Daily Thoughts & Issues


MAY 12

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Achieve Your Dreams

May 12 - No matter how old a mother is, she watchers her middle-aged children for signs of improvement. - Florida Scott-Maxwell. The Old Farmer's Almanac * Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day. * Battle of Spotsylvania (1864) After the Battle of the Wilderness, Grant and Lee next engaged at what was to be known as The Bloody Angle. Both sides suffered losses of more than 12,000 men. * Birthdays: Lawrence Peter (Yogi) Berra, George Carlin, Emilio Estevez, Tom Snyder, Louis Rodman Whitaker, Burt Bacharach, Steve Winwood, Edward Lear, MacKenzie Astin, Stephen Baldwin, Bruce Boxleitner, Christian Campbell, Ving Rhames, Howard K. Smith, Frank Stella.


The soul needs a felt experience of family, whether we are children getting the most of our family experience at home, or adults looking for a family in the workplace or in the neighborhood. Soul Mates

Easing a Child out of Your Bed. Start by putting a futon or toddler mattress on the floor at the foot of your bed. Once the child becomes accustomed to sleeping on the mattress, move it closer to the door and finally into her room. Play up the idea of having a "big kid's bed."  Let her help pick out her special bed at the store. If you already have a bed for your child, let her pick out some special sheets. Family Feelings

In Berlin in 1919, Magnus Hirschfeld produced the first film depicting positive images of gay life, Anders als die Andern (Different from the Others). Gay & Lesbian Calendar

The only true end of love if spiritual growth or human evolution. The Road Less Traveled

On this day in 1667,London chronicler John Evelyn noted how women's fashions changed regarding facial make-up: "I now observed how the women began to pain themselves, formerly a most ignominious things and used only by prostitutes." Forgotten English

To exist is to change; to change is to mature' to mature is to create oneself endlessly. - Henri Bergson. Achieve Your Dreams

Thing to Be Happy About: All the storage space you need. Morning sun on the patio. Good magazines in a waiting room. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

A pencil without an eraser might as well be a pen. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

I cried because I had no shoes until I saw a man who had no feet - Author unknown.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Most of us think we don't have enough time to exercise. What a distorted paradigm!  We don't have time not to exercise. We're talking about three to six hours a week - or a minimum of thirty minutes a day, every other day. That hardly seems an inordinate amount of time, considering the tremendous benefits in terms of the impact on the other 162 to 165 hours of the week. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Inner simplicity demands a high level of energy. Low energy can bring with it myriad problems such as frustration, boredom, inertia, depression and a sense of overwhelming futility, any one or all of which can make it impossible to move forward on your inner journey. Simplify Your Life

Get some balloons and pipe cleaners and streamers. With your kids, blow up a balloon, wrap a pipe cleaner and streamers around the balloon stem. Attach the balloon to wrapped gifts. You can even put money in the balloon before you blow it up. To Do Today

The man who is swimming against the stream know the strength of it. - Woodrow Wilson Win the Day!

Caliente (kahlYENteh), Hot. Lo siento, Lo dije en caliente. I'm sorry. I said it in the heat of the moment. Living Language


It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye. - Antoine de Saint-Exupery

It has been said that intuition is a talent of women, but in this program we, as men, are learning to listen to our own inner feelings. This is a strength which has nothing to do with gender. Many times we have a quiet inner knowing of something, but in the past we developed an insensitivity to these messages. Our growing self-respect includes the ability to stand up for what simply feels right. We don't have to prove anything to ourselves. If we dismiss our own private feelings, all we have left to go on is someone else;s idea of reality.

This realm of inner feeling is the realm of wisdom. It is the creative part, the mysterious part, the spiritual part. It is the foundation of honesty with ourselves. In these quiet moments, we are more able to perceive what we know in our hearts. As we grow, we respect and trust it more. Help me respect my private messages from within. Touchstones

Why are you feeling ashamed? Who have you disappointed? Whose rules are you breaking? Someone else's, or your own? - Melody Beattie

Work addicts are fearful people. We were reared in homes that taught us to "toe the line," "stop acting like a child," "grow up/" Our shame started there and continues today.

