Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

MARCH 27

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

March 27 - St. Alkelda's Day. This murdered eighth-century Saxon princess is honored with a church, along with a nearby holy well dedicated to those with visual impairments, in Giggleswick, in the English Midlands. Forgotten English * The worst accident in the history of civil aviation when two Boeing 747s collided on the ground; 570 people lost their lives - 249 on the KLM Airlines plane and 321 on the Pan Am plane. ( 1977) * The strongest earthquake in North American history (8.4 on the Richter scale) struck Alaska, east of Anchorage. (1964) 117 people were killed. * The Alexander L Keilland Oil Rig capsized during a heavy storm in the Norwegian sector of the North Sea. (1980) The pentagon-type, French-built oil rig had about 200 persons aboard and 123 lives were lost. * Venera 8 (USSR) was launched. (1972) This unmanned probe made a soft landing on Venus July 22 and sent back radio transmissions of surface data. * Birthdays: Quentin Tarantino, Wilhelm Konrad Roentgen, Thorne Smith, Edward Steichen, Randall Cunningham, Anthony Lewis, Austin Pendleton, Mstislav Leopoldovich Rostropovich, William Caleb (Cale) Yarborough, Michael York.

Diabetes Alert: A one-day "wake-up call" for those six million Americans who have diabetes and don't even know it. During the Alert, local ADA offices use the diabetes risk test - a simple paper-and-pencil quiz-to communicate the risk factors and symptoms of the disease. 800.DIABETES (342.2383) or www.diabetes.org

DAILY THOUGHTS

To function successfully in our complex world it is necessary for us to possess the capacity not only to express our anger but also not to express it. Moreover, we must express our anger in different ways. The Road Less Traveled (Ed. - Nonviolent, non-hitting of anything ways. No bag punching, no pillow pounding, no bataka bats either.)

"Most people search high and wide for the key to success. If they only knew the key to their dreams lies within!"  George Washington Carver, inventor and educator. African American History

I wish she wouldn't automatically assume I'm dreaming about another woman when I get an erection in my sleep. - John, 28. Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know (Ed. - Actually, a health male averages 4 erections per night in his sleep. It has nothing to do with dreams but is the bodies way of health.)

Age is an achievement. Each birthday should be celebrated. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

By the time the Vietnam Generation women (born 1946-1955) came of age, they were at war with what psychologist and author Dr. Ellen McGrath calls the Traditional Core - a core of cultural values that "exists deep within every woman and dictates how we must behave and what roles are 'right' and 'wrong'...feminine, masculine, appropriate, and inappropriate for us as women." New Passages (Ed. - Not unlike the Traditional Core for men.)

Enjoy the Moment. Between the press of nine-to-five and the year's big events - the holidays and milestones that announce themselves so loudly - it's easy to forget the place of such small, everyday rituals in our lives. Let preparation time (like when you're setting the table or running a bath - serve as a time for you to let go of distracting thoughts and allow your mind to settle. Slow down. Relaxing rituals are not something to hurry through. Savor your morning coffee, watch the birds lock to the feeder outside your kitchen window, enjoy the crackling fire you've built. Once a day think of at least one thing to be grateful for. Parents Tips & Tricks

Every marriage has both an external life and interior dimension. The externals may be dealt with by reasonable means, but the interior requires myth and magic. Soul Mates

Things to Be Happy About:  Your favorites winning Oscars. Familiar songs on the radio. The fizz of sparkling water. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Face adversity promptly and without flinching, and you will reduce its impact. - Winston Churchill Achieve Your Dreams

If you can't name it, scrape it off your pizza. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

If you focus on the "form", you may get attached in what looks good but somehow "feels" wrong. If you trust your inner knowing, it may look wrong, but you know it is right.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

We must look at the lens through which we see the world, as well as at the world we see, and understand that the lens itself shapes how we interpret the world. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Get into the habit of using the events of your day to remind yourself of the inner realizations you are starting to get a sense of during your quiet times, and to remind yourself to connect with your soul. You can use any circumstance or happening of the day to bring yourself back to the inner you. When you wake up in the morning, remember. When you brush your teeth, remember. When you're stopped at a stoplight, remember. Simplify Your Life

To guard against potential stress caused by a failed hard drive, back up all important documents and files in your computer. If it's really important, make two backups in case one malfunctions. Maybe it's never happened, but if or when it does, you're protected - and you will have avoided a stressful situation.  Stress Busters

Perk up family and friends when they're feeling sick work with your kids to create a get-well games book. To make one, create sunny word searches, jokes, and riddles.  To Do Today

The character ethic, which I believe to be the foundation of success, teaches that there are basic principles of effective living, and that people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character. - Stephen R. Covey. Win the Day!

La conclusion (kohnKLOOsyohn) Conclusion. No sacas la conclusion valida. You've reached the wrong conclusion. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: BODY WISDOM AND SEXUALITY

Sex may bring pleasure or joy, but not identity. In fact, we are able to lose ourselves in loving sexuality only to the degree that we have found the self elsewhere. - Sam Keen

Sometimes I don't feel like making love. I may just want to be held or touched non-sexually. Sometimes I'm scared or just distracted. Other times I've felt I needed to do something for my partner to "earn" the passion I was enjoying so much. Then my own needs would get lost in the process. I'd feel guilty when my lover didn't have an orgasm, or didn't have one as great as what I experienced. All this made for some very serious and heavy sexual encounters. Where was the fun?

