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July 13 - A power failure strikes New York City (1977) and extensive looting takes place during the 25-hour blackout. A major increase in births is recorded nine months later. * Bon Festival (Japan) when, according to Buddhist belief, the dead revisit Earth. Lanterns are lighted for the souls. Spectacular bonfires in the shape of the character dai are burned on hillsides on the last day of Bon (7/15) or O-Bon Festival, bidding farewell to the spirits. * Night Watch or La Retraite Aux Flambeaua celebrates the eve of the fall of the Bastille. * The Northwest Ordinance went into effect (1787) which guaranteed freedom of worship and the right to trial by jury, and it prohibited slavery. * The World Cup Inaugurated (1930) in Uruguay. *  Birthdays: John French (Jack) Kemp, Harrison Ford, Roger McGuinn (James Joseph McGuinn), Erno Rubik, Michael Spinks, Patrick Stewart, Anthony Jerome (Spud) Webb, Cheech Marin, Nathan Bedford Forrest, John French (Jack) Kemp, Wole Soyinka, David Storey.


Those who truly love, and therefore work for the wisdom that love requires, know that to act is to play God. Yet they also know that there is no alternative except inaction and impotence. Love compels us to play God with full consciousness of the enormity of the fact that that is just what we are doing. We arrive, then, at yet another paradox: only out of the humility of love can humans dare to be God. The Road Less Traveled

It is not possible for one to teach others who cannot teach his own family - Confucius Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

If dandelions were hard to grow, they would be most welcome on any lawn. - Andrew Mason The Old Farmer's Almanac

What on Earth would a man do with himself if something did not stand in his way. - H.G. Wells. Achieve Your Dreams

Despite his lack of a degree in economics, John Maynard Keynes garnered international fame for his economic theories in the early 1900s. Known as the father of modern economics, Keynes openly explored relationships with both men and women throughout his life. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Things to Be Happy About:  Fragrant fields and forests. An emergency trip to the cookie jar. Walking arm-in-arm. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Don't drop the ball.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Judgments are the cancer in relationships. They destroy cells of partnering. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Holding people to the responsible course is not demeaning; it is affirming. Proactively is part of human nature, and although the proactive muscles may be dormant, they are there. By respecting the proactive nature of other people, we provide them with at least one clear, undistorted reflection from the social mirror. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Bed-Wetting. About one in seven children wets the bed regularly past the age of 3. More often than not, enuresis (as bed-wetting is clinically called) runs in families. If you child is over age 3 and shows no sign of bladder control, you should bring this to the attention of your doctor. You'll want to rule out the possibility of urinary tract infection, diabetes or a physical abnormality. Once you have established that there is no health problem, relax. Bed-wetting can usually be cured without medical intervention, given enough time, along with a healthy dose of patience. Parents Tips & Tricks

Make sure you're getting an adequate amount of sleep. Our bodies and our sleep schedules have often been put on the back burner in recent years, but sleep is an important and completely natural way to restore and maintain good health and high energy.  Simplify Your Life

Progressive Deep Muscle Relaxation: Starting at your head, tense one of the muscle groups (eyes, jaw, forehead) around your face for 5 to 7 seconds, then immediately let go of the tension. Relax as completely as you can for about 30 seconds before going on to a new muscle group. When you finish with your heard, repeat the tightening/relaxing process for the other muscle groups of your body - neck, shoulders, arms, back, stomach, buttocks, legs, feet. It will take approximately 20 to 30 minutes to relax your entire body, and when you're through - if you've done it properly - you should feel like a bowl of warm spaghetti.  Stress Busters

Genius is 1 percent inspiration, 99 percent perspiration. - Thomas Edison. Win the Day!

