Does Terrell Owens Ever Have Trouble with a Girl's Parents?
First Id like to say thank you for the help that you are giving to all of us guys who are having problems with the opposite sex.
Kareena is an Indian girl I work with very closely on my job. I make her laugh, and she touched me several times, but I didnt know how to close because we are from different cultures. (Im African-American, by the way.) I remember that you said to be careful when dating people from different cultures because lots of times the girls parents decide who they want their daughter to end up with.
Well, today I finally did close. I asked for Kareenas home phone number and without hesitation she gave it to me. But as you say, just because you get a womans phone number doesnt mean that she has high Interest Level. It could be that Kareena doesnt know how to say no, and she was just trying to be nice to me because she has to work with me every day.
Now I know that in your book you say to wait a week before calling a girl for a date. But my problem is that I see this young lady just about every day, so how would I go about scheduling a date with her? Also, how can I be a Challenge when I see her so often? One more thing. Should I call her beforehand to find out whether her father will mind her dating someone from a different ethnic background?
Kareena is quiet, which is also a bit of a problem. I know that you say that women help you when they like you. When I talk to her, Kareena is rather reserved, though she does help me some with the conversation. Do you think this is good, or should I be thankful that she isnt always yakking?
Anything you can tell me will help. Thanks.
Biff - who finds himself treading lightly
First of all, I appreciate your compliment. Before we go on to your questions, let me say something. Some guys out there are doing 90% of everything right when it comes to women. Some guys are doing 22% of everything right. And lets just say that some other guys need LOTS of help. Im helping guys at the high end and at the low end, and everybody in between.
And thats the whole idea behind my philosophy. Because unless youve got my principles 100% down or youre in the top 10% of guys, 90% of you fellows need my coaching. Its that simple. Like the great Doctor Freud once said, The divorce rate, the dating habits of women, and the way they brutally reject men back up those numbers.
Now lets move on to the lovely Kareena. Like Ive told you guys so many times before, it doesnt make any difference whether a girl is from Mongolia or Montana because The System cuts across all cultural lines. So all you have to say is Kareena, whats your home phone number? And thats called CLOSING. I dont care if her best friend is standing there, I dont care if her parents are standing there, and I dont care if the King of Bhutan himself is standing there just do it.
What I said about different cultures still stands. To you Psych majors, if a girl was raised Catholic, her parents are going to want to have a Catholic son-in-law. If shes Malaysian, theyll want her to marry a Malaysian. If shes Jewish, theyll want her to marry a Jewish guy. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, Blood is thicker than anything else.
But you did close Kareena, pal. Good for you. And the key phrase, when you went for the number, is without hesitation. Thats even better because it was an indication of Kareenas Interest Level.
You might be right, that she doesnt know how to say no or she was just trying to be nice to you because you have to work together. But like my cousin Fast Eddie Love says, It could also be that shes a Professional Dater with 40% to 49% Interest Level who wants to waste your time and run up your Visa card.
How do you go about scheduling a date with this girl? You do the same thing you should always do. Wait a week before you call her. When you see Kareena during the day, act as if you never asked her out and never went for her home phone number.
And heres how you can be a Challenge to this girl even if you see her all the time: smile when you see her, but let her talk to you first. Hold yourself back. Think of it as an exercise in Self-Control.
You dont have to ask her about her father, dude. Like my cousin Brother Love down in Watts says, She knows if her old man is a bigot or not, right?
So, getting Kareena to talk is like pulling teeth. Like my cousin General Love says, This one doesnt do anything above and beyond the call of duty!
I dont know if its good or bad that this babe is the silent type. But youve gotten way ahead of yourself anyway. You have to call her up, get past her dad, whos a possible blocker, and make sure she shows up at Starbucks. Theyre the essentials here, and the only things you should be worrying about. Next, you have to get nine big dates in with her where you pick her up at her house. After that you worry about the other stuff, like why shes not a chatterbox.
So like my cousin Sal The Fish Love says, Just do what I tell you, Biff, and youll be fine.
Remember, guys: the great thing about The System is that you dont have to think.
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