We don't feel strong enough to create our own code of ethics, our own morality. We aren't good enough.

And we still are "measuring up." We cover for our insecurities by working - ducking ourselves, dodging our lives, and never knowing the freedom that comes with confronting our disease.

Today I will trust my intuition. I'll feel good about who I am, but also about who I will become. Meditations For Men Who Do Too Much

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Know when it's time to quit. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?.


The Good Men Project: Real stories from the front lines of modern manhood edited by James Houghton, Larry Bean and Tom Matlack. This is more than a book. It is the centerpiece of a national discussion about what manhood means today. Thirty-one essays by a broad range of men - rich, poor, black, white, gay, straight, urban, rural, famous, ordinary - describe the challenges, obstacles, triumphs, failures, and life-changing moments that collectively help define what it means to be a man in America. A documentary by the same name accompanies the book. The film mixes riveting footage and breathtaking photography with candid narration from ten disparate men describing the experiences that have defined their lives. Proceeds from sales of the book and DVD will benefit The Good Men Foundation, a not-for-profit 501 (c) 3 corporation supporting organizations that provide educational, social, financial and legal support to men and boys at risk. 2009, The Good Men Foundation, ISBN  978-0615316741 See Tom Matlack's monthly column




  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Just One Thing - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html


  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html


May is: Skin Cancer Awareness, * Masturbation Month; Asian Pacific American Heritage;. Better Hearing and Speech; Better Sleep; Correct Posture; Creative Beginnings; Family Support; Foster Care; Get Caught Reading; Helping American Youth; National Allergy/Asthma Awareness; National Arthritis; National Barbecue; Good Car-Keeping; Hepatitis Awareness; Mental Health; Osteoporosis Prevention; Physical Fitness and Sports; Recommitment; Scholarship; Self-Discovery; Senior Citizens Month , Senior Travel; Sight-Saving; Stroke Awareness; Teaching and Joy, Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Tuberous; Sclerosis Awareness; *Older Americans; Personal History Awareness; Revise Your Work Schedule; and Strike Out Strokes Month. The most tornados happen in May.

May 14-Jun 18: National Family Month. Apr 29-May 5: *National Science & Technology Week. May 1-7: Cartoon Art Appreciation Week. May 5-11: National Nurses Day and Week. May 6-12: Be Kind to Animals; Flexible Work Arrangements; *Jewish Heritage; National Family; National Pet; PTA Teacher Appreciation; Suicide Awareness; Wildflower; and Teacher Appreciation Week. May 7-13 National Etiquette; and National Herb Week. May 13-219: National Medical Services; *Nat Police; *National Transportation; and *World Trade Week. May 19-25: *National Safe Boating Week. May 20-26: Good Stewardship; International Reggae Music; National New Friends-Old Friends; and, National Reflexology Awareness Week. May 21-28: Buckle Up America; and, National Backyard Games Week. May 1: May Day observed since ancient times and has become Labor Day in most countries except the U.S., Bermuda and Canada. Kindness Day, Teen Day, Freedom Riders Anniversary, Executive Coaching Day. *Law Day. *Loyalty Day. Peace of Mind Day. 40th Anniversary of the U-2 Incident with Francis Gary Powers. May 2: Holocaust Rememberance Day. May 6:: National Day of Hearing Testing. May 8: V-E Day 55th Anniversary, World Red Cross Day, May 9: National Receptionests Day, National Teachers Day. May 10: National Small Business Day. May 12: Chronic Fatigue Awareness Day May 14: *Mother's Day. May 15: *Peace Officer Memorial Day May 19: *National Defense Transportation Day. National Bike to Work Day. May 20: *Armed Forces Day. May 21: National Waitstaff Day, Neighbor Day Youth Against Violence. May 22: *National Maritime Day. May 25: National Missing Children's Day. May 26: Morning Radio Wise Guy Day. May 28:  Ancestor Honor Day. Memorial Day. (celebrated on Monday the *29th Memorial Day Prayer for Peace requests flying the flag at half-staff for the customary forenoon period.) May 31: National Senior Health and Fitness Day. World No-Tobacco Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation was made.

May 25: National Missing Children's Day
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