Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

NOVEMBER 13

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

November 13 - World Kindness Day. Day to practice random acts of kindness. * The Holland Tunnel, running under the Hudson River between New York and Jersey City, was opened to traffic (1927). Comprised of two tubes, each large enough for two lanes of traffic, the Holland was the first underwater tunnel built in the US. * Carl Burton Stokes because the first black in the US elected mayor when he won the Cleveland, OH mayoral election (1967). * Congress approves plans to build a trans-Alaska oil pipeline designed to supply two million barrels of oil a day (1973) Hundreds of men died during the construction of the pipeline. * Stamford Bull-running Day. It was performed just the day six weeks before Christmas. The butchers of the town...provide the wildest bull they can get: proclamation is made by the common bellman of the town that each shut-up their shop doors and gates...(and) the bull is turned out. Men, women and children of all sorts and sizes, with all the dogs in the town promiscuously running after him with their bull clubs spattering dirt in each other's faces that one would think them to be so many furies started out of hell for the punishment of Cerberus. (1775) Forgotten English * Birthdays: Edwin Booth, Robert Louis Stevenson, Edward John Trelawney, Joe Mantegna, Garry Marshall, Richard Mulligan, Chris Noth, Vincent Frank (Vinny) Testaverde.

International Herpes Awareness Week
Herpes doesn't discriminate - that is the message from the International Herpes Week.. The International Herpes Alliance is working with national groups to support activities in support of this global awareness campaign, to tell it how it is for the 107 million people thought to be infected with herpes worldwide.

DAILY THOUGHTS

With total awareness of the nature of a situation, of our motives for acting upon it, and of the results and ramifications of our action, we have attained that level of awareness that we normally expect only of God. Our conscious self has succeeded in coming into alignment with the mind of God. We know with God. The Road Less Traveled

Any of us may be seized by a desire that is impossible to resist and yet moves in a direction that makes no sense or even counters our established values and ideals. Eros may take us to places quite extraordinary. But whenever life becomes erotic, the soul is involved. Soul Mates

On this date in 1957, the District of Columbia Bar Association admits African American members for the first time. African American History

She's on top, facing away from me. While I'm inside her, she puts her finger in my anus and massages me. There's no better orgasm. - Ed, 36 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

A father held firmly to his child's hand as they descended an escalator. Nevertheless, the child stumbled, and her fear turned to tears. At the bottom of the escalator, the father calmed the child and coaxed her into trying it again. They immediately got back on the escalator, riding it up, then down again. No fears or tears the second time around. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

The mental skills of people over seventy are sharper than they think, according to recent research. But because most seniors accept outdated cultural prejudices about "dotty old people," they underestimate their mental skills, which are particularly high in reasoning and verbal expression. New Passages

Resolve to perform what you ought, then perform without fail what you resolve. - Franklin Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: The afternoon school bell. An Adirondack chair next to the lake. Merrie Olde England. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Never start slowly. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Learn to let go. That is the key to happiness. Buddha.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

An effective goal focuses primarily on results than activity. It identifies where you want to be and, in the process, helps you determine where you are. It gives you important information on how to get there and tells you when you have arrived . It unifies your efforts and energy. It gives meaning and purpose to all you do. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Simplify your Christmas card list by crossing off the names of people you haven't heard form or spoken to in the last two or three years. Simplify Your Life

The Building Blocks of Optimism. The three crucial building blocks of optimism are mastery, positivity, and explanatory style. A child can learn to feel masterful - rather than helpless - in the face of challenge by having daunting new tasks broken down into manageable pieces. Mastery increases as the child sees that their actions have an impact on the world. Positivity is about feelings - the feeling of growing up in a warm, emotional atmosphere. What should be delivered unconditionally are love, warmth and ebullience, but praise is a different matter. Praise your child after a success, not just to make them feel better. Praise that is not contingent on anything the child does can undermine their sense of mastery.  Parents Tips & Tricks

When worrying, ask yourself what evidence you have to support your fears and concerns. If you have actual evidence, then problem solve and take some action to reduce your worry. If there is no actual evidence, then focus your attention on something else, or begin to imagine a positive outcome for the situation. Stress Busters

For the kids:  Quilt a sandwich! Cut sandwiches into 4 triangles. Face the triangle points outward to make a square on the inside. Put chips, pretzels, or other snacky food into each square. "Quilt" together lots of squares for parties! To Do Today

Permanent success cannot be achieved except by incessant intellectual labor, always inspired by the ideal. - Sarah Bernhardt Win the Day!

