Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

APRIL 24

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

April 24 - Take Our Children to Work Day, sponsored by the Ms Foundation for Women. (Always the fourth Thursday in April) 3 out of 10 corporations in the U.S. and more than 19 million participants in 1999, this is a day to take your children to work to experience what you do and to teach them the value of self-sufficiency. This is a new program dedicated to helping our nation’s daughters and sons explore their future opportunities at work, at home, and in their community. www.daughtersandsonstowork.org We support this program and encourage you to participate. There are other options, not alternatives, but options. Read about Daughters and Sons and Kids programs. * China became the fifth nation to orbit a satellite with launch of its own rocket (China 1). Broadcast Chinese song "Tang Fang Hung" ("The East is Red") and telemetric signals. * IBM introduced their first personal computer. (1981) * This is the 200th anniversary o the Library of Congress, one of the world's greatest libraries. * Birthdays: Anthony Trollope, Vince Ferragamo, George N Bascom, Edmund Cartwright, Robert Bailey Thomas, Eric Balfour, Eric Bogosian, Chipper Jones, Stanley J. Kauffmann, Michael O'Keefe, Robert Penn Warren - America's first official poet laureate.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Ways to Stay in Touch. Grandparents serve as a release valve for kids' structured lives. While children recognize parents as the guardians of their daily lives, they see grandparents as accepting comforters. Research supports that grandparents can positively influence children's development. Here are some ways to help keep your kids and parents connected - even when distance makes visits few and far between:  Have your child write a story that her grandparents can add to and send back for additions. Try planting twin gardens in the grandparents' and child's backyards. Then compare progress by mailing photos and drawings. Send videotapes of the children's latest achievements and mail or fax child's drawings. Family Feelings

Donald Shirley, African American jazz and classical pianist, has a Ph.D. in psychology; in what area did he earn a second Ph.D.? Answer below. African American History

Men need to know that you've never been married too long to bathe together. - Mary, 46 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Parents often have favorites - just as children may seem to prefer one parent over the other; But try not to let your preferences be as obvious. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

The vehicle registration form used by the Massachusetts Department of Motor Vehicles has a "Change of Information" section that includes a box to check for "sex change". Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Whether we recognize it consciously or not, women and men in the mid- to late forties are simultaneously undergoing the dying of youth and stumbling into the infancy of Second Adulthood. The striving, competing, proving, and besting of rivals that lent a furious intensity to our young adulthood, forming the basis of our ego identities, now feel more like a dull repetition of duty. New Passages

Happy Birthday Robert B.! Born in Grafton, Massachusetts, in 1766, Robert Bailey Thomas was the first of 12 editors of The Old Farmer's Almanac, now in its 206th year. Thomas put out 54 editions before he died in 1846. The Old Farmer's Almanac

You must have something in order to give it up. You cannot give up anything you have not already gotten. If you give up winning without ever having won, you are where you were at the beginning: loser. You must forge for yourself an identity before you can lose it. This may seem incredibly elementary, but I think it is necessary to say it, since there are many people I know who posses a vision of evolution yet seem to lack the will for it. The Road Less Traveled

Responding to the fateful dimensions of their own experience and of the relationship itself, a couple can lay the foundation for genuine spirituality as an ingredient in their love. Soul Mates

A boat doesn't go forward if each is rowing his own way. - African Proverb. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About. Egg salad on toast. Holding hands for the first time. Wearing short-sleeved shirts again. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Continuing to punish yourself for a protracted period of time only creates a bigger gap between your and your ethics, and the bigger that gap, the greater the chance that you will repeat the unacceptable behavior. Your conscience is not your enemy; it is there to remind you to stay on track and stick to your values. Notice the feeling it is sending you, learn the lesson, and move on. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Poems don't have to rhyme. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

The personal power that comes from principle-centered living is the power of a self-aware, knowledgeable, proactive individual, unrestricted by the attitudes, behaviors, and actions of others or by many of the circumstances and environmental influences that limit other people. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Teach your kids fiscal responsibility. Kids can learn that if they don't have the money, they can't afford it, and that buying on credit can often lead to serious financial difficulties.  Simplify Your Life

