Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

APRIL 10

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Achieve Your Dreams

April 10 - Bataan Death March Anniversary. (1942) American and Filipino prisoners were herded together by Japanese soldiers and began the Death March. During the six-day march they were given only one bowl of rise. More than 5,200 Americans and many more Filipinos lost their lives in the course of the march. * The Red Army retook the Ukrainian city of Odessa, the port on the northwest coast of the Black Sea (1944) that had been in the hands of the Nazis since 1941. * When Robert Gray docked the Columbia at Boston Harbor in 1790, he became the first American to circumnavigate the earth. * Annual Chicken Little Awards to organizations and individuals "who have frightened the daylights out of large numbers of people with scientifically dubious predictions, theories and statements. www.anxietycenter.com. * Birthday: John Earl Madden, Chuck (Kevin Joseph) Conners, William Booth, Commodore Matthew Calbraith Perry, Hugo Grotius, Joseph Pulitzer, Robert Burns Woodward, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, David Halberstam, Peter MacNicol, Joe Don Meredith, Harry Morgan (Harry Bratsburg), Steven Seagal, Omar Sharif (Michael Shalhoub), Paul Edward Theroux, Max Von Sydow.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Arthur Ashe, who will become a civil rights activist and the first African American to win the U.S. Open and men's singles title at Wimbledon, is born in Richmond, VA, 1943. African American History

The essence of life is change, a panoply of growth and decay. Elect life and growth and you elect change and the prospect of death. The Road Less Traveled

While innocent hope and expectation are a natural part of getting married, they invite experiences that are wounding, that bring us unwillingly and usually unexpectedly into the crucible of marriage. Soul Mates

I love a man who doesn't attack me the moment I start teasing him. Let me have fun making you crazy, then I'll give it all to you. - Joanne, 41 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Some children experience night terrors. These are dreams that occur during deep sleep. You're likely to be awakened by your child's scream, and you may have quite a difficult time waking him or her. Continue to comfort as the dream runs its course. Typically, a child wakes up with no recollection of the "scream dream" and outgrows these dreams by puberty. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Bring Out the Storyteller in Your Child. While children are naturally imaginative, there are things you can do to encourage storytelling. Ask specific questions and make responsive comments. Forget about logic. Don't interrupt to make corrections, such as, "Actually, the tyrannosaurus was a carnivore."  Be sure to involve kids in dinnertime conversations and talk about things that spark their interest. Encourage drawing and dramatic play, which require narration and fantasy. Transcribe their tales. The act of preservation lends a sense of value to the story - and you'll have a terrific keepsake. Family Feelings

Take heart. Get out of your own way. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Taking a "play" break. Maple cream on toast. The designs of nature. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Tune in and honor the messages and answers you receive from your spiritual blueprint. Since your mind chatters constantly, it is often difficult to hear the messages that contain the true answers. When you do hear them, however, they may sound bizarre to you if you are out of touch with your true feelings. Messages that do not coincide with your agenda are easy to dismiss, but still difficult to ignore. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Crying gets you more attention, but not more friends. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

There is a transcendent power in a strong intergenerational family. An effectively interdependent family of children, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins can be a powerful force in helping people have a sense of who they are, where they came from, and what they stand for. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Drop call waiting and sign up for voicemail instead. This way your phone conversation won't be interrupted by incoming calls, but the caller can leave a message which you can return a your convenience.  Simplify Your Life

Bottling up anger or exploding are two common but ineffective ways of managing anger. A study by the University of Michigan School of Public Health has shown that people who deal with their anger in these ways increase their risk of death from stress-related causes by 250%. A healthier way of managing anger is to focus on decreasing your anger arousal to help you calm down enough to think through the best way to address the situation. To decrease anger arousal: Focus on breathing deeply and slowly. Drink an 8-ounce glass of cool water (avoid alcohol or any caffeinated beverage.) Engage in some sort of constructive physical exercise. Stress Busters

Encourage your kids to "groom Their Room!" Find small items, unused furniture, sheets or pillows that you don't want and turn them over. One girl moved out an extra single bed, moved in some tables, and hung up Christmas lights. Now her room looks like a disco!  And, she did it and loves it.  To Do Today

Everybody keeps telling how surprised they are with what I've done. But I'm telling you honestly that it doesn't surprise me. I knew I could do it. - Patrick Ewing. Win the Day! 

