Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

JANUARY 28

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001
 

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January 28 - In 1986, the space shuttle Challenger explodes 74 seconds after liftoff, killing everyone aboard - including school teacher Christa McAuliffe. * In anticipation of the 1939 World's Fair, New York City's Mayor La Guardia attempted to "de-gay" the city by closing most of the city's gay bars. Gay & Lesbian Calendar * Great Seal of the US authorization (1782) * The Israeli army lifted its siege of Suez City, freed encircled Egyptian troops and turned over 300,000 square miles of Egyptian territory to the UN (1974). * Iroquois Mid-Winter Ceremony for continuation of all life-sustaining things, celebrated with tobacco offerings, confession of offenses, singing, drumming, dancing, name-giving, and dream-telling. Iroquois consider themselves kin to all of Nature. * Birthdays: Mikhail Baryshnikov, Jose Julian Marti, Auguste Piccard, Jean Felix Piccard, Henry Morton Stanley, Alan Alda (Alphonso D'Abruzzo), John Beck, Claes Oldenburg, Elijah Wood. *SPECIAL BIRTHDAY: Joe Manthey

DAILY THOUGHTS

Hunger causes hunger. - Hugh O’Haire. The Tibetans teach of a "hungry ghost"; a creature with a vast body and a tiny mouth. No matter how much it feeds, it can never be satisfied. No food can fill its endless belly, no drink will quench its thirst. Many of us are in the peculiar position of having everything we need yet rather than being satisfied, we continue to consume. If we don’t eat food, we eat clothes, or we eat cars, or gadgets, or forests and deserts. In our unquenchable thirst we drink our children’s future and we obliterate the subsistence of entire countries where the people, we pretend, are "other" than us. Out of our fear, we eat the future without knowing it. What do I put on my plate each day that is not truly mine? A Man's Book of the Spirit: Daily Meditations for a Mindful Life

Notable Quote: Fires can’t be made with dead embers. - James Baldwin, writer. African American History

We have it in our power to begin the world again. - Thomas Paine Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  A dog enjoying a fireplace, a mid-afternoon hot chocolate break. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

The lesson of humor means learning to invite levity and amusement into situations that might otherwise be dissectors. If you are going to view the hardships that happen to you or the slip-ups you make as lessons rather than mistakes, a sense of humor will prove helpful. When you learn to laugh at your mishaps you are able to instantaneously transform perceived bad situations into opportunities to learn something about the absurdity of human behavior, most especially your own! If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Habit 67:  Sharpen the Saw is preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have - you. It's renewing the four dimensions of your nature: physical, spiritual, mental and social/emotional. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

If you feel you must carry a stuffed wallet, make sure it includes only the things you need: ID, some money, a picture or two, credit cards. Clean out the receipts, notes, and miscellaneous business cards. For those business cards you need, take a single piece of paper and write down the information from several of the cards. Paper is much thinner that a business card, and will hold the important information. Use both sides of the paper.  Adapted from Simplify Your Life

A research study at Philadelphia's St. Joseph University has shown that writing about problems and possible solutions may improve both physical and psychological health. Try writing about whatever is currently causing you the most stress, including your honest feelings about it. When you've finished, either keep what you've written to refer to later or tear up the paper and throw it away.  Stress Busters

Savor clementines! They look like small oranges and taste delicious. They can be found this time of year in most supermarkets. Try them when looking for a substitute for candy, or anytime! To Do Today

There's no substitute for guts. - Paul Bear Bryant. Win the Day!

 Romance Each Other. Without attention to romance, it will die. It needs planning and emotional availability. It thrives on your creativity and pleasure. It fades away when ignored or manipulated. No matter how long you've been together, it's never too late to put more romance back into your love. Surprise one another with flowers. And don't just drop them on the table. Make sure you present them as a romantic love gift. Make special dates just for romance, either at home or at a hotel (while these evenings may lead to sex, that's not the point. The point is to experience anything and everything that the two of you find romantic. For dinner at home: a gorgeous table set with candles and beautiful flowers, cool jazz and fine wine to set off a sumptuous meal. Flirt with each other, as if it were a first date. Dance to your favorite love songs. Take turns reading romantic and/or erotic poetry. Remind yourself why it was the wisest choice you've ever made to marry each other. I joyfully open to more romance. "After twenty-two years of marriage, we still keep our romance alive, by having special romantic dinners and evenings." Terry and Evey Sherven. Opening to Love 365 Days a Year

La paz (pahs) - Peace. Living Language

*SPECIAL BIRTHDAY: Joe Manthey (1957) a California public school teacher and male advocate, is director of Kid Culture in the schools which is a staff development program for educators and is founder of Men & Women for Gender Justice. See www.kculture.com or E-Mail.