La gaita (GAHYtah). Nuisance, drag. Es una gaita tener que madrugar. It's a real drag having to get up early. Living Language


The reason why birds can fly and we can't is simply that they have perfect faith, for to have faith is to have wings - James M. Barrie. Birds, and especially their wings, can be so beautiful, so functional, so effective. You may want to walk outside so you can see a bird fly. Note how effortlessly it moves its wings. How skillfully it sails through the air. Perhaps you will be lucky enough to see a group of birds flying together. Certain kinds of birds, such as geese, have mastered the art of teamwork. They are quite efficient and know how to fly in patterns that maximize their efficiency. They also can teach us how to share leadership. When the lead bird, who takes most of the wind's assault, gets tired, he simply moves to the rear and another bird takes over. This sharing of leadership is a good idea, much better than competing for leadership. It allows for rest and a time to gather strength. Birds in flight have a unique beauty. We can learn from birds. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

It's easy to feel insignificant at work. If you're just one employee out of thousands, most of whom are over you in authority, you can feel that you are never considered in any decision made at your job. After all, no one ever comes to ask you your opinion. Going through the I.D. checkpoint and having to pass security can make you feel like a nobody or just an I.D. number. Feeling insignificant is like being a small fish in a big pond. You never get to eat much because the big fish get all the food. You are afraid all the time because you are unsure if you are going to be eaten by a bigger fish. But your importance really depends on how you look at it. Putting a part on an F-16 fighter plane right seems more significant to me than a Pentagon meeting of the top aircraft builders. The Man Within

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Smile, especially at your mate and children. As Thich Nhat Hanh says, "If in our daily lives we can smile, we can be peaceful and happy Not only we but everyone will profit from it."  He suggests remembering to smile when you wake up. Use a cue - a picture, a leaf - so you remember. (Write "Smile" on a posit and put it on your phone. Then, smile while talking on the phone. It will make a difference. - ed) What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?




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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html


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  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html


July is Freedom Month. If you enjoy the benefits this country has to offer, you might check out what kind of men it took to found this country. The Fourth of July has more to it than beer, picnics, and baseball games. Read this! July is Anti-Boredom; National Mobility; Purposeful Parenting: Recreation and Parks; The month of the Muslim new year; Hemochromatosis Screening Awareness; National Foreign Language Month.

June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. June 25-July 1: Deaf-Blindness Awareness Week. June 27 - July 4: Special Recreation Week. Jul 1-8 Music for Life; July 3-Aug 15: Air Conditioning Appreciation Days. Jul 4-10 - Freedom Week. July 8:-14: National Laundry Workers; National Therapeutic Recreation: Take Charge of Change Week. Jul 9-15 - Nude Recreation. July 15-21: *Captive Nations; Legal Revolution; National Plan to Promote Your Business Week. Jul 1 UN Day of Cooperation; International Joke; National Financial Freedom; National Recreation and Parks; National Purposeful Parenting, Jul 2 - I Forgot; Ducktona 500 Day; July 3: Compliment Your Mirror: Stay Out of the Sun Day. Jul 4 - Independence Day (U.S.); American Redneck; Fear from Fear of Speaking ; Independence-from-Meat Day; Sidewalk Egg Frying; Jul 5 - National Family Day, July 7: Father-Daughter Take a Walk Together; International UN Day of Cooperation. July 9: Don't Step on a Bee Day. July 10: Intern Appreciation Day. July 13: Skeptics' Day. July 14: Cow Apprecaition Day. July 15: National Ice Cream; Saint Swithin's Day. July 16: International Town Criers; Naitonal Get Out of the Doghouse Day. July 17: Wrong Way Corrigan Day. Jul 20 - Ugly Truck; Riot Act anniversary. July 21: Rat-Catchers Day. Jul 22 - Ice Cream Cone Day. July 23: Hot Enough For Ya Day. July 24: Cousins; Health and Happiness with Hypnosis Day. Jul 27 - *National Korean War Veterans Armistice; Take Your Houseplants for a Walk Day. July 29: *Parents' Day. Jul 30 - Father-In-Law Day, National Parent's Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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Men are so competitive that we even "out-die" women in all 15 of the major causes of death in the U.S. Most of these deaths are preventable with a positive change in life-style, eating habits, and/or general health care. Let's not strive so hard to hold on to this record. See what you can change now to live a healthier life.

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