Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

SEPTEMBER 4

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Month. Remember to visit "Today" during the week of September 19-25. It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Week and we will feature a different issue each day concerning prostate cancer.

September 4 - Arkansas governor Orval Faubus calls out the National Guard to bar African American students from entering a Little Rock high school (1957). African American History. * John Ehrilichman and G. Gordon Liddy are indicted in connection with the Watergate break-in and ensuing cover up. (1973). * Birthdays: Richard Wright, Paul Harvey, Alexander Liberman, Michael Joseph (Mike) Piazza, Thomas Sturges (Tom) Watson, Francois Rene de Chateaubriand, Damon Wayans, Anton Bruckner, Daniel Burnham.

Test smoke and carbon monoxide detectors!

DAILY THOUGHTS

Are you creating additional labor and unnecessary stress for yourself by taking over responsibilities that actually belong to others? If so, today is a good day to give up doing for others what they can do for themselves.  Stress Busters

Hobbies are self-nurturing activities. In loving ourselves-that is, nurturing ourselves for the purpose of spiritual growth-we need to provide ourselves with all kinds of things that are not directly spiritual. The Road Less Traveled

On his birthday, ten-year-old Tony was asked the inevitable question, "What do you want to be when you grow up?"  After considerable thought, he responded, "Well, first I want to be a scientist, then I want to be an astronaut. Then, when I've thought everything there is to think, I want to be president of the United States."  Kids say the damnedest things! Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

We want solutions and resolutions, and we want them quickly, but one of the benefits to being patient with contradictions is an expansion of soul. Soul Mates

It gets me off so fast when we're in the missionary position and she raises up to meet my thrusts. - Bill, 31 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

An impressive study of the sources of well-being in men at sixty-five found that by that age the harbinger of their emotional health was not a stable childhood or a high-flying career. Rather, it was much more important to have developed an ability to handle life's accidents and conflicts without passivity, blaming or bitterness. New Passages

Never let work drive you. Master it and keep it in complete control. - Booker T. Washington Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: National holidays. A not-too-hot picnic day. Good labor-management relations. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Cheer! Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Once in a while you get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right. - Jerry Garcia.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Where would you find people with lots of big hair and names like "Lady Bunny" and "Deee-lite"?  Gay & Lesbian Calendar See Answer below.

Whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom and power. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

How Families can be More Resilient. The ability to handle whatever life deals you is know as resiliency. Often, we read about families that crumble under the weight of crises. Here are some coping mechanisms that act as a family's "glue": Maintain a sense of optimism. Many resilient families have found new meaning in life as a result of their difficulties. Don't lose sight of your moral, spiritual or religious underpinnings. Having a strong conviction about "doing the right thing" can make an enormous difference when you're struggling to survive. And try to hold on to your sense of humor.  Parents Tips & Tricks

We've become a nation of spenders rather than savers. If you're living on the edge, getting to the point where you can stash away a good portion of your income each month will go a long way toward simplifying your life. Simplify Your Life

A+d+d. Add up license plate numbers in your head. It's fun to do while traveling, especially if you like math. You can even try it today on a short car ride! To Do Today

People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom? - Thich Nhat Hanh. Win the Day!

Invitar a salir. (eenbeeTAHR ah sahLEER) To ask out. Estas invitandome a salir?  Are you asking me out?  Living Language

Answer: At Wigstock, an annual drag festival held in New York City each Labor Day weekend.

 

TODAY'S ISSUE: WORK

Run, if you like, but try to keep your breath; Work like a man, but don't be worked to death. - Dr. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. If some of us are driven to fill our days with work, with accomplishments, with meetings, exchanges of one kind or another, we need to apportion those hours with time for our children, our lovers, our thoughts, our hobbies, our true selves. It's not that there's anything wrong with being "busy", but there's plenty wrong with being "busy" just for the sake of taking up time. Being "busy" is often a smokescreen, something to hide behind. But what are we hiding from?  If we stopped being "busy," what might we have to face? I will keep in mind why I'm busy, and I'll do my best not to kick up dust just to look busy. There's too much of great and wonderful interest to fake involvement. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

Blessed is he who has found his work; let him ask no other blessedness. - Thomas Carlyle. The work we do should feed our soul and keep it strong, as good food nourishes the body. Sometimes we work only for the money and survival, because it may be that that's all we can do at the moment. But often we work this way because we've living someone else's life rather than our own. Are we working to bring a father's or a mother's dreams to fruition? Or perhaps we have convinced ourselves that it's better to be rich than happy. Do we believe the two are mutually exclusive? We must reflect on these questions with courage, to find out whether we're doing work that blesses ourselves and others. Before the years run out, we need to be sure we're not running from our heart's desire out of fear or a desire for approval. We must be true to our inner life, because it's the only life we can be certain of. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Today I'll look at my work. If it doesn't ring true, if it's not "my bliss," I'll do some interior work necessary to discover my next step. If I find that I'm doing what I'm meant to do, then it falls to me to feel thankful. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

 It Ain't Just the Size by M. G. Hardie. Princess, an office manager, has returned to her old stomping ground after a three year absence to heal her heart. She is independent and successful, but something is missing. What's missing is Lance, a hard working man, determined father who is preoccupied with school and obligation. A large one bedroom apartment is where these two passionate hearts collide. When the world is against you, sometimes all you have is hope. This book is a deeply filled play on morality, an ongoing social commentary for our times. When Lance's friends show up anything can and does happen. www.mghardie.com, Aventine Press, 2010 ISBN 978-1-59330-647-2

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

September is Baby Safety Awareness, Children's Eye Health & Safety, Children's Good Manners, Christmas Seal, Cholesterol Education, Fall Hat, Gay Square Dance, Library Card Sign-up, Little League, Organic Harvest, Pediculosis Prevention, Piano, Pleasure Your Mate, Project Aware, Prosperity Creation, School Success, Sea Cadet, Self Awareness, Self-Improvement, Shameless Promotion, and Sickle Cell Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 8/29-9/4: National Sobriety Checkpoint Week, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, www.madd.org; 9/1-7: Childhood Injury Prevention; Self-University Week. 9/4-10: Full Employment Week, Mental Health Workers Week.. 9/5-9: Play Days. 9/9-16: National Five-A-Day Week. 9/10-16: National Suicide Prevention; Substitute Teacher Appreciation; National Brainstorming and Mind Mapping; Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week: 9/14-20 Dementia Awareness Week (Australia) 9/17-23: *Constitution; Balance Awareness; Love a Mensch; Farm Safety and Health; Historically Black Colleges and Universities; Rehabilitation Awareness; Single's Week. 9/19-25 - Prostate Cancer Awareness Week; 9/23-30: Banned Books, Religious Freedom Week. 9/23-29 - Deaf Awareness, National Dog Week; 9/23-24: Family Health & Fitness. 9/10: Swap Ideas Day. 9/17 *Citizenship Day. 9/19: International Day of Peace. 9/22: National Centenarians, Proposal Day. 9/23: Kiwanis Kids', *National Hunting & Fishing, Smash Out Suicide Day, 9/24: *Gold Star Mother's, National Good Neighbor, World Heart Day. 9/27: Ancestor Appreciation Day. 9/28: Cabrillo Day

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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