La pasa (PAHsah) Raisin. Esta hecho uno pasa. He's very wrinkled. (Lit. He's become a raisin.)  Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: WORLD KINDNESS DAY

The Kindness Movement grew out of a series of Kindness Conferences convened by the Japanese Small Kindness Movement in 1996. It has included delegates from Japan, Singapore, Australia, Canada, Thailand, England and the US. This day represents the pledge of each of these countries to join together to build a kinder and more compassionate world.

Somebody Special

A teenage boy lived alone with his father. The two of them had a very special relationship. Even though the son was always "warming the bench," his father was always in the stands cheering. He never missed a game.

This young man was still the smallest of the class when he entered high school.

But his father continued to encourage him but also made it very clear that he did not have to play football if he didn't want to. But the young man loved football and decided to hang in there.

The son was determined to try his best at every practice, and perhaps he'd get to play when he became a senior.

All through high school he never missed a practice but still remained a bench warmer all four years. His faithful father always in the stands, always with words of encouragement for him.

When the young man went to college, he decided to try out for the football team as a "walk-on." Everyone was sure he could never make the cut, but he did. The coach admitted that he kept him on the roster because he always puts his heart and soul to every practice and, at the same time, provided the other members with the spirit and hustle they badly needed.

The news that he had survived the cut thrilled him so much that he rushed to the nearest phone and called his father. His father shared his excitement and was sent season tickets for all the college games.

This persistent young athlete never missed practice during his four years at college, but he never got to play in the game. It was the end of his senior football season, and as he trotted onto the practice field shortly before the big play-off game, the coach met him with a telegram.

The young man read the telegram and he became deathly silent. Swallowing hard, he mumbled to the coach, "My father died this morning. Is it all right if I miss practice today?" The coach put his arm gently around his shoulder and said, "Take the rest of the week off, son. And don't even plan to come back to the game on Saturday."

Saturday arrived, and the game was not going well. In the third quarter, when the team was ten points behind, a silent young man quietly slipped into the empty locker room and put on his football gear. As he ran onto the sidelines, the coach and his players were astounded to see their faithful teammate back so soon.

"Coach, please let me play. I've just got to play today," said the young man. The coach pretended not to hear him. There was no way he wanted his worst player in this close playoff game. But the young man persisted, and finally feeling sorry for the kid, the coach gave in.

"All right," he said, "you can go in." Before long, the coach, the players and everyone in the stands could not believe their eyes. This little unknown, who had never played before was doing everything right.

The opposing team could not stop him. He ran, he passed, blocked and tackled like a star. His team began to triumph. The score was soon tied.

In the closing seconds of the game, this kid intercepted a pass and ran all the way for the winning touchdown!

The fans broke loose. His teammates hoisted him onto their shoulders. Such cheering you've never heard!

Finally, after the stands had emptied and the team had showered and left the locker room, the coach noticed that the young man was sitting quietly in the corner all alone. The coach came to him and said, "Kid, I can't believe it. You were fantastic! Tell me what got into you? How did you do it?"

He looked at the coach, with tears in his eyes, and said, "Well, you knew my dad died, but did you know that my dad was blind?"

The young man swallowed hard and forced a smile, "Dad came to all my games, but today was the first time he could see me play, and I wanted to show him I could do it!"

So remember:

somebody is very proud of you.
somebody is thinking of you.
somebody is caring about you.
somebody misses you.
somebody wants to talk to you.
somebody wants to be with you.
somebody hopes you are not in trouble.
somebody is thankful for the support you have provided.
somebody wants to hold your hand.
somebody hopes everything turns out all right for you.
somebody wants you to be happy.
somebody want you to find him/her.
somebody wants to give you a gift.
somebody wants to hug you.
somebody thinks you ARE a gift.
somebody admires your strength.
somebody wants to protect you.
somebody can't wait to see you.
somebody loves you for who you are.
somebody treasures your spirit.
somebody is glad that you are their friend.
somebody wants to get to know you better.
somebody wants to be near you.
somebody wants you to know they are there for you.
somebody would do anything for you.
somebody wants to share their dreams with you.
somebody is alive because of you.
somebody needs your support.
somebody will cry when they read this.
somebody needs you to have faith in them.
somebody trusts you.
somebody hears a song that reminds them of you.
somebody needs you to send this to them, too.

