Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

DECEMBER 3

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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December 3 - Bhopal Poison Gas Disaster, 1983 in India. A leak of deadly gas (methyl isocyanate) at a Union Carbide Corp plant killed more than 2,000 persons and injured more than 200,000 in the world's worst industrial accident. * Dr. Christian Barnard, a South African surgeon, performed the world's first successful heart transplantation at Cape Town (1967). * UN International Day of Disabled Persons to promote the continuation of integrating the disabled into general society. * Day the world's nations committed to banning the production and use of land mines (1997). Birthdays:  Joseph Conrad, Carlos Montoya, Gilbert Charles Stuart, Jean Luc Godard, Rick Ravon Mears, Sven Vilhem Nykvist, Ozzy Osbourne, Andy Williams.

DAILY THOUGHTS

God's Truce: An institution of the Middle Ages, a means introduced by the Church, to check...the hostile spirit of the times, by establishing certain days or periods during which all private feuds were to cease. It seems to have taken its rise about the latter part of the tenth...century. At first, the Church forbade all feuds on those days of the week which were specially consecrated by the death and resurrection of Christ, namely from Thursday evening to Monday morning, and threatened with excommunication any who transgressed that order. Afterwards, the period was extended so as to include...the beginning of Advent to the Epiphany, and certain other times. The precincts of churches, convents and graveyards were also interdicted from any hostile encounters - T. Ellwood Zell's Popular Encyvlopedia, 1871. Forgotten English * The ending of a relationships is as mysterious as the beginning. In the origins of a relationship fate often plays a dominant role, and as time goes on, fate continues to give a relationship its twists and turns. Soul Mates

On this day in 1847 Frederick Douglas's and Martin Delaney start the North Star, an antislavery paper. African American History

A big nose can enhance oral sex. - Paula, 28 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Remember that some kids act up because negative attention is better than no attention. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

"The only real hope of people today is probably a renewal of our certainty that we are rooted in the Earth and, at the same time, the cosmos," suggests Vaclav Havel, president of the Czech Republic. "This awareness endows us with the capacity for self-transcendence." New Passages

Presidential Power:  I sit here all day trying to persuade people to do the things they ought to have sense enough to do without my persuading them.... That's all the powers of the president amount to. - Harry S Truman (1884-1972) The Old Farmer's Almanac

Psychotherapy is only a tool - a discipline. It is up to the patient to choose or reject the tool, and once chosen, it is the patient who determines how much to use the tool and to what end. There are people who will overcome all manner of obstacles - for example, insufficient funds, previous disastrous experiences with psychiatrists or psychotherapists, disapproving relatives, cold and rejecting clinics - to obtain therapy and every last ounce of its possible benefit. The Road Less Traveled

Things to Be Happy About:  Getting to sleep in. A big kettle of soup. Cleaning out junk drawers. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Don't wet your pants in school more than once. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Do nothing. Few things will put a hectic, over scheduled lifestyle into perspective faster than learning this skill. Get started, and do nothing.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

To avoid overspending during the holidays, devise a budget of what you can afford to spend for entertaining, activities and gifts, then stick to it. Also, pay cash for as much as you can to avoid the stress of large bills in January.  Stress Busters

In 1990, Frank Buttino sued the FBI after he was fired from his job as an agent upon the disclosure of his homosexuality. As a result of this lawsuit, Attorney General Janet Reno announced in December, 1993 that the US Department of Justice, which oversees the FBI, would no longer tolerate sexual orientation discrimination. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

It is only as we develop others that we permanently succeed. - Harvey S. Firestone Win the Day!

El musical (mooseeKAHL) Musical (N.) Te gusto el musical? Did you like the musical?  Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: PROMISES

Words that do not match deeds are unimportant. - Ernesto "Che" Guevara.

We all deserve intimate relationships of the highest quality with significant others who keep their promises. Especially between lovers, words may seem weighty as deeds: "I love you" should not be said lightly.

