Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

OCTOBER 2

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

October 2 - Independence Day in Guinea. * Feast of the Guardian Angels, day to honor one's personal guardian and guide. * Birthday of Mahatma Mohandas Gandhi (1869), Hindu advocate for civil rights and self-reliance, who practiced active nonviolent resistance to injustice. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year * Fast of Gedalya, a Jewish holiday. Hebrew calendar date: Tishri 3, 5761. Tzom Gedalya begins at first light of day and commemorates the 6th century bc assassination of Gedalya Ben Achikam. * Redwood National Park established (1968) in California.* Cartoonist Charles Schultz debuts his Peanuts comic strip (1950) starring Charlie Brown, Snoopy and friends. * Birthdays: Mahatma Mohandas Gandhi, Hindu advocate for human rights and self-relieance, who practiced active non-violent resistance to injustice. Gordon (Sting) Summer, Groucho (Julius Henry) Marx, Graham Greene, Moses Gunn, Clay S. Felker, Don McLean, Red Reed, George (Spanky) McFarland.

Change your toothbrush at least every three months!

DAILY THOUGHTS

 The vaginal walls have no nerve endings. Clitoral stimulation is a must, even after penetration. - Joan, 30 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Traditions are important to any child. They are the ties that bind generations one to another. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

It's not dollars or titles that are most important to people in their sixties; it is the quality and quantity of meaningful human attachments and having something to be excited about. New Passages

Ultimately there is only the one impediment, and that is laziness. If we overcome laziness, all the other impediments will be overcome. If we do not overcome laziness, none of the others will be hurdled. The Road Less Traveled

To arrive at the life that stirs in romantic love requires finding a way through the pains that almost always accompany such love, to the life and vitality that have been generated by means of love's illusions. Soul Mates

Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine present perspiration. - Thomas Edison Achieve Your Dreams

Old Man's Day. In Broghing, Hertfordshire, this day once commemorated the sixteenth-century funeral procession of a farmer who came to life on his way to the cemetery and had to bang on the coffin lid to be let out. Bells rung on this day were rung in the style of a funeral at first and then in celebration.   Forgotten English

Things to Be Happy About:  Smiling at mirrors as you walk by. Ignoring popular opinion. The healing power of nature. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

Pants with pockets are better. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Patience is the display of tolerance while awaiting an outcome. You are presented with the lesson of patience the moment you try to create a change within yourself. You expect immediate results and are often disappointed when your first few attempts to follow through fall short. Growth can be a slow, painstaking process, and patience will provide you with the stamina you need to become the person you want to be.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

As we examine our scripting carefully, many of us will also begin to see beautiful scripts, positive scripts that have been passed down to us which we have blindly taken for granted. Real self-awareness helps us to appreciate those scripts and to appreciate those who have gone before us and nurtured us in principle-based living, reflecting back to us not only what we are, but what we can become. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Establish this easy-to-follow household rule for the whole family: When you take something out of the fridge, a drawer, of the toolbox, put it back where it belongs when you're finished with it.  Simplify Your Life

4-H Week. The Pledge "I pledge my head to clearer thinking, my heart to greater loyalty, my hands to larger service, and my health to better living. . . for my club, my community, my country and my world."

When making appointments, ask for the first appointment of the day to decrease the chance you'll have to wait. If this isn't possible, bring something with you to read or to work on in case you do have to wait.  Stress Busters

Animate your e-mails with these quick critters. Make up some of your own! Cat >^..^<. Caterpillar ******. Worm ~~~~~~. Owl (:-) (-:)  To Do Today

The person with a fixed goal, a clear picture of his desire, or an ideal always before him, causes it, through repetition, to be buried deeply in his subconscious mind and is thus enabled, thanks to its generative and sustaining power, to realize his goal in a minimum of time and with a minimum of physical effort. Just pursue the thought unceasingly. Step by step you will achieve realization, for all your faculties and powers become directed to that end. - Claude M. Bristol. Win the Day!

Pescar (pehsKAHR) To fish. Pesco un buen partido. He found himself a good wife. (Lit. He fished himself a good wife.)  Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: VIOLENCE ON TV

A study conducted by the Gallup International Institute found that 26% of teenagers had been hit or physically harmed by a parent or other adult in the home, and another 10% have been hit by an adult at school. Re: sexual abuse, 6% of teens say they have friends who have been sexually abused by someone in their households. The report also covers findings on drugs, alcohol abuse, teen smoking, health care, AIDS prevention, and abortion. Send to the Gallup International Institute, 47 Hulfish St, Princeton NY 08542 for a copy. 609.921.6200. See also Issues - Jailhouse Rock and Merchandise Slide Guides - Safe Dating Guide, AIDS Education Guide, STD Education Guide and Facts on Gangs

Stop the Violence Now!

It can get frustrating as a parent or non-parent knowing what to do. And, while there are a number of good books and how to work to reduce teen violence, cultural violence and the shadow violence that lurks without each of us, many of us won't go to the effort of getting one of these books to start the work now.

In the meantime, the following are some steps you can take to stop violence among young children, from Parenting for Peace & Justice:

1. Support conflict-resolution programs in your home, school and community to help children (and adults) learn now to solve problems without resorting to violence (hitting, kicking, throwing something, slamming doors, phones, pencils, etc.).

2. Volunteer in parent education classes or as a "resource parent" for young teen and first-time parents to help participants parent without resorting to violence. Volunteer for the teen crisis line, if you really want to get a reality check about what's happening to the youth in your community! If you're man enough, that is.

