Daily Thoughts & Issues

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MAY 2

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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May 2 - *National Day of Prayer - Day to pray for freedom of expression, freedom of religion, and separation of church and state throughout the world. * Asthma Awareness Day. The Allergy & Asthma Network and Mothers of Asthmatics Inc features up-do-date information, products and research data. 800.878.4403 or www.aanma.org * Ramanavami - Birthday of Hindu God Rama protector of beloved wife Sita. * Day for meditation on Tantric Bodhisattva and the equality of all sentient beings.* Three days of rioting in South Central Los Angeles following the Rodney King verdict leaves 37 dead and 1,500 injured. (1992) King James 1 had appointed a committee of learned men to produce a new translation of the Bible in English. Anniversary of the birth of Henry M. Robert (General, US Army), author of Robert's Rules of Order (1837), a standard parliamentary guide. * Birthdays: Pinky (Pincus Leff) Lee, Larry Gatlin, Theodore Bikel, Harry Lillis "Bing" Crosby, Satyahit Ray, Benjamin Spock, David Suchet. Death Day of Leonardo da Vinci, inventor of the parachute.

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DAILY THOUGHTS

On this day in 1844, Elijah McCoy, who will receive over fifty patents for his practical inventions and whose products will bear the distinction of being "the real McCoy," is born in Ontario, Canada. African American History

When we love someone our loves becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion - through the fact that for that someone (or for ourselves) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful. The Road Less Traveled

Some marriages characteristically ask for distance, others for closeness; some for children, some for the life of a couple. Some apparently want to be brief, some lifelong. Soul Mates

I love it when he massages my butt while we're doing it. - Carmen, 23 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Each year there are over 200,000 accidents on playgrounds. To keep your children safe, look for soft ground coverings; check for splinters and rusted bolts; avoid slides higher than six feet; and keep your eyes on your children! Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Each of us tells our own personal life story to ourselves, every day. Psychologists have found that the ways people tell their stories become so habitual that they finally become recipes for structuring experience itself, for laying down routes into memory, and finally, for guiding their lives. New Passages

Weather Lore:  A hot May makes a fat churchyard. Fickle drops sprinkle crops. Grants galore, screen the door!  Cast not a clout 'til May be out. The Old Farmer's Almanac

When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. - Keller Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Fried onions and Italian sausage. Grammar nuances. Enthusiastic book reviews. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

If it's in your way, climb over it. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

 Remembering is the moment when you awaken to your truth. Forgetting is the temporary amnesia that sets in when your truth is occluded. When you feel stuck, you have forgotten your truth. When you cannot break through, you have forgotten. When you move too far away from your conscious awareness, you lose touch with the universal wisdom that is inherent in all humans. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

It is one thing to make a mistake and quite another thing not to admit it. People will forgive mistakes, because mistakes are usually of the mind - mistakes of judgment. But people will not easily forgive the mistakes of the heart - the ill intention; the bad motives; the prideful, justifying cover-up of the first mistake.  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Examine all the areas of your life, and figure out where you can slow down. If you've simplified a lot of your daily and weekly routines, you now have more time. Use some of it to reduce your overall pace of life s you derive more pleasure from each thing you do throughout the day. Simplify Your Life

If you feel you can turn to few people in your life in times of stress, consider following possibilities for increasing your social support:  Join a support group. Find friendships along with spiritual support trough a church or synagogue. Take a class. Join a health club. Volunteer time helping others. (Editor: Take a workshop or training.) Stress Busters

Help your kids dream up a purr-fect pet name!  Check out Don't Call Me Rover!! 5001 names to call your pet by Rita Blockton. Each name has a cute explanation. My favorite?  For two pets?  Ice cream and Sprinkles! To Do Today

Providence has nothing good or high in store for one who does not resolutely aim at something high or good. A purpose is the eternal condition for success. - Thorton T. Munger Win the Day!

La Bancarrota (bahnkahRROHtah) Bankruptcy. Tu tren de vida te va a llevar a la bancarrota. Your lifestyle will lead you to bankruptcy. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: PAIN

A thousand people drowned in floods are news; a solitary child drowned in a pond is tragedy. - Josephine Tey

Great grief cuts deeply into our lives, unlike the vaguer sorrow we feel for the losses of others. We need time to heal from such pain, and when we treat ourselves with loving patience and prayer, mourning softens our spirits, making us compassionate even in detachment.

We can never feel the same grief for the unknown people killed in floods, famine, or volcanic eruption as we do for those we know, but they're more than news. They are sons, daughters, sisters, fathers, mothers, brothers, cousins, aunts, and uncles; other people feel their loss as keenly as we mourn ours.

Fully grieving our personal losses makes us understand how previous is the life of every individual. Compassion for others is different from personal agony, though the source of both is in the same wounded love. Accepting comfort from our spiritual source will strengthen us to face our next encounter, whatever it may be.

Thought for Today: The gift of pain is compassion. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. If you'll carry it, they will load more on. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

Why Boys Fail: Saving our sons from an educational system that's leaving them behind by Richard Whitmire. Parents and educators have seen it for years: elementary schools swarming with fidgety boys who hold their pencils funny. But what they don't see is that in recent years, the lackluster performances of boys often fails to improve with maturity. Boys are in trouble. However you slice the numbers - fifth-graders in special ed, ninth-graders in held back, low senior grade point averages, high school dropouts, fewer college graduates - boys are performing far below girls. And they're performing far below the expectations of today's market-place, where more and more jobs require college degrees. This book is a sweeping survey of one of the most misunderstood and sometimes totally ignored problems of our day - the precipitous slide in boys' academic achievement, which cuts across racial and economic divides and affects boys around the English-speaking world. The author draws on extensive journalistic skill and experience to pick apart the prevailing theories of what is causing boys to fail - feminized classrooms, toxic boy cultures, mind-numbing video games - and shows how each contributes to the problem but fails to wholly explain it. Instead, the author reverses course from the usual finger-pointing to uncover what is actually working in schools to bring boys up to speed, and draws his conclusions from there. The answer is simple yet monumental: the world has become increasingly verbal, but boys have not. From heightened kindergarten reading expectations to lauguage-dense math problems, many boys lack the reading and writing skills needed to keep pace. Their lagging literacy skills snowball through the schools years and ultimately derail ambitions and prospects. This book is not simply a depressing assessment of the fate of our nation's boys; it also offers suggestions for what works. Packed with inspiring case studies of schools that have successfully implemented programs for improving literacy - such as intensive phonics instruction and ongoing reading instruction in the middle years - this extensively researched, persuasive book is a must-read for parents and educators alike. It opens your eyes to the magnitude of boys' academic underachievement and uncovers effective solutions to countering this deeply troubling and widely misunderstood problem. Amacom, www.amacombooks.org, 2010 ISBN 0-8144-1534-2

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May.

May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day.

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