La Tarifa (tahREEfah) Fare. Cuanto es la tarifa del taxi al centro?  How much is cad fare downtown? Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: FUN

My life has no purpose, no direction, no aim, no meaning, and yet I'm happy. I can't figure it out. What am I doing right? - Charles Schulz

Am I having fun? Is my life exciting and happy? Well, no one really expects to live a completely joyful and ecstatic life all the time. But I do deserve to be happy and have fun most of the time. For many of us, fun gets pushed into the background of our lives, playing second fiddle to "important things" like work. It's easy to lose perspective. Men are socialized to be "achievement-oriented," although without a sense of fun in our work, we don't take much satisfaction in it. Just a pile of achievements, by themselves, don't give us a great feeling.

Right now get a pencil and a piece of paper. Write down five activities that are the most fun for you., Think about it! After you have made your "fun list", jot down the date of the last time you did that activity. Now look at your list. When was the last time you had fun, doing what you really love to do> If you have not done any of the things on your list in the past week, you are missing out!

Today, I'm going to put aside time, and do something just for fun. If I wait for the perfect time or the perfect place, I'll wait forever. The time to have fun is now. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Congratulate people on their success. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

BOOK OF THE WEEK

So Sexy So Soon: The new sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect their kids, Levin, Diane E. Levin and Jean Kilbourne, Risqué Halloween costumes for young girls. T-shirts that boast "Chick Magnet" for toddler boys. Sexy content on almost every television channel, as well as in movies and video games. Popular culture and technology inundate our boys and girls with an onslaught of graphic sexual messages at earlier ages than ever before. Without the emotional sophistication to understand what they are doing and seeing, kids are getting into increasing trouble emotionally and socially. Parents are left shaking their heads, wondering: How did this happen? What can we do? The authors, internationally recognized experts in childhood development and the impact of the media on children and teens, offer parent essential, age-appropriate strategies to country the assault. Filled with savvy suggestions, helpful sample dialogues, and poignant stories from families dealing with these issues, this book provides parents with the information, skills, and confidence they need to discuss sensitive topics openly and effectively - so their kids can just be kids. www.sosexysosoon.com Ballantine Books, www.ballantinebooks.com, 2009, ISBN 978-0-345-50507-1

 

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

April is Alcohol Awareness; Animal Cruelty Prevention; California Earthquake Preparedness; *Cancer Control, Community Spirit; Couple Appreciation; *Child Abuse Prevention; Holy Humor; Home Improvement Safety; International Amateur Radio; International Customer Loyalty; International Daffynitions; International Legacy; International Twit Award; International Work Life Enrichment; Keep American Beautiful; Mathematics Education; Month of the Young Child; National Autism Awareness; National Humor; National Knuckles Down; National Lawn and Garden; National Poetry Month, National Self-Publishing; National Sexually Transmitted Diseases Education and Awareness; National Youth Sports Safety; Occupational Therapy; Prevent Injuries America; School Library Media; Spring Ahead for Life; Stress Awareness (breathe); World Habitat Awareness; Zam! Zoo and Aquarium Month. And, depending on the school system, it's also Spring Break.

