship with
someone close to you or it might be that you want a
closer connection with your partner in a
relationship that's already good.
It might be that you want to spend more time
with your family or work more efficiently at your
job or even to find a job that will be more in
alignment with what you want.
Whatever it is, make a conscious choice to
improve that relationship or area of your life in
this coming year.
3. Choose one thing that you could do on a
consistent basis that would make a difference in
this relationship or in this area of your life.
It might be to focus more on what you appreciate
or love about this person instead of what has
happened in the past.
It might be to spend more time interacting with
this person instead of watching television or
cruising the internet.
It might be to just listen to what this person
needs to tell you and you say what you need to
say--from your heart.
It might be to take one step--like doing some
research--about a job that you think you might
like.
It might be to forgive yourself or someone else
for what happened in the past.
4. Stay in the present moment and don't allow
yourself to "live" in the past. Keep moving toward
your goal and what you want more of in your life
instead of what you don't want.
Worry, blame, judgment, control, sarcasm, fear
will only keep you stuck in what "has been."
Choose to create something new and maybe even
wonderful by focusing on what you can do right now
in this present moment instead of dwelling on what
you wish had happened or not happened in the
past.
If we all choose to do this, perhaps we won't
need a "jolt" (like hitting a deer) to bring us
into creating what we want in our present.
©2008, Susie
& Otto Collins
Other Relationship Issues,
Books
Susie
and Otto Collins are spiritual and life partners
who are committed to helping others create
outstanding relationships of all kinds. They
regularly write, speak and conduct workshops and
seminars on love, relationships and personal and
spiritual growth to audiences all across the USA.
They are the creators of the "Relationship Toolkit"
which has helped people in over a dozen countries
improve their relationships. It includes a video
called Spiritual
Partnerships plus two
booklets Love
and Relationship Success
Secrets and
101
Relationship Quotes Worth a Million
Dollars! You can also
read more articles like these and subscribe to
their weekly newsletter on love and relationships
by visiting their web site at www.collinspartners.com
 Their
new E-book Should You Stay or Should You Go?
has just been released and is now available
www.stayorgo.com
See Archives 2006,
2005,
2004,
2003,
2002
and 2001.
Other Relationship Issues,
Books
Contact
Us |
Disclaimer
| Privacy
Statement
Menstuff®
Directory
Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon
Clay
©1996-2008, Gordon Clay
|