"To the whole world you might be just one person, but to one person you might be the whole world."

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BOOK OF THE WEEK

The Next Ten Minutes: 51 Absurdly Simple Ways to Seize the Moment. by Andrew Peterson. The desire to discover meaning in our lives is a powerful motivator for many people. Some turn to psychotherapy and counseling for help, some turn to spiritual teachings, and many turn to both. The book is the guide to help us discover the seeds of transformation and meaning in even the most ordinary routines. Itconsists of a collection of exercises originally created for use in the author's successful counseling practice. Rather than taking readers out of the everyday, he invites them to move more deeply into the familiar tasks of ordinary life, such as turning simple breathing, eating, physical love, or throwing out the trash into meditative exercises that can transform your day. Based on both Buddhist philosophy and proven psychology techniques, these succinct and accessible meditations also offer simple and effective methods for therapeutic counseling and personal growth. The power to seize the day is but a few simple steps away. Atria Books/Beyond Words, 2010, ISBN 1582702748

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

November is International Impotency Awareness Month. We provide background information on this new drug and alternatives to Viagra. Impotency, Viagra and other solutions as well as Books on the subject. National Diabetes Awareness, Lung Cancer Awareness, Native American Heritage, Aviation History, Diabetic Eye Disease, Dummies for Tummies, Epilepsy Awareness, International Drum, *National Adoption, National Alzheimer's Disease, National American Indian Heritage, National Family Caregivers, National Child Safety and Protection, National Life Writing; National Marrow Awareness; National Sleep Comfort; Orphan Disease; Peanut Butter Lovers; Vegan Awareness Month

11/1-12/13:  Merlin's Snug Hugs for Kids, 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1/00-01/01/01: Tie One on the Safety; 11/4-12/4: Jewish Book Month. 11/26-12/25: Operation Blessing International's 30 Days of Holiday Hope. 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1-7: Vegan Awareness; World Communication. 11/5-11: Pursuit of Happiness, National Chemistry Week. 11/6-10: Kids' Goals Education Week 11/6-12: Random Acts of Kindness; Shallow Persons Awareness Week 11/8-14: Pursuit of Happiness Week. 11/9-13: Goodwill Annual Used Book Sale. 11/12-18: *American Education; National Geography Awareness, Operating Room Nurse Week. 11/13-19: National Children's Book Week. 11/17-19: National Donor Sabbath. 11/17-23: *National Farm-City Week. 18 -25 November 2000: International Herpes Awareness Week. 11/18 -25 International Herpes Awareness Week 11/19-25:  *National Family; National Family Caregivers; National Game and Puzzle Week. 11/19-26: Bible Week. 11/1-2: Day of the Dead. 11/1 is All Saints Day, National Authors; National Family Literacy. 11/2: US Elecetion Day - Vote Absentee Ballot. All Soul's Day; National Men Make Dinner; 11/3: Culture Day. 11/3-5: Great American Warm-Up; 11/4: Sadie Hawkins; Sweden All Saints. 11/5: Guy Fawkes Day. 11/6: Halfway Point of Autumn. 11/8: Punsters; Abet and Aid Punsters; Cook Something Bold and Pungent; National Young Reader's Day. 11/10: USMC Birthday, Veterans Day (Observed); Lung Cancer Awareness; 11/11: Veterans Day; Remembrance Day; Vox Populi Day. Cook Something Bold Day. 11/12: America Recycles Day. 11/13: World Kindness Day. 11/14: Children's Day (India); National American Teddy Bear; National Community Education Day. 11/15: Gypsy Condemnation Order Anniversary, Shichi-Go-San (Japan); National Educational Support Personnel Day. 11/16: *Great American Smokeout; World Harvest, International Day for Tolerance; 11/17: World Peace Day. 11/19: World's Men's, Have a Bad Day; 11/20: Universal Children's; UN African Industrialization Day. 11/21: UN World Television; World Hello Day. 11/22: National Stop the Violence Day. 11/23: *Thanksgiving Day (US) 11/24: Sinkie Day; Buy Nothing; "What Do You Love about America Day; 11/25: You're Welcomgiving Day. 11/29: UN International Day of Solidarity with the Palestinian People. 11/30: Computer Security; Stay Home Because You're Well Day.

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