Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

MAY 22

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

May 22 -  Yemen Independence Day. Crater Lake National Park established (1902) * Nixon first American president to visit Moscow (1972) * In order to contain Communism after World War II, the US furnished aid to Greece and Turkey. Congress approved the Truman Doctrine on this day (1947). A corollary of this doctrine was the Marshall Plan, which began sending aid to war-torn European countries in 1948. * Birthdays: Richard Wagner, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, Laurence Oliver, Herman (Sonny) Blount-Sun Ra, Paul Winfield, Charles Aznavour, Richard Benjamin, Frank Converse, Thomas Edward (Tommy) John, Michael Sarrazin, Garry Wills.

DAILY THOUGHTS

It is when the spouses no longer feel like being in each other's company always, when they would rather be elsewhere some of the time, that their love begins to be tested and will be found to be present or absent. The Road Less Traveled

When we resolve our own questions of absolute meaning by reducing them to family dynamics, ultimately blaming our parents for life's difficulties, we oversimplify the challenge of our own existence. Soul Mates

I love it when he holds my ankles and spreads my legs apart. - Katie, 23 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Research has shown that more firstborns and only children achieve prominence and become famous scientists, researchers and literary figures. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

More Smooth Moves. Although kids are inevitably affected by a move, the way they respond and the intensity of their reaction depend on their age, stage of development, temperament - whether shy or extroverted - and existing sense of security. What can you do to help?  On moving day, make sure your child's special blanket or stuffed animal goes along with him in a backpack. Have a neighbor or baby-sitter assigned to keep your child safe and busy. Once in the new home, unpack your child's room first so things can look more familiar. Check out the new neighborhood - the playgrounds, video stores, pizza places- so it won't seem so unknown. Last but not least, reestablish routines. Putting predictability back in your kids' lives makes them feel more secure. Family Feelings

Most men at fifty don't want to make passage. And there is no finite marker that tells them when they must. But while it has been traditionally assumed that aging is kinder to men, there is an untold story - far more uncertainty among men in middle life than among women. New Passages

We are not interested in the possibility of defeat - Queen Victoria Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  In-home fire extinguishers (in each bedroom). Being crazy about someone. The cool breeze of a fan.  14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Don't take eight doughnuts if your stomach only holds two.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Your life has the potential to be a wondrous journey, filled with exciting moments and astonishing experiences. It can be a trilling ride if you are open to exploring all that is available to you. Adventure is the result of your willingness to live life with a spirit of enthusiasm.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

When we make withdrawals from the Emotional Bank Account, we need to apologize, and we need to do it sincerely. Great deposits come in the sincere words:  "I was wrong."  "That was unkind of me."  "I showed you no respect."  "I gave you no dignity, and I'm deeply sorry."  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Learn yoga. The combination of the yoga positions and the yoga breathing, by their very nature, will help you to slow down your hectic pace.  Simplify Your Life

Work with rather than against your body's natural rhythms. Whenever possible, do you most demanding tasks during the times of day when you have the most energy. For example, if you're not a "morning person", schedule important meetings and tasks for the afternoon.  Stress Busters

Bite into a "ladybug"! Cut an apple in half and set in cut-side down on a plate. Spread peanut butter over the top, and press chocolate chips into the peanut butter.  To Do Today

You are never a loser until you quit trying. - Mike Ditka.  Win the Day!

Quien? (KYEHN) Quien es esa mujer?  Who is that woman? Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: IDLENESS

God loves an idle rainbow
No less than labouring seas.
- Ralph Hodgson

Idleness has been given a bad name. Many people consider it kin to the deadly sin of apathy, or sloth. Some people snap, "The devil finds work for idle hands." Children usually understand their own needs for occasional idleness, but too many grown-ups forget about it (or have it ridiculed out of them). So parents may resent their children's hanging out, "doing nothing," and badger them to keep busy, be productive.

Yet it's during "idle rainbow" moments that our spirits refresh themselves. No one is ever literally doing nothing: our nervous systems keep our brains working all the time, secreting, breathing, processing information in our marvelous biological feedback system. A dreamy, abstracted child may need lots of time for spiritual refreshment. When healthy people spend their free time idly, and aren't bored, that's their choice, and their families must learn to accept it.

The laboring seas make a great deal of noise and commotion - but at each ebb tide they lose the ground they gain at the flow. Loving someone means accepting their differences; meditation and prayer can help us detach from them, with humility.

The rainbow and the sea are lovable in and for themselves, not for their achievements. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Redefine wealth by counting the number of friends you have. What Every Man Needs to Know  Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

Sex Advice From...DJs, sorority girls, cowboys, car dealers, bartenders, pool cleaners, hairstylists.by Nerve.com. This book features photos of real people with interesting jobs -0 and even more interesting sex lives. Before sending their brace correspondents into the trenches, the editors at Nerve.com - the acclaimed sex and dating web site - spent weeks locked inside the Nerve war room drawing up a comprehensive list of questions about all things sex - dirty talk, home vidieos, hygiene, blow jobs and techiques, and threesomes, to name just a few. The correspondents then traveled far and wide in search of novel advice. They spoke to tour guides in Washington; lifeguards in New Jersey; pool cleaners in Hollywood' sideshow performers at Coney Island; and expats living all over the globe. The result? This chunky paperback, chockful of everything you ever wanted to know about sex but were too afraid to ask the salesman at your local used car dealership. www.chroniclebooks.com, 2006 ISBN 1 0-8118-5002-1

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  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
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  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
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  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
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  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May.

May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day.

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