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Tiger Woods Talks: Reveals Great Relationship Advice From Wife Elin


If you were to have asked us back on November 27th, when the now infamous Tiger Woods late night car crash happened what we thought the biggest question he and his wife were facing in their relationship, we're not sure it's all that much different from what it is today...

The biggest question they both have been living with is whether to stay in or leave their marriage.

Whether you're Tiger and Elin Woods or any other couple who's living with this question of whether to stay or go--the best resource we know of anywhere for making this decision is our "Should You Stay or Should you Go?" book and audio program. It's been all over the national news and the internet today and in case you missed it...

Today, Tiger Woods broke his silence about his infidelity that's been in the news for the last several months.

Although you may be tired of hearing about his affairs and cheating, what his wife Elin told him is certainly worth paying attention to.

According to Tiger during his message to the world today, his wife Elin told him that his real apology will not come in words but in his behavior over time.

This is very, very good advice for anyone who is dealing with a similar situation.

Elin is essentially saying to Tiger that it's going to take time to prove to her that he is trustable or not!

An apology in words only that is not followed up by trustable actions over time is worthless.

WOW, what a great insight and excellent advice.

Elin's words are also good advice where trust has been violated in other ways.

Recently, we had a message from a woman who told us that she had snooped in her husband's email (he hasn't been cheating on her) and he found out.

She apologized but he lost trust in her.

She realized that because of her suspicions, he wasn't the one who was untrustable--she was.

Now of course, sometimes it does pay to snoop-- there are concrete reasons for your suspicions--but in some cases, it can certainly harm a relationship.

The point is that this woman realized that she had to be DOING certain things (or in her case NOT doing the snooping) to prove that she is trustable.

If there's been cheating, the other relationship (or in Tiger's case, other relationships) has to clearly end before trust can be built.

There have to be clear guidelines as to what being trustable means. If you're the one who has been cheated on, you have to come up with those guidelines. And your partner has to agree to them.

The catch is that if your partner is doing what the two of you have agreed being trustable means, as the one who was cheated on, you have to stop bringing up your pain even though it's more than likely still there and maybe overwhelming at times.

In order to give your relationship a chance, if he or she is DOING instead of simply saying the apology, you have to stop the punishment.

If your world has been totally turned upside down because of infidelity, we know that it's easier said than done to quit punishing your partner or even yourself.

Our advice--Figure out what being trustable means, agree to behaviors that create trust, take it slow and watch what happens.

We don't know about Tiger's and Elin's future together but we do know that trust can be rebuilt if both people want to create the same kind of relationship and future together.

Our best to you,

©2010, Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are spiritual and life partners who are committed to helping others create outstanding relationships of all kinds. They regularly write, speak and conduct workshops and seminars on love, relationships and personal and spiritual growth to audiences all across the USA. They are the creators of the "Relationship Toolkit" which has helped people in over a dozen countries improve their relationships. It includes a video called Spiritual Partnerships plus two booklets Love and Relationship Success Secrets and 101 Relationship Quotes Worth a Million Dollars! You can also read more articles like these and subscribe to their weekly newsletter on love and relationships by visiting their web site at www.collinspartners.com Their new E-book Should You Stay or Should You Go? has just been released and is now available www.stayorgo.com See Archives 2009, 2008, 2007, 2006, 2005, 2004, 2003, 2002 and 2001. Other Relationship Issues, Books



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