Mar 13-Apr 15: Deaf History Month. Mar 25-Apr 4: Muharram. Mar 26-Apr 2: Navaratri/Gangaur. And Apr 1-7 Testicular Cancer Awareness Week - Get a Grip!, Genital Integrity Awareness Week, Washington, D.C.; Golden Rule; Dumb; International Building Safety; National Blue Ribbon; National Library; National Medical Patient Advocacy; National Occupational Therapy; National Pecan; National Pet First Aid Awareness; National Poetry; Passion; Week of the Young Child Week. Apr 2-6: Strolf-Stretch Week. Apr 2-8: National Public Health Week. Apr 4-10: Hate Week. Apr 6-8: Alcohol-Free Weekend. Apr 8-14: National Garden; National Week of the Ocean; Network Marketing Professionals; *Pan American; Holy Week. Apr 12-18: National Minority Cancer Awareness Week. Apr 15-21: Grange; National Infant Immunization; *National Organ and Tissue Donor Awareness; Reading is Fun Week. Apr 16-20: Consumer Awareness; Egg Salad; Explore Your Career Options; Family Laughing Through Stories; *National Crime Victims Rights; *National Organ and Tissue Donor Awareness; National Organize Your Files; Young People's Poetry Week. Apr 17-23: National Park Week. Apr 21-22: Just Pray No: Worldwide Weekend Prayer. Apr 21-23: Earth Day Weekend. Apr 21-May 2: Festival of Ridvan. Apr 22-28: Administration Professionals; National Karaoke; *National Volunteer; Sky Awareness Week. Apr 22-29: *Jewish Heritage Week. Apr 23-29: Astronomy; National Playground Safety; National TV  Turnoff; National YMCA Week. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science and Technology Week.

Apr 1: April Fools'; Check Your Batteries; Lupus Alert; National Repot Your Plant; Sorry Charlie Day; Testicular Cancer - What is it?, Apr 2: International Children's Book; Reconciliation Day, Testicular Cancer - Symptoms. Apr 3 - Testicular Cancer - What the doctors look for . Apr 4: Thank You, School Librarian; Victims of Violence Holy; Testicular Cancer - Prevention, Apr 5 - National Alcohol Screening; *National Equal Pay; National Fun at Work; National Tomb-Sweeping (Taiwan); Tartan Day; Testicular Cancer - Treatment, Apr 6 - Testicular Cancer - Prognosis, Apr 7 -National Hug Your Newsman; UN World Health Day. Testicular Cancer - Automatic monthly reminder, self-exam and other resources. Apr 8: International Feng Shui Awareness Day. Apr 9: *National Former Prisoner of War Recognition; Winston Churchill Day. Apr 10: National Siblings; Salvation Army Founder's Day. Apr 11:  Barbershop Quarter Day. Apr 12: Vote Lawyers Out of Office Day. Apr 13: Blame Someone Else; National D.A.R.E. Day, Apr 14: International Moment of Laughter; *Pan American; Remembrance Day. Apr 15: National Coin Day. Apr 17: Blah Blah Blah; National Stress Awareness; National Positive Alternatives for Living; Verrazanoo Day. Apr 18: Pet Owners Independence; Third World Day. Apr 19: John Parker Day. Apr 20: Holocaust; National Youth Service Day. Apr 21: Earth Environmental Angels; Kindergarten; San Jacinto Day. Apr 22: Earth Day Anniversary; Girl Scout Leader Day. Apr 25: Administrative Professionals, Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting Awareness Day. Apr 26: Day of Silence; Hug an Australian: National Playground Safety; Richter Scale; Take Our Daughters to Work Day. Apr 27: Hug a Prom Sponsor; National Arbor National Child Care Professionals; National Hairball Awareness Day, Apr 28: Astronomy; Kiss Your Mate; National Sense of Smell; Native American Heritage Day. Apr 29: Mother, Father Deaf; National Puppetry Day. Apr 30: International Dare of Live; International Walk; National Honesty; Spank Out Day USA.

In all of this, don't let Child Abuse Prevention get lost. Check out our extensive sections of issues: Abuse, Circumcision, Gangs, Hazing, Incest/Molestation, Ritual Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Sexual Harassment, Suicide, TV violence, Violence, Domestic Violence, Women's Violence and Prisons. and Books - Abuse of Boys, Child Abuse, Abuse - MPD, Ritual Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Circumcision, Anger, Forgiveness, Violence, Domestic Violence, Sexual Violence, Sexual Harassment, and Women's Violence.

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