Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

MARCH 1

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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March 1 - Day the production and use of landmines was outlawed world-wide (1999); day to mourn the victims in the past and currently since the current U.S. administratoin continues to refuse to agree to eliminate the use of land mines. * Independence Movement Anniversary (Korea). * Independence Day in Bosnia & Heriegovina. * Martin Alonzo Pinzon, Spanish shipbuilder and navigator (and co-owner of the Nina and Pinta, accompanied Columbus on his first voyage, as commander of the Pinta. Storms separated the ships on their return voyage, and the Pinta first touched land at Bayona, Spain, where Pinzon gave Europe its first news of the discovery of the New World (before Columbus's landing at Palos. Pinzon's brother was commander of the third caravel of the expedition, the Nina. * The Articles of Confederation by the original 13 states had been adopted by the Congress in 1977. Maryland was the last state to approve but Congress named today 1781, as the day of formal ratification. * Birthdays: Harry Belafonte, Robert Conrad, William M. Gaines, Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Follow dinner with a family walk! If you remember your kids' names.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Everything is sweetened by risk. - Alexander Smith Achieve Your Dreams

 Things to Be Happy About: Scottish country dancing, Support from your best friend. Letters to the editor (particularly yours). 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

If I try to use human-influence strategies and tactics of how to get other people to do what I want - to work better, to be motivated, to like me and each other - while my character is fundamentally flawed, marked by duplicity and insincerity, then in the long run, I cannot be successful. I will breed distrust and everything I do, even using so-called good human-relations techniques, will be perceived as manipulative. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Gift-giving simplified: The Hobbits, in J.R.R. Tolkien's epic fantasy, were right: mathoms are the answer. A mathom was an object of any value for which a use could not be found, but which the owner was not prepared to discard completely. Set up a section in your closet for items you no longer use that would make good mathoms: vases, trays, decanters, boxes. Pass on these treasures to someone else whenever appropriate. Simplify Your Life

 Winter Blahs Remedy # 5: Put on some dance music and have an at-home dance party - you and your significant other alone, with friends, or with your kids (teach them the dances you know, and let them teach you any they know). Stress Busters

Encourage your kids to share story diskettes with friends!  Have them make up stories on your (or their) computer. Save the story on a diskette, then label it. Encourage them to share the disks with their friends. They're fun to write, read and collect. Them can give them as gifts, especially to distant relatives. To Do Today

TODAY'S ISSUE: HOLDING

Something we were withholding made us weak. Until we found it was ourselves. - Robert Frost

It is difficult to conceive of anyone who had been tenderly loved and caressed in infancy not learning to approach a woman or a child with especial tenderness. - Ashley Montagu.

Most men never learned to be held - held up, perhaps, when drunk or sick, but not held in the way women seem to easily to relax in the arms of another. So as boys we grew up learning to protect and defend, providing a shoulder for women and children to rest their heads on while they slept and we stayed on guard. So many men long for that kind of trust, comfort, and safety. Gradually through time, grieving, recovery, and support from strong men and women, we're learning to trust. We're learning to hold and be held.

Today, I'll let myself want to be held. And then I'll trust someone enough to hold me for a while - not just give me a hug, but really hold me. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

 

BOOK OF THE WEEK

Kammer, Jack Heroes of the Blue Sky Rebellion: How you and other young men can claim all the happiness in the world. Are you young and male? Do you ever wonder why there is so much public concern and encouragement for girls and young women, and so little for you? Have you ever thought girls and young women get more respect and have more fun and freedom than boys and young men do? Are you made to feel ashamed and inferior because you're male? If so,you're not alone. And if so, you might like this little book a lot. The effort to abolish sexism has done girls and young women a world of good. But the most sexist idea of all is the belief that only one sex is harmed by sexism. It's time to put an end to sexism and gender-based discrimination against boys and young men as well. Adults haven't helped you like they've helped girls and young women. It looks like you and your young male friends need to take action - to stage a rebellion - on your own. This little book can help you get started. blueskyrebellion.com, Healthy Village Press, 2009, ISBN 978-0-578-03066-1

