How To Stop A "Relationship Wreck"...Before
Did you know that couples who stay in love seem to
actually talk to each other differently than
couples who are headed for divorce court?
Not only do these couples talk to each other
differently, but they also use different words than
the rest of us when they talk to each other.
They use "magic words" that seem to help open
their partner instead of shut him or her down.
They use words that keep their partner
interested instead of bored.
In any relationship, what we've found is that
words can wound and words can heal.
We've found that the right words truly can make
all the difference between whether you stay in love
or your relationship becomes a divorce or breakup
That's why we've put together a collection of
the best words you could ever say to your partner
if you want to stay in love or even rebuild a love
that's faded over time.
We call these "Magic Relationship Words."
And if you'd like to have our collection of 101
of these magic words and phrases to help you say it
right with your partner, you can download them
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Question...What if you could know (before it
happened) that a tire on the car you were driving
was about to have a "blowout" that would be so
violent that it caused you to have a wreck?
Would you want to know what was coming before it
happened so you could avoid a potentially dangerous
Of course you would.
But what about your relationship or marriage?
Have you ever said or done something and
instantly you just knew that you had pushed someone
Have you ever been at a loss for why passion
suddenly cooled between the two of you?
Then you may have been using a "passion eraser"
without even knowing it..
Passion erasers cause relationship wrecks and if
you're not familiar with this term...
A passion eraser is anything that you think, say
or do that reduces or eliminates passion and
connection from your relationships and your life.
It can even be a belief that holds you back from
giving or receiving love.
Most of us don't take the time to find out what
our particular passion erasers are.
But what we know is that we all have to stop
using them if we want closer, more connected
relationships and happier lives.
Here are a few example of "Passion
*A passion and connection eraser can be small,
seemingly insignificant things like interrupting
someone consistently while he or she is
*A passion eraser can be much bigger things like
lying or infidelity.
*A passion eraser can be "gotcha," sarcastic
remarks that leave both or you feeling
unappreciated and unloved.
*A passion eraser can even be staying in a job
that you hate that robs you of your enthusiasm and
zest for life.
*A passion eraser can simply be keeping yourself
so busy that you don't have time to connect with
those you love.
*A passion eraser can be automatically pulling
away when your loved one reaches out to hug you,
pull you close, or touch you because you're "too
busy," "too tired," or "too" anything.
*A passion eraser can even be when your partner
gives you a compliment and you deny that it's true
because you don't feel good about yourself.
So here's our question to you...
What's your particular passion eraser? We all
Here are a few suggestions for identifying
1. Pay attention to your feelings. Look at them
as indicators of what's going on inside you that
you may need to listen to. Do you get a sinking
feeling or agitation when you talk about money with
your partner or maybe when you come home from work
and see a messy house?
Pay attention and then begin honestly addressing
what is nagging at you that you may have been
2. Pay attention to your physical symptoms. One
woman wrote to us that she consistently had heart
palpitations and her eye twitched when she went to
If something like this is happening to you, get
checked out by your physician and then take an
honest look at how you are dealing with a work or
What thoughts need to be shifted? What can you
do to ease the stress of your situation? Do you
have unhealthy expectations of yourself or of
3. Begin looking at how you spend your time and
if you are spending your time the way you want
to--that's healthy for you--according to your
values and not someone else's rules.
There's no more powerful passion eraser than
living your life according to someone else's rules
and harboring resentments.
An assessment of your time can help you make a
conscious decision if you want to keep doing what
you are doing.
4. Pay attention to your thoughts and self-talk.
Are you constantly telling yourself negative things
about you or others in your life?
If you listen in and pay attention to your
self-talk, it can certainly be eye-opening.
What we tell ourselves does tend to manifest in
Our advice today to you (and to ourselves) is to
look at what robs you of passion of all types in
your life. Start bringing in more of what brings
you passion for living and see how your happiness
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