3. Help your children select nonviolent toys, television programs and movies. Read books to your children that promote peaceful conflict resolution. DON'T BUY WAR TOYS!!!

4. Speak out against movies, television programs that glamorize violence.

5. Speak out to your family, friends, and co-workers to develop an awareness of the "accepted" violence among children, including name calling, insults, pushing, shoving and kicking.

6. Lead by example. Children learn more from our actions than our words.

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. During October, avoid patronizing TV programs, music, films, magazines, books, products, talk shows, and companies that promote or glorify violence. Get involved with a group that advocates banning personal use and sale of all guns not appropriate for hunting. Learn and promote methods of peaceful dispute resolution and weaponless self defense. Get involved in a group that advocates recognition and enforcement of fundamental rights and liberties of all, throughout the world, without distinctions based on gender, ethnicity, religion, language or sexual orientation. Explore the music, dance, poetry and art of the Middle East/Judaism/Islam. Express yourself through Sufi dancing. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto: Contact Us.

 

BOOK OF THE WEEK

eaarth: Making a life on a tough new planet by Bill McKibben. Twenty years ago, the author offered one of the earliest warnings about global warming. Those warnings went mostly unheeded; now, he insists, we need to acknowledge that we've waited too long, and that massive change is not only unavoidable but already under way. Our old familiar globe is suddenly melting, drying, acidifying, flooding and burning in ways that no human has even seen. We've created, in very short order, a new planet, still recognizable but fundamentally different. We may was well call it Eaarth. That new planet is filled with new binds and traps. A changing world costs large sums to defend - think of the money that went to repair New Orleans, or the trillions of dollars it will take to transform our energy systems. But the endless economic growth that could underwrite such largesse depends on the stable planet we've managed to damage and degrade. We can't rely on old habits any longer. Our hope depends, the author argues, on scaling back - on building the kind of societies and economies that can hunker down, concentrate on essentials, and create the type of community (in the neighborhood, but also on the Internet) that will allow us to weather trouble on an unprecedented scale. Change - fundamental change - is our best hope on a planet suddenly and violently out of balance. Times Books, www.henryholt.com, 2010 ISBN 978-0-8050-9056-7

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

October is Adopt-a-Shelter Dog; Alternate History; Auto Battery Safety; Campaign for Healthier Babies; Celiac Sprue Awareness; Child Health; Computer Learning; Diversity Awareness; Dryer Vent Safety Awareness; Energy Management is a Family Affair-Improve Your Home; Family History; Family Sexuality Education, Fantasy; Gay and Lesbian History; Health Literacy; International Fired Up; Listen to Your Inner Critic; Lupus Awareness; National AIDS Awareness; National Animal Safety and Protection; *National Breast Cancer Awareness; National Car Care; National Crime Prevention; National Depression Education and Awareness; *National Disability Employment Awareness; *National Domestic Violence Awareness; National Family Health, National Family Sexuality Education; National "Gain the Inside Advantage"; National Home Inspection; National Orthodontic Health; National Pharmacy; National Physical Therapy; National Pizza; National Popcorn Poppin'; National Roller Skating; National Skin Care Awareness; National Spinal Health; National Toilet Tank Repair; Pediatric Cancer Awareness; Rett Syndrome Awareness; Sarcastics Awareness; Substance Abuse Prevention; Talk About Prescriptions; Unmasking Halloween Dangers; Vegetarian Awareness Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 10/1-7: Mental Illness Awareness; *Minority Enterprise Development; National Health Care Food Oct 8-14: *Fire Prevention; Home Based Business; National Adult Immunization Awareness; *National School Lunch, National Walk to School Week. 10/9-13: Pet Peeve, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Week. 10/10-16: Wildlife Week. 10/14-20: Ally, Pharmacy Week. 10/15-21: Getting the World to Beat a Path to Your Door; *National Character Counts; Teen Read Week. 10/16-22: National Health Education Week. 10/22-28: National Massage Therapy Awareness, National Save Yur Back Week. 10/23-31: Red Ribbon 10/25-31: Peace, Friendship & Goodwill Week. 10/1: World Vegetarian Day. 10/2: World Habitat Day, 10/3: Techies Day. 10/4: Toot Your Flute Day. 10/8 Global Learn Day; National Children's Day. 10/9: Indigenous Persons Day; *Leif Erikson Day, Yom Kippur, Canadian Thanksgiving Day. 10/11: Coming Out; Teddy Bear to Work Day; 10/12: Oktoberfest. 10/13: Blame Someone Else; Scream, Train Your Brain Day, Friday the 13th. 10/14: Sukkot. Be Bald and Be Free Day. 10/15: National Grouch; *White Cane Safety Day. 10/16: Dictionary;  Boss' Day, Intl. Librarians World Food Day. 10/17: Black Poetry, International Eradication of Poverty Day. 10/18: Canadian Persons;  Boost your Brain Day. 10/19: Evaluate Your Life Day 10/21: Sweetest Day. 10/22: Mother-In-Law; National Scientific Literacy Day. 10/23: National Mole Day. 10/24: United Nations Day. Black Thursday. 10/25: Cartoonists Against Crime Day. 10/26: Horseless Carriage; Mule, Intersex Awareness Day 10/27: Frankenstein Friday, Navy Day, Ugly Pickup Contest. 10/28: Make a Difference; Wild Foods Day; Day of Meditation. 10/29: Daylight Savings Times Ends. 10/31: Halloween; National Magic; *National Unicef Day. 11/2 is Election Day. Vote Absentee Ballot.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs and Safe Dating in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto:violence@menstuff.org

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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