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February 22 - Independence Day in Saint Lucia. * Thinking Day. * Sojong Day - Buddhist day of fasting, confession, and reparation for harm done.* Washington’s Birthday (US) My movement to the chair of government will be accompanied by feelings not unlike those of a culprit who is going to the place of his execution. - George Washington (1732-1799) The Old Farmer's Almanac * The day the President ordered the internment of loyal Japanese Americans during World War II (1942); day to mourn Asian victims of internment and exclusion (past and present), make peace and celebrate empowerment of Asian Americans. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * White city leaders of Montgomery, AL issued an ultimatum to black organizers of the three-month-old Montgomery bus boycott (1956). If it did not end, it was made clear they would begin arresting black leaders. * Smoke billows over Kuwait as Iraqi soldiers light hundreds of oil well fires to deter air attacks. (1991) * Birthdays: George Washington, Frederic Chopin, Kyle MacLachlan, Robert Baden-Powell, James Russell Lowell, Rembrandt Peale, Arthur Schopenhauer, Robert Pershing Wadlow, George Lee (Sparky) Anderson, Jonathan Demme, Paul Dooley, Nelson Bunker Hunt, Vijay Singh, Jayson Williams.


Identity. I do not know myself, and Good forbid that I should. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. As men, we have been conditioned to define ourselves in relation to the outside world. We have been conditioned to identify ourselves in terms of what we do rather than what we are. No wonder we feel pressured to do something beyond moving our bowels on a regular basis. An important part of recovery is finding out who we really are, beyond what others expect of us, beyond what we do, beyond what we earn. Who is this person I call me? Am I the guy who schlepps to the office every morning to sell the gadgets that mechanically screw the tops onto tubes of toothpaste, or am I a secret agent in a red Alfa-Romeo with a Rolex watch and a beautiful blonde on each arm. I mean, maybe I'm not, but the possibilities are certainly worth considering. Besides, self-discovery is a lot more fun than working. Today, I will begin an inner journey of self-discovery that, with any luck, will last the rest of my life, or at least until happy hour. Meditations for Men Who Do Next to Nothing: and would like to do even less

Men are...bold, passionate, thinking, fascinating. Men are: A Book of Inspiration

How to Buckle-Up During Pregnancy. How you wear your seat belt may affect your risk for miscarriage, according to researchers. It was discovered that a pregnant woman who places a lap belt across the bulge of her uterus or doesn't wear a shoulder harness may be at an increased risk for miscarriage in an accident occurs, even if the car is traveling at a low speed. The safest position? Fasten the lap belt snugly, but comfortably, under your abdomen and across your hips. Position the shoulder harness across the mid-portion of your collarbone, and run it between your breasts and to the side of your abdomen. Parents Tips & Tricks

Are you going places, or just being taken? Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: Washington's steadfastness and strength of character. Someone to pet-sit for you. Mushroom caps stuffed with risotto. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Every situation in which you feel "wronged" by another person is a chance to learn something about your reactions. Whether it is your own wrongdoing, or someone else's, a mistake is simply an opportunity to evolve further along your spiritual path. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Clarifying expectations sometimes takes a great deal of courage. It seems easier to act as though differences don't exist and to hope things will work out that it is to face the differences and work together to arrive at a mutually agreeable set of expectations.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

It's more fun to color outside the lines. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

What kinds of lessons are we teaching our kids by spending money on glitz and glitter "image builders", especially when we can't afford them? As we're gorging new spending habits for ourselves, either by desire or necessity or both, we can also be building sensible buying habits for our kids. Simplify Your Life

Stock up on fruit to eat for snacks and desserts. Fruits (unlike high-calorie, sugary foods) are: Loaded with antioxidants, which help prevent various diseases. Are low in fat and calories. Are a good source of fiber in the diet. And are high in vitamins and minerals your body needs. Stress Busters

Teach your kids about track. Someone hides in the snow and everyone else tracks them down by following their footprints. If anyone finds an animal track, everybody tries to figure out what it is. To Do Today

When you want to win a game, you have to teach. When you lose a game, you have to learn. - Tom Landry. Win the Day!

