Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

SEPTEMBER 10

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It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Month. Remember to visit "Today" during the week of September 19-25. It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Week and we will feature a different issue each day concerning prostate cancer.

September 10 -  National Assisted Living Week. * Ganesha Chaturthi-Hindu festival honoring God Ganesha as the challenger-creator and remover of obstacles. * President Kennedy federalizes the Alabama National Guard to halt Gov. Wallace's attempts to delay school integration (1963).* Swap Ideas Day. * American Goes Back to School*. Birthdays: Carter Braxton, Charles Kuralt, Franz Werfel, Roger Maris, Jose Feliciano, Colin Firth, Matt Geiger, Clark Johnson, Randy Johnson, Karl Lagerfeld, Arnold Palmer, Robert Wise.

DAILY THOUGHTS

"I am not young enough to know everything." - Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) "I am in the prime of senility."  - Joel Chandler Harris (1848-1908). The Old Farmer's Almanac

The reason grandparents and grandchildren get along so well is that they have a common enemy. - Sam Levenson Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

To be in love is to be in play, to be taken by illusions. We are deceived so that soul can create something out of the stuff of our emotions and fantasies. Soul Mates

What we learn about the nature of the world when we are growing up is determined by the actual nature of our experience in the microcosm of the family. It is not so much what our parents say that determines our world view as it is the unique world they create for us by their behavior. The Road Less Traveled

I wish men would be more patient. Good orgasms take time - Polly, 38 I feel bad enough when I come too soon. It adds insult to injury when you ask me to get up and get you your vibrator. - Vance, 28 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

How, if we don't march ourselves out to the end of a limb and jump in new directions now and then, shall we continue to learn?  And if we don't continue to learn, how shall we continue to develop?  New Passages

Things to Be Happy About: New potatoes in sugared butter. Your own spaghetti sauce. Answers. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

It's easier to spend the money in your grandfather's pocket than the money in your own. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Commitment moves you out of yourself toward something greater than yourself. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Found in San Francisco in 1979, the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence is an order of gay male "nuns" involved in charitable and political activities. Today, the Sisters have grown to include houses in Europe (England, Germany, and France) as well as in New Zealand and Australia.  Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Carpe diem! Seize the day! You can't change the past, it's over and done, and the future isn't here yet. The only day you have is today, so give yourself to it with joy and gratitude. Stress Busters

Take the time to watch the sun set. Even if the sunset itself is not spectacular, it marks the beginning of the end of another day. It's a great time to pause and take notice. Simplify Your Life

The greater the difficulty, the greater the glory. - Cicero Win the Day!

El estrenno (ehsTREHnoh) Premiere. Esta noche es el estreno. Tonight's the premiere. Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: GRANDFATHERS

The greeting cards say things like "You couldn't be forgotten, Now that Grandparents Day is here" and "Sometimes we get so busy, that the time just slips away, and we forget to mention..." etc. Most of us don't even know grandparents have a special day (unless you're in the greeting card business). Yet, without this day, how many of us would think to call, send a card, spend some time with, in most cases, the elders of our clan. And, then there are those grandparents in "old folks" homes, in gated communities, put neatly on the shelf of past memories. Many of them are filled with lessons to teach and stories to tell and hugs for us and our children. True, chances are their time is shorter than ours. However, when it's up, there's no chance to ask that question about their lives, about their children (your parents), about how different their world was from ours. How different our future is from theirs. When our grandfathers were growing up, men lived to be 55 if they were lucky. They saw a lot of men - their fathers and grandfathers - die much younger. Chances are they experienced the depression, two world wars, Korea, Viet Nam and the Gulf War. They saw friends, some even saw their sons (your brothers) go off and never come back, or come back severally damaged. They've seen a lot and it was upfront, real, not on the internet or some smart bomb dropping down a chimney 7,000 miles away. So, spend some "quality" time with "pops", "gramps", whatever you're nickname was. And, make a point now to put some time aside to call (and talk) atleast once a month, if not more. They are your bones, your DNA, your past. Don't let them fade into the sunset without getting every bit of knowledge and warmth you can from them. For, tomorrow may be too late. On the eve of Grandparents day, as I write this, I stumbled across a letter I wrote to my grandpa 7 Sep 1962. It was shortly after he had passed away which I was serving in Panama. It's tough remembering too late to ask the questions. (Letter.)