SPECIAL URLs

 

MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Just One Thing - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
    www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html
  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

Plus

  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

March is International Listening Awareness, International Mirth, *Irish-American Heritage, Mental Retardation Awareness, Music in Our Schools, National Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Awareness, National Collision Awareness, National Colorectal Cancer Awareness, Ethics Awareness; National Humane Education Awareness, National Kidney, National Nutrition, National On-Hold, National Professional Social Worker's, National Self-Harm Awareness, National Talk with Your Teen about Sex, Optimism, Play-the-Recorder, Poison Prevention Awareness, Red Cross, Rosacea Awareness, Workplace Eye Health and Safety; Youth Art; Humorists are Artists and Gender Equality Month: Time to honor both genders; time to meditate on the equality of women and men, on the respect due to both women and men, and on Goddess-God manifesting as woman and man. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year. In keeping with this, be sure to read our writing under "Newsbytes" called Mothers Aren't Essential in Raising Children. Also, check out our books on Feminism, Sexism, Sex Roles, and Social Theory in this regard. Month.

Mar 12-Apr 14: Deaf History Month. Mar 1-5: No Name Calling Week. Mar 1-7 The day the production and use of land mines was outlawed world-wide. The Mystic's Wheel of the Year. National Write a Letter of Appreciation; Return the Borrowed Books; Universal Human Beings Week. Mar 1-10: Bike Week. Mar 2-9: Autograph Collecting, Conserve Water/Detect-a-Leak; National Professional Pet Sitters; *Save Your Vision Week. Mar 4-8: Human Resource ; National Procrastination; National School Breakfast; Newspaper in Education Week. Mar 10-16: Girl Scout; Pulmonary Rehabilitation Week. Mar 11-17: Camp Fire Boys and Girls Birthday Week. Mar 13-20: Education Advocacy; National Toad Hollow Week. Mar 17-23: Anonymous Giving; Jobs for Teens; National Agriculture; National Poison Prevention Week. Mar 18-24: National Bubble; National Clutter Awareness; National Secondhand Shopping; National Spring Fever Week. Mar 20-26: Week of Solidarity with the People's Struggle Against Racism and Racial Discrimination (UN). Mar 24-30: National Cleaning Week. Mar 29-Apr 2: National Youth Violence Prevention Campaign. Mar 1: National March to College; National Pig. National Salesperson's; National Self-harm Awareness Day, "Read Across America Day" sponsored by the National Education Association in honor of the birthday of Dr. Seuss (Theordor Geisel). Mar 2: I Want You to Be Happy; National Anthem; What if Cats and Dogs had Opposable Thumbs Day. Mar 3: Hug a GI; Old Inauguration Day. Mar 6: Stop Bad Service Day. Mar 8: Panic Day. Mar 10: Dream 2002; Johnny Appleseed Day. Mar 11: National Organize Your Home Day. Mar 12: National Open an Umbrella Indoors Day. Mar 14: Absolutely Incredible Kid Day. Mar 15: Curlew; Freedom of Information Day. Mar 16: Save the Florida Panther Day. Mar 17: St. Patrick's Day. Mar 19: Great American Meatout; National Agriculture; Proposal Day. Mar 20: Flower; National Tree Planting, Memory; Single Parents; South Africa Human Rights Day; International Day for the Elimination of Racial Discrimination (UN). Mar 21:  As Young as You Feel; New Year's Day (India). Mar 22: Near Miss; World Meteorological Day (UN). Mar 23: World Tuberculosis Day (UN). Mar 24: Mothering Day (ENG); National Family; Old New Year's; Pecan Day. Mar 25: Legal Assistants; Make Up Your Own Holiday Day. Mar 26: American Diabetes Alert. Mar 27: Qing Ming Festival (China). Mar 27:  National Mom and Pop Business Owners; Youth Day (Taiwan); Texas Love the Children Day. Mar 29: I Am in Control; Doctor's Day.

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