As I move on in recovery, gathering support from other men, I'm taking less responsibility for my lover's sexual satisfaction. I'm beginning to drop the myth of the Perfect Lover, to give more room for may partner to ask for what she really wants, instead of wearing myself out trying to guess. It feels like I'm moving toward a whole new approach to my sexuality, one that's more natural to me, one that has more to do with love and less with performance.

Today I'll take full responsibility for saying what I want sexually. I can enjoy and listen to my body for direction and guidance about when to make love and when to just cuddle, whether to risk, and how, and with whom. I'll remember that sex is about expressions, not oppression. I'll remember that it's play. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Be honest with yourself and others. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

Strike IX: The story of a big East college forced to eliminate its baseball program and the team that refused to lose, Paul Lonardo.. In October, 1998, as fall practice was getting underway for the Providence College baseball team, the players and coaches learned that their sport was going to be eliminated after the 1999 season. Knowing that this was going to be the last year that baseball would be played at PC, the team decided to put their emotions and anger aside and make it a season to remember by becoming champions. This is the story of this historic year and the players who decided to make their statement on the field and show the school administration that they made a mistake. Infinity Publishing, infinitypublishing.com, 2009, ISBN 0-7414-5690-7

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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
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  • Rick Hanson - Just One Thing - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
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  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

March is International Listening Awareness, International Mirth, *Irish-American Heritage, Mental Retardation Awareness, Music in Our Schools, National Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Awareness, National Collision Awareness, National Colorectal Cancer Awareness, Ethics Awareness; National Humane Education Awareness, National Kidney, National Nutrition, National On-Hold, National Professional Social Worker's, National Talk with Your Teen about Sex, Optimism, Play-the-Recorder, Poison Prevention Awareness, Red Cross, Rosacea Awareness, Workplace Eye Health and Safety; Youth Art; Humorists are Artists and Gender Equality Month: Time to honor both genders; time to meditate on the equality of women and men, on the respect due to both women and men, and on Goddess-God manifesting as woman and man. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year. In keeping with this, be sure to read our writing under "Newsbytes" called Mothers Aren't Essential in Raising Children. Also, check out our books on Feminism, Sexism, Sex Roles, and Social Theory in this regard. Month.

Mar 12-Apr 14: Deaf History Month. Mar 1-5: No Name Calling Week. Mar 1-7 The day the production and use of land mines was outlawed world-wide. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year. National Write a Letter of Appreciation; Return the Borrowed Books; Universal Human Beings Week. Mar 1-10: Bike Week. Mar 2-9: Autograph Collecting, Conserve Water/Detect-a-Leak; National Professional Pet Sitters; *Save Your Vision Week. Mar 4-8: Human Resource ; National Procrastination; National School Breakfast; Newspaper in Education Week. Mar 10-16: Girl Scout; Pulmonary Rehabilitation Week. Mar 11-17: Camp Fire Boys and Girls Birthday Week. Mar 13-20: Education Advocacy; National Toad Hollow Week. Mar 17-23: Anonymous Giving; Jobs for Teens; National Agriculture; National Poison Prevention Week. Mar 18-24: National Bubble; National Clutter Awareness; National Secondhand Shopping; National Spring Fever Week. Mar 20-26: Week of Solidarity with the People's Struggle Against Racism and Racial Discrimination (UN). Mar 24-30: National Cleaning Week. Mar 29-Apr 2: National Youth Violence Prevention Campaign. Mar 1: National March to College; National Pig. National Salesperson's; "Read Across America Day" sponsored by the National Education Association in honor of the birthday of Dr. Seuss (Theordor Geisel). Mar 2: I Want You to Be Happy; National Anthem; What if Cats and Dogs had Opposable Thumbs Day. Mar 3: Hug a GI; Old Inauguration Day. Mar 6: Stop Bad Service Day. Mar 8: Panic Day. Mar 10: Dream 2002; Johnny Appleseed Day. Mar 11: National Organize Your Home Day. Mar 12: National Open an Umbrella Indoors Day. Mar 14: Absolutely Incredible Kid Day. Mar 15: Curlew; Freedom of Information Day. Mar 16: Save the Florida Panther Day. Mar 17: St. Patrick's Day. Mar 19: Great American Meatout; National Agriculture; Proposal Day. Mar 20: Flower; National Tree Planting, Memory; Single Parents; South Africa Human Rights Day; International Day for the Elimination of Racial Discrimination (UN). Mar 21:  As Young as You Feel; New Year's Day (India). Mar 22: Near Miss; World Meteorological Day (UN). Mar 23: World Tuberculosis Day (UN). Mar 24: Mothering Day (ENG); National Family; Old New Year's; Pecan Day. Mar 25: Legal Assistants; Make Up Your Own Holiday Day. Mar 26: American Diabetes Alert. Mar 27: Qing Ming Festival (China). Mar 27:  National Mom and Pop Business Owners; Youth Day (Taiwan); Texas Love the Children Day. Mar 29: I Am in Control; Doctor's Day.

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