Love performed is more than shared pleasure and tenderness, however. The deeds of love require the daily stamina and courage to support and pay attention to our loved one, to place another's happiness alongside our own. The lover who cannot do these things doesn't deserve an important place in our feelings.

Intimacy means risk - the risk of self-disclosure, of becoming and remaining vulnerable to another person. Without this willingness to risk, the tenderest words lack significance. Especially if we're considering establishing a family with our loved one, we need to be sure we're willing to accept such risks.

Our power to love is part of everything we are, and it calls upon our very deepest responses. Every loving relationship echoes our firs blind, dependent love, when we were helpless infants, and we deserve to have our love received with strength and delicacy. Family Feelings

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. My words and deeds must match in order to truly mean the words "I love you." Family Feelings Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

 

BOOK OF THE WEEK

If Your Kid Eats This Book, Everything Will Still Be Okay: How to know if your child's injury or illness is really an emergency by Lara Zibners. As an emergency room pediatrician, the author has seen it all. She's cared for some of the twenty-five million children in the United States who are taken to the ER each year - and she knows that more than 50 percent of these visits may be unnecessary. In this book, she shows parents when they may need to take action and when they may be able to just go back to bed and call their doctor in the morning. No more frantic, late-night searchers through the "what to buy," "how to diaper," or "what to feed him" section s found in other childcare books to find out if little Franny needs to go to the ER. This book focuses on the essential questions, like how to keep her from electrocuting herself in the first place. Not every child has a pediatrician with specialized emergency room experience living in the home. But this book just might be the next best thing. Wellness Central, www.HachetteBookGroup.com, 2009, ISBN 978-0-446-50880-3

SPECIAL URLs

 

MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
    www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html
  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

Plus

  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

December is Kidstuff month. Also check Toy Safety and Happy Holidaze. Holiday Designated Driver, Colorectal Cancer Education and Awareness; Hug-A-Week for Hearing Impaired; International Calendar Awareness; *National Drunk and Drugged Driving Prevention; National Stress-Free Family Holidays; Safe Toys and Gifts; Universal Human Rights Month.

11/1-12/13: Merlin's Snug Hugs for Kids, 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1/00-01/01/01: Tie One on the Safety; 11/4-12/4: Jewish Book Month. 11/26-12/25: Operation Blessing International's 30 Days of Holiday Hope. 12/1-7: National Aplastic Anemia Awareness; Tolerance; 12/10-16: *Human Rights Week. 12/15-21: International Language Week 12/16-24: Posadas.. 12/17-23: Tell Someone They're Doing a Good Job Week. 12/22-29: Chanukah. 12/25-31: It's About Time Week. 12/26-1/1: Kwanzaa. 12/1: Day without Art/*UN World AIDS Day; 12/2: Pan American Health; International Day for the Abolition of Slavery, Advent/Festival of Lights. 12/3: UN International Day of Disabled Persons. 12/5: Bathtub Party; International Volunteer Day for Economy and Social Development Day. 12/7: *National Pearl Harbor Remembrance; UN International Civil Aviation Day. 12/9: UN Convention on Prevention and Punishment of the Crime of Genocide (1948). 12/10: * Human Rights; International Shareware; UN Combat Racism and Racial Discrimination Day. 12/12: Poinsettia Day. 12/15: *Bill of Rights; Underdog; One Day. 12/17: End Violence Against Sex Workers (International) *Pan American Aviation; Wright Brothers Day. 12/20: Louisiana Purchase; Mudd Day. 12/21: Forefathers'; Humbug; Phileas Fogg Wins a Wager; World Peace Day. 12/25: Christmas, A'phabet Day. 12/26: National Whiner's; Boxing Day. 12/28: Holy Innocents Day. 12/29: UN International Day for Biological Diversity Day. 12/31: Namahage (Japan); Make Up Your Mind Day. World Peace Meditation.

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