Remember that the consequences of a reckless split-second decision can last a lifetime. Life's Little Instruction

In his "Orders Against Profanity in the Army," George Washington defined his meaning: "That unmeaning and abominable custom, swearing." The Old Farmer's Almanac

Risk. When you agree to play in the sea of love - wading out beyond the safety of what is familiar - you enter the magic of new possibilities. All you have to do is risk yourself. Love is always the process of risking more of yourself, making yourself more and more available to that someone can enjoy you and love you. It's possible they might not understand you or might even leave you. That's true. But why be with someone you can't trust to embrace you for all that you are? Don't sell yourself short. Today, take a risk. Reveal something that's important to you. Make a request for change in your relationship. Express a need to be held, make love to, be appreciated for the work you do, or have someone else take care of the kids. Pay a compliment that would reveal your attraction. Take a risk and see what happens. "Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself, and dares to become involved in experimenting with his own life." Herbert Otto Opening to Love 365 Days a Year


What is obvious to me is that we did not create ourselves...life is something inside of you. You did not create it. Once you understand that, you are in a spiritual realm. - Virginia Satir

We do not belong to ourselves, but to the universe. No man planned to come into existence; he just happened to find himself here. We are the expressions of a life force whose beginnings are in the forgotten past. What does this mean on a practical level for how we will live today? For one thing, maybe we don't need to take ourselves so seriously. And we certainly are not to judge our existence. We have a right to be here, just as everyone does.

We can live this day fully and not hold ourselves back. We may work hard, play and enjoy it. We need not rein in or attempt to control this force which so far exceeds our individual powers. Rather, today we can learn to flow with the current.

Today, may I remember my Higher Power is within every cell of my being, whether I notice it or not. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Learn a new sport. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?



Manhood: The pleasures and regrets of a husband, father and son by Michael Chabon. A shy manifesto, an impractical handbook, the true story of a fabulist, an entire life in parts and pieces, this book is the first sustained work of personal writing from the author. In these insightful, provocative, slyly interlinked essays, one of our most brilliant and humane writers presents his autobiography and his vision of life in the way so many of us experience our own lives: as a series of reflections, regrets and reexaminations, each sparked by an encounter, in the present, that holds some legacy of the past. HarperCollins, www.harpercollings.com, 2009 ISBN 978-0-06-149018-7




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  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
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  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
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  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
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  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
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  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
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  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
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  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
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  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
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  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
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  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
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  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
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February is Heart Disease Prevention (Healthy Heart), National Children's Dental Health, Ethnic Equality and *National African-American History Month - a time to honor all peoples and their positive traditions; time to meditate on the equality of all peoples, on the respect due to them and God-Goddess manifesting as African, Asian, European, Latin, Middle Eastern, Native American and Oceanic. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year 2000, AMD/Low Vision Awareness; *American Heart; A Day of Hearts: Child Awareness; International Boost Self-Esteem; International Expect Success; Library Lovers', Marfan Syndrome Awareness; National Children's Dental Health; National Sign Up for Summer Camp; National Weddings; National Wild Bird Feeding; and Plant the Seeds of Greatness Month.

Jan 29-Feb 4: *National Consumer Protection Week. Jan 30-Feb 3: Mid-Winter/Candlemas. Feb 2-9: I Hate Financial Planning Awareness Week. Feb 3-9: Cardiac Rehabilitation Week. Feb 4-10: International Personal and Business Coaching: National School Counseling Week. Feb 6-13: Art of Communication Week. Feb 10-16: Celebration of Love; Enabled Entrepreneurs; Freelance Writers Appreciation; Heart Failure Awareness; Home for Birds; Materials Testing; National Child Passenger Safety Awareness; National Family, Career and Community Leaders of America; National Resurrect Romance Week. Feb 1-17: International Flirting Week. Feb 12-19: National Condom Week. Feb 16-23: National FFA Week. Feb 17-23: International Friendship Week. Feb 18-22: Brotherhood-Sisterhood Week. Feb 19-26: Eating Disorders Awareness Week. Feb 22-24: Second Honeymoon Weekend. Feb 25-Mar 1: Read Me Week. Feb 25-Mar 3: Telecommuter Appreciation Week. Feb 1: Candlemas; Ground Hog Day. Feb 2: National Men's Grooming Day. Feb 3: Torture Abolition Day. Feb 4:  Weathermen's Day. Feb. 5: Dump Your "Significant Jerk"; Pay-a-Compliment Day. Feb 6: National Girls and Women in Sports; Wave All Your Fingers at Your Neighbors Day. Feb 7: Laugh and Grow Rich Day. Feb 8: National "DAV" Day. Feb 10: Be Electrific; Motivation; Satisfied Staying Single Day. Feb 11: Lost Penny Day. Feb 12: Black Love; Get a Different Name Day. Feb 13: Race Relations; Read to Your Child Day. Feb 14: Congenital Heart Defect Awareness; National Have-A-Heart; Heart 2 Heart; St.Valentine's Day. Feb 15: Remember the Maine Day. Feb 16: Who Shall I Be Day. Feb 17: National PTA Founders' Day.. Feb 18: President's Day. Feb 19: Student Volunteer Day. Feb 24: Children's Day. Feb 25: For Pete's Sake Day. Feb 27: Spay USA; Paczki Day. Feb 29: Bachelors' Day

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