Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

NOVEMBER 30

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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November 30 - Independence Day in Barbados. * Articles of Peace Between Great Britain and the US (1782) These provisional articles of peace, which were to end America's War of Independence, were signed at Paris, France. In it "His Britannic Majesty acknowledges the said United States...to be free, sovereign and independent states; that he treats them as such; and for himself, his heirs and successors, relinquishes all claims to the government, propriety and territorial rights of the same, and every part thereof..." * Saint Andrew's Day, feast day of the apostle and martyr, Andrew, who die about AD 60. Patron saint of Scotland. * Statue of Rames II Unearthed. (1991) Egyptian construction workers in the ancient provincial town of Akhimim, 300 miles south of Cairo, unearthed a statue of Ramses II. Akhimim was an important provincial district that included the city of Ipu, a messa for worshippers of the fertility god Min. The statue was uncovered during an excavation to prepare a foundation for a post office. An additional statue was uncovered 33 feet away, but the identity of its subject was unknown. * Stay Home Because You're Well Day. So we can call in "well", instead of faking illness and stay home from work. * Ukrainian Famine Film Broadcast (1991)  In the rapidly changing former Soviet Union, the film Famine 33 produced by Oles Yanchuk, was broadcast on republic-wide TV. The film chronicled the forced collectivization of the agriculture industry in 1933 and the resulting famine which led to the death of more than seven million Ukrainians. The famine was to officially recognized until 1990 when the Central Committee of the Ukrainian Community Party first acknowledged that the millions of deaths were caused by the seizure of crops. The airing of the film heralded a significant departure from prior Soviet handling of history. * $13 billion in bonds are sold between this day and December 23rd in the firsts war loan drive (1942). * Birthdays: Winston Churchill, Samuel Langhorne (Mark Twain) Clemens, Abbot Hoffman, Jonathan Swift, Dick Clark, Richard Crenna, Robert Guillaume, Billy Idol, Vincent Edward (Bo) Jackson, G. Gordon Liddy, David Mamet, Gordon Parks, Mandy Patinkin. 

DAILY THOUGHTS

Only those few who accept responsibility for the symptoms of their mental illness, who realize that their symptoms are a manifestation of a disorder in their own soul, heed the message of their unconscious and accept its grace. They accept their own inadequacy and the pain of the work necessary to heal themselves. The Road Less Traveled

At times we may have to protect ourselves from another's sexual confusion and acting out, but if we want an intimate relationship, we will have to find it in ourselves to create a place for the other's sexual fantasy. Soul Mates

It's fun telling where we first learned about sex and all the weird misconceptions we had when we were kids. - Jack, 38 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Nothing ever succeeds which exuberant spirits have not helped to produce. - Nietzsche Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Caramel-apple tarts. Gumption. A weakening nor-easter. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

If you're going to fight, use pillows. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Accomplishments need not to be heroic to illustrate limitlessness. Whether it is getting an A on a term paper or putting up the kitchen curtains by yourself, you can prove to yourself that you can do anything at all even by executing the smallest actions. What is important is that you believe that you can do it and that you give yourself every opportunity to succeed.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Management is clearly different from leadership. Leadership is primarily a high-powered, right-brain activity. It's more of an art; it's based on a philosophy. You have to ask the ultimate questions of life when you're dealing with personal leadership issues. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

This holiday, place the emphasis on holiday activities you can do together to celebrate the season rather than on the material things you give and receive. Simplify Your Life

Big Kids and Bedtime: Kids often lobby tirelessly to stay up and watch a TV program that airs after their bedtime. What's the solution (other than giving in and having a groggy, irritable child the next day)? Tape the show and have them plan time on Saturday to take in a favorite show or two. Parents Tips & Tricks (Editor: Another perspective is if the child is over 10, let them start to take responsibility for their lives and let them learn what is best for them. How much sleep they really need, depending on what they will be doing the next day - a test, a big game, etc.)

Finish unfinished business from the past. Unresolved emotions related to people and events from long ago can be hidden sources of stress that continue to affect you in the present. An intense reaction to someone or something in the present that seems totally out of proportion may be a clue that you have tapped into some underlying, unresolved issue. Identify who or what the event reminds you of, and see a counselor if you need help exploring and healing the old wound. Stress Busters

For the Kids: Bank on this idea!  Cover a milk container with colorful paper, or use plain paper and draw designs with colored markers. Cut a slit at the top. Now you have a piggy bank! And start a savings program. To Do Today

Success is a journey, not a destination. - Ben Sweetland. Win the Day!

El corte del pelo (KOHRteh deh PEHloh) Haircut. Me gusta tu corte de pelo! Nice haircut! Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: HOPE

In the time of trouble avert not thy face from hope, for the soft marrow abideth in the hard bone. - Hafiz (Mohammed Shams od-Din)

A life gone out of control is a life out of balance, a life of insanity. It is insane to continue, day after day, to do things that will ultimately harm ourselves. Yet how many of us do things we really don't want to do, that we don't feel good about, such as drinking alcohol, working compulsively, smoking, or having sex, because we're afraid we'll seems unmanly if we don't. When we are consistently involved in activities we know are not good for us, our lives are out of control.