No one...who has not known that inestimable privilege can possibly realize what food fortune it is to grow up in a house where there are grandparents. - Suzanne LaFollette. Not every grandfather is wise or handy; not every grandmother is a wonderful cook or a skilled nurse. Some grandparents are bedridden or chronically ill and cranky. Some require a lot of care and aren't able to give much attention to others. Yet their presence in the home is still a privilege for their grandchildren, for they are living witnesses of human history, a link with the past, an evidence of the continuity of family life. Children learn history in school, but they learn life in their families. How much more vivid it is to hear about the Depression or the Second World War from someone who was there, who was involved, who can tell you what life was like in a steel mill or a defense plant or in battle, what it was lie to shop wit ration coupons, and what the popular songs and dances were. In a real sense, grandparents help children believe in the world. And at its best, the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren can be a liberating alliance of old and young against the authority of the parents, showing old people the values of the young and young people the strengths of the old. Family Feelings

Senior Resources

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Did I have access to my grandparents' hard-won wisdom about the world? I'll make mine available to my grandchildren, if I have any. Family Feelings Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

Let Go Now: Embracing detachment. Set boundaries and make your life your own by Karen Casey. Do you ever feel like you give other people too much power over what you think and feel? Does how your mate/child/employer treats you make or break your day? Do you find yourself feeling immobilized by other people's expectations and demands? Maybe the people in your life have been telling you to back off and let them be who they are, or you're just a little too invested in what your loved ones do and say, as if it somehow reflects on you. These are the classic indicators of codependence. And what the best-selling author shows us within the pages of this book is that the only solution to codependence is to embrace detachment. Through these meditations you will become keenly attuned to the difference between influence and control, a distinction that will help you determine which behaviors trap you and which ones set you free. This seeming paradox - embracing "bringing near us} detachment (separation) - holds the key to our inner peace and that of those around us as well. Conari Press, www.redwheelweiser.com, 2010 ISBN 978-1-57324-466-4

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  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
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  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
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  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
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  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
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  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
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  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
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  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
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  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

September is Baby Safety Awareness, Children's Eye Health & Safety, Children's Good Manners, Christmas Seal, Cholesterol Education, Fall Hat, Gay Square Dance, Library Card Sign-up, Little League, Organic Harvest, Pediculosis Prevention, Piano, Pleasure Your Mate, Project Aware, Prosperity Creation, School Success, Sea Cadet, Self Awareness, Self-Improvement, Shameless Promotion, and Sickle Cell Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 8/29-9/4: National Sobriety Checkpoint Week, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, www.madd.org; 9/1-7: Childhood Injury Prevention; Self-University Week. 9/4-10: Full Employment Week, Mental Health Workers Week.. 9/5-9: Play Days. 9/9-16: National Five-A-Day Week. 9/10-16: National Suicide Prevention; Substitute Teacher Appreciation; National Brainstorming and Mind Mapping; Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week: 9/14-20 Dementia Awareness Week (Australia) 9/17-23: *Constitution; Balance Awareness; Love a Mensch; Farm Safety and Health; Historically Black Colleges and Universities; Rehabilitation Awareness; Single's Week. 9/19-25 - Prostate Cancer Awareness Week; 9/23-30: Banned Books, Religious Freedom Week. 9/23-29 - Deaf Awareness, National Dog Week; 9/23-24: Family Health & Fitness. 9/10: Swap Ideas Day. 9/17 *Citizenship Day. 9/19: International Day of Peace. 9/22: National Centenarians, Proposal Day. 9/23: Kiwanis Kids', *National Hunting & Fishing, Smash Out Suicide Day, 9/24: *Gold Star Mother's, National Good Neighbor, World Heart Day. 9/27: Ancestor Appreciation Day. 9/28: Cabrillo Day

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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