TODAY'S ISSUE: RESPECT

"Aunt Sarah, does Thee really think any slaves were Freed because thee did not use sugar or cotton?" Perfectly tranquil was her reply: "Dear child, I can never know that any slave was personally helped; but I had to live with my own conscience." - Florence Kelley.

We learn valuable lessons from growing up in a family with strong spiritual practices. We learn that observance of these practices is important in and for itself. We also learn that our own timetable doesn't govern the workings of the universe. When we pray, we don't expect immediate results. When we follow the dictates of conscience, we don't imagine we're changing the world.

This precious gift we receive: the knowledge that we're part of a larger picture, a broader reality that has its own laws, its own rhythms. The most we can hope for is to live harmoniously within our broader human family, neither colliding with necessity nor crushed by it, and connected to a source of spiritual nurture. It's said that in our journey through life we are responsible for the effort - that is, the effort to be as good as we can - and not the outcome of our endeavors. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. I will try to live by my conscience and detach myself from the outcome. I can't heal the world - at least, I can't do it by tomorrow. Family Feelings Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

An A-Z Guide to Healing Foods: A shopper's companion by Elise Marie Collins. Confused by all the superfoods? Suffering from supplement overload? Trying to make informed decisions about how best to feed your family but feel like you are lacking the information This book can answer each of these questions and more. Arranged alphabetically and complete with a cross-reference for what's best to eat to treat specific ailments, this guidebook to nutrition is designed to be tucked into your purse, pocket, or shopping bag for easy use. Explore, prepare, procure, grow, taste, savor and above all, enjoy healing foods! 2009 www.redwheelweiser.com ISBN 978-1-57324-419-0

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Just One Thing - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

Plus

  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

January is: Birth Defects Prevention, Cervical Health Awareness, National Voluteer Blood Donor; Bald Eagle Watch; Celebration of Life; Fat Free Living; International Get Over It; International Life Balance; It's Okay to Be Different; Love Yourself; March of Dimes Birth Defects Prevention; National Be On-Purpose; National Book; National Clean Up Your Computer; National Environmental Policy Act; National Eye Care; National Glaucoma Awareness; National High-Tech; National Personal Self-Defense Awareness; National Poverty in America Awareness; National Reaching Your Potential; National Yours, Mine and Ours; Senior-Spirit; Sew for the Cure Month.

12/26-1/1: Kwanzaa. 12/31-1/6: Celebration of Life; Diet Resolution; National Lose Weight/Feel Great; New Year's Resolution; Silent Record Week; 1/5-13: Wilderness Wildlife Week of Nature. 1/6-12: Someday We'll Laugh About This Week.1/7-11: National Graves' Disease Awareness Week. 1/7-13: Universal Letter-Writing Week. 1/10-17: International Thank You Days. 1/13-19: Fire the Boss, International Printing, Let Men Be Our Heroes, Special Education Week. 1/14-18: Manwatchers Week. 1/20-26: Healthy Weight, National Creative Frugality, National Nurse Anesthetists, Solo-Preneuring Week. 1/21-25: Direct Deposit Week. 1/22-28: No Name Calling Week 1/21-25: *National Consumer Protection Week. 1/31-2/3: Mid-Winter/Candlemas/Groundhog's Day. 1/1: Attention to Dreams and Desires; Get a Life; Saint Basil's; Z Day. 1/2: Happy New Year for Cats; National Thrift with Flair Day. 1/6: International Respect-full Living Day; National Smith Day. Jan 7: United Kingdom Solid Gold Hat Day. Orthodox Christian Christmas. 1/8: National Bubble; Clean-Off-Your-Desk; Joygerm: Saint Gudula's Feast; Show & Tell at Work Day. 1/12 - National Handwriting Day. 1/15 - Humanitarian, Moliere, National Thank God It's Monday Day. 1/16 - Psychiatric Technicians Day. 1/18: Get to Know Your Customer Day. 1/19: International Sing-out Day. 1/20: Penguin Awareness Day. 1/21: National Hugging, World Religion Day. 1/22: World Religions Day, Celebration of Life Day. 1/23: Rid the World of Fad Diets and Gimmicks Day. 1/24: Just Do It Day - Make the Connection, National Compliment Day. 1/25: A Room of One's Own Day. 1/26: Fun at Work Day, Toad Hollow Day of Encouragement; Spouse's Day. 1/29: Freethinker's, National Puzzle Day. 1/30: Inane Answering Machine Day.

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