True hope rests in the belief that there is a vast and benevolent power at work in the universe that will assist us in changing self-destructive thoughts and actions. Anyone who has even tried to change something about himself, and failed, knows that great help is needed. There is nothing more demoralizing than knowing our behavior is hurting us and our loved ones, but not being able to stop by our own resources. Hope comes from knowing we can tap into a source of limitless, unconditional love that will guide us to let go of self-destructive habits. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. I will open my heart and mind to the concept that there is a power greater than myself in the universe. A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

 

BOOK OF THE WEEK

If Your Kid Eats This Book, Everything Will Still Be Okay: How to know if your child's injury or illness is really an emergency by Lara Zibners. As an emergency room pediatrician, the author has seen it all. She's cared for some of the twenty-five million children in the United States who are taken to the ER each year - and she knows that more than 50 percent of these visits may be unnecessary. In this book, she shows parents when they may need to take action and when they may be able to just go back to bed and call their doctor in the morning. No more frantic, late-night searchers through the "what to buy," "how to diaper," or "what to feed him" section s found in other childcare books to find out if little Franny needs to go to the ER. This book focuses on the essential questions, like how to keep her from electrocuting herself in the first place. Not every child has a pediatrician with specialized emergency room experience living in the home. But this book just might be the next best thing. Wellness Central, www.HachetteBookGroup.com, 2009, ISBN 978-0-446-50880-3

 

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MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
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  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
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  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
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  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

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  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

November is International Impotency Awareness Month. We provide background information on this new drug and alternatives to Viagra. Impotency, Viagra and other solutions as well as Books on the subject. National Diabetes Awareness, Lung Cancer Awareness, Native American Heritage, Aviation History, Diabetic Eye Disease, Dummies for Tummies, Epilepsy Awareness, International Drum, *National Adoption, National Alzheimer's Disease, National American Indian Heritage, National Family Caregivers, National Child Safety and Protection, National Life Writing; National Marrow Awareness; National Sleep Comfort; Orphan Disease; Peanut Butter Lovers; Vegan Awareness Month

11/1-12/13:  Merlin's Snug Hugs for Kids, 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1/00-01/01/01: Tie One on the Safety; 11/4-12/4: Jewish Book Month. 11/26-12/25: Operation Blessing International's 30 Days of Holiday Hope. 11/27-12/26: Ramadan. 11/1-7: Vegan Awareness; World Communication. 11/5-11: Pursuit of Happiness, National Chemistry Week. 11/6-10: Kids' Goals Education Week 11/6-12: Random Acts of Kindness; Shallow Persons Awareness Week 11/8-14: Pursuit of Happiness Week. 11/9-13: Goodwill Annual Used Book Sale. 11/12-18: *American Education; National Geography Awareness, Operating Room Nurse Week. 11/13-19: National Children's Book Week. 11/17-19: National Donor Sabbath. 11/17-23: *National Farm-City Week. 18 -25 November 2000: International Herpes Awareness Week. 11/18 -25 International Herpes Awareness Week 11/19-25:  *National Family; National Family Caregivers; National Game and Puzzle Week. 11/19-26: Bible Week. 11/1-2: Day of the Dead. 11/1 is All Saints Day, National Authors; National Family Literacy. 11/2: US Elecetion Day - Vote Absentee Ballot. All Soul's Day; National Men Make Dinner; 11/3: Culture Day. 11/3-5: Great American Warm-Up; 11/4: Sadie Hawkins; Sweden All Saints. 11/5: Guy Fawkes Day. 11/6: Halfway Point of Autumn. 11/8: Punsters; Abet and Aid Punsters; Cook Something Bold and Pungent; National Young Reader's Day. 11/10: USMC Birthday, Veterans Day (Observed); Lung Cancer Awareness; 11/11: Veterans Day; Remembrance Day; Vox Populi Day. Cook Something Bold Day. 11/12: America Recycles Day. 11/13: World Kindness Day. 11/14: Children's Day (India); National American Teddy Bear; National Community Education Day. 11/15: Gypsy Condemnation Order Anniversary, Shichi-Go-San (Japan); National Educational Support Personnel Day. 11/16: *Great American Smokeout; World Harvest, International Day for Tolerance; 11/17: World Peace Day. 11/19: World's Men's, Have a Bad Day; 11/20: Universal Children's; UN African Industrialization Day. 11/21: UN World Television; World Hello Day. 11/22: National Stop the Violence Day. 11/23: *Thanksgiving Day (US) 11/24: Sinkie Day; Buy Nothing; "What Do You Love about America Day; 11/25: You're Welcomgiving Day. 11/29: UN International Day of Solidarity with the Palestinian People. 11/30: Computer Security; Stay Home Because You're Well Day.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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