Remember the Hokey Pokey you did as a kid (or at the last wedding.)  Try it again as a stress reliever to shake tension out of the various parts of your body. Stress Busters

Set your kids up in the business of selling homemade postcards. Trace a postcard onto white poster board. On one side, draw a colorful picture. On the other side, draw a vertical line down the middle. Draw a square the size of a stamp in the upper right-hand corner. Sell the cards for 10 or 20 cents.  To Do Today

If past history was all there was to the game, the richest people would be librarians. - Warren Buffett. Win the Day!

La calle (KAHyeh) Street. No he pisado la calle. I haven't been out. (Lit. I have not stepped on the street.) Living Language

Answer: Liturgical literature.

TODAY'S ISSUE: MEN'S FEELINGS

Men often enter genuine feeling for the first time when in deep grief, after cheerfulness and excitement have failed for years to bring them there. - Robert Bly

Men feel, very deeply. If you ever have any doubt, look at the music and art that Mozart, Picasso, and other men have created to express feelings - our individual ones, those of our gender, and those on behalf of all people. Men have much to be proud of with respect to feelings. The diversity of our feelings, many of which we do not yet have words for, is considerable.

Men sometimes lack the words to express feelings. This does not mean that we are without feelings or that our feelings lack importance, simply that their expression in a verbal form may not be immediately forthcoming. Sometimes a man turns to something physical or artistic, rather than verbal, to communicate. It is important for men to avoid using feminine guidelines for feelings. Men can learn from women, certainly, and in many ways the sexes are alike. But in some areas, such as feelings and their expression, we can be quite different. We need not judge ourselves harshly if we are not fluent in the language of feelings.

How might I express my feelings today in a way that is appropriate to who I am? A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Without intercourse, pleasure each other to orgasm. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

Opposites as Equals: Standard differences between men and women and how to resolve them by Richard and Nancy Ann Driscoll. We can not longer afford to so misunderstand our opposites. See why men are more intrigued by casual sex and tend to be opportunists, but try to conceal it; while women are more easily offended and are more insistent in arguments, but insist that it is not so. See why men are more highly stressed in personal confrontations and withdraw to avoid unpleasantries, which women interpret as indifference. And much, much more. This book finds ways to bridge our differences based on traditional principles of equal concern and shared advantages for men and women. theOppositeSex.info Westside Psychology, 2009, ISBN: 978-0-9634126-6-9

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  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
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  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
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  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
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  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
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  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

April is Alcohol Awareness; Animal Cruelty Prevention; California Earthquake Preparedness; *Cancer Control, Community Spirit; Couple Appreciation; *Child Abuse Prevention; Holy Humor; Home Improvement Safety; International Amateur Radio; International Customer Loyalty; International Daffynitions; International Legacy; International Twit Award; International Work Life Enrichment; Keep American Beautiful; Mathematics Education; Month of the Young Child; National Autism Awareness; National Humor; National Knuckles Down; National Lawn and Garden; National Poetry Month, National Self-Publishing; National Sexually Transmitted Diseases Education and Awareness; National Youth Sports Safety; Occupational Therapy; Prevent Injuries America; School Library Media; Spring Ahead for Life; Stress Awareness (breathe); World Habitat Awareness; Zam! Zoo and Aquarium Month. And, depending on the school system, it's also Spring Break.

Mar 13-Apr 15: Deaf History Month. Mar 25-Apr 4: Muharram. Mar 26-Apr 2: Navaratri/Gangaur. And Apr 1-7 Testicular Cancer Awareness Week - Get a Grip!, Genital Integrity Awareness Week, Washington, D.C.; Golden Rule; Dumb; International Building Safety; National Blue Ribbon; National Library; National Medical Patient Advocacy; National Occupational Therapy; National Pecan; National Pet First Aid Awareness; National Poetry; Passion; Week of the Young Child Week. Apr 2-6: Strolf-Stretch Week. Apr 2-8: National Public Health Week. Apr 4-10: Hate Week. Apr 6-8: Alcohol-Free Weekend. Apr 8-14: National Garden; National Week of the Ocean; Network Marketing Professionals; *Pan American; Holy Week. Apr 12-18: National Minority Cancer Awareness Week. Apr 15-21: Grange; National Infant Immunization; *National Organ and Tissue Donor Awareness; Reading is Fun Week. Apr 16-20: Consumer Awareness; Egg Salad; Explore Your Career Options; Family Laughing Through Stories; *National Crime Victims Rights; *National Organ and Tissue Donor Awareness; National Organize Your Files; Young People's Poetry Week. Apr 17-23: National Park Week. Apr 21-22: Just Pray No: Worldwide Weekend Prayer. Apr 21-23: Earth Day Weekend. Apr 21-May 2: Festival of Ridvan. Apr 22-28: Administration Professionals; National Karaoke; *National Volunteer; Sky Awareness Week. Apr 22-29: *Jewish Heritage Week. Apr 23-29: Astronomy; National Playground Safety; National TV  Turnoff; National YMCA Week. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science and Technology Week.

Apr 1: April Fools'; Check Your Batteries; Lupus Alert; National Repot Your Plant; Sorry Charlie Day; Testicular Cancer - What is it?, Apr 2: International Children's Book; Reconciliation Day, Testicular Cancer - Symptoms. Apr 3 - Testicular Cancer - What the doctors look for . Apr 4: Thank You, School Librarian; Victims of Violence Holy; Testicular Cancer - Prevention, Apr 5 - National Alcohol Screening; *National Equal Pay; National Fun at Work; National Tomb-Sweeping (Taiwan); Tartan Day; Testicular Cancer - Treatment, Apr 6 - Testicular Cancer - Prognosis, Apr 7 -National Hug Your Newsman; UN World Health Day. Testicular Cancer - Automatic monthly reminder, self-exam and other resources. Apr 8: International Feng Shui Awareness Day. Apr 9: *National Former Prisoner of War Recognition; Winston Churchill Day. Apr 10: National Siblings; Salvation Army Founder's Day. Apr 11:  Barbershop Quarter Day. Apr 12: Vote Lawyers Out of Office Day. Apr 13: Blame Someone Else; National D.A.R.E. Day, Apr 14: International Moment of Laughter; *Pan American; Remembrance Day. Apr 15: National Coin Day. Apr 17: Blah Blah Blah; National Stress Awareness; National Positive Alternatives for Living; Verrazanoo Day. Apr 18: Pet Owners Independence; Third World Day. Apr 19: John Parker Day. Apr 20: Holocaust; National Youth Service Day. Apr 21: Earth Environmental Angels; Kindergarten; San Jacinto Day. Apr 22: Earth Day Anniversary; Girl Scout Leader Day. Apr 25: Administrative Professionals, Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting Awareness Day. Apr 26: Day of Silence; Hug an Australian: National Playground Safety; Richter Scale; Take Our Daughters to Work Day. Apr 27: Hug a Prom Sponsor; National Arbor National Child Care Professionals; National Hairball Awareness Day, Apr 28: Astronomy; Kiss Your Mate; National Sense of Smell; Native American Heritage Day. Apr 29: Mother, Father Deaf; National Puppetry Day. Apr 30: International Dare of Live; International Walk; National Honesty; Spank Out Day USA.

In all of this, don't let Child Abuse Prevention get lost. Check out our extensive sections of issues: Abuse, Circumcision, Gangs, Hazing, Incest/Molestation, Ritual Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Sexual Harassment, Suicide, TV violence, Violence, Domestic Violence, Women's Violence and Prisons. and Books - Abuse of Boys, Child Abuse, Abuse - MPD, Ritual Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Circumcision, Anger, Forgiveness, Violence, Domestic Violence, Sexual Violence, Sexual Harassment, and Women's Violence.

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