Daily Thoughts & Issues

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OCTOBER 3

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

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Achieve Your Dreams

October 3 - Independence Day in Germany. * After 45 years of division, East and West Germany reunited just four days short of Easy Germany's 41st founding anniversary. The Soviet-backed East Germany no longer exists. The new united Germany took the name the Federal Republic of Germany, the formal name of the former West Germany and adopted the constitution of the former West Germany (1990). * National Foundation Day in Korea called Tangun Day, as it commemorates the day when legendary founder of the Korean nation, Tangun, established his kingdom of Chosun in 2333 BC compared to the US in 1776 AD. * Mickey Mouse Club premieres (1955) Among its cast members were Annette Funicello, Shelley Fabares, Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera. * National Techies Day to celebrate and honor technology professionals and their achievements in today's increasingly wired world. * Nobel Conference XXXVI, Gustavus Adolphus College, St. Peter, MN. * Frank Robinson named baseball's first black major league manager (1974). * Birthdays: George Bancroft, William Crawford Gorgas, James Alfred (Herriot) Wight, Harvey Kurtzman, Patrick Manson, Lindsey Buckingham, Chubby Checker (Ernest Evans), Dennis Lee Eckersley, Gore Vidal, Jack Wagner, David Mark (Dave) Winfield, Thomas Wolfe, Michael Hordern.

DAILY THOUGHTS

Art Shell becomes the first African American coach of a National Football League team. African American History

In my opinion, any woman that tells you she doesn't have a fantasy about two men at once is lying. - Leslie, 21 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Does your child have a problem with bullies, peer acceptance, or stuttering?  No matter the problem, ask your librarian for a book about a character who overcomes the same problem. Reading about another lets children know they're not alone and may just spark a way they can solve their problem on their own. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

The comfort of mature love is the single most important determinant of older men's outlook on life. Most of the men who are still savoring mature love with their wives also still enjoy making love to them. New Passages Calendar

Laziness is love's opposite. Spiritual growth is effortful as we have been reminded again and again. The Road Less Traveled

Our thoughts about not getting into trouble, being foolish, or making a mistake get in the way of love. Soul Mates

Triumph lies in discipline. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About: Bringing back family traditions. Actual blushing. Talking to the cats. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

If you want pancakes for breakfast, offer to help. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

Being unattached does not mean being disinterested or removed; rather, it means remaining neutral in your judgments of circumstances and in your desire for a specific outcome. attachment means you are not bound by your expectations of how things should turn out, and that you are willing to let go.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Longfellow observed, "Many men do not allow their principles to take root, but pull them up every now and then, as children do flowers they have planted, so see if they are growing."  Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

Get in the habit of spending a few minutes in the morning before you start your day thinking about how you want to be in your work life and in your interactions with the people you come into contact with. Then, as the end of the day, take a few minutes to think about how you did in relation to how you wanted to do. Simplify Your Life

Debunking Myths of Discipline. There are certain myths about discipline that actually perpetuate fights between parents. Why the "united front" is a myth: It's unrealistic to expect that parents will always agree. It's important for children to see their parents disagreeing, because children develop empathy by being exposed to a variety of points of view. Also, you can model far fighting in front of your children, which can actually be constructive. There is no "right way" to discipline: Parents who try to discipline the "correct" way are missing the point. In truth, there are many disciplinary methods that work well under different circumstances. The key is to come up with a good match between a method, your child's temperament, and your own.  Parents Tips & Tricks

If you work in a windowless office or cubicle, decorate it with peaceful scenes for relaxation and/or pictures or sayings to motivate and inspire you. (Change these periodically - Editor) Stress Busters

Dish up a crustless apple pie!  Core and peel an apple. Cut it into small pieces. Put the pieces into a microwavable bowl. Mix 1 tablespoon each cinnamon and sugar. Sprinkle over the apple. Microwave on high for 1 minute.  To Do Today

Power can be taken, but not given. The process of the taking is empowerment in itself. - Gloria Steinem.  Win the Day!

La historieta (eestohreeEHtah) Comic strip. Yo quiero leer las historietas! I want to read the comics! Living Language

TODAY'S ISSUE: VIOLENCE - RAPE

Campus Rape Prevention Program Targets Men's Restrooms

Ohio State University Rape Education and Prevention Program will place several hundred rubber urinal screens in urinals across campus, custom printed with the message "You hold the power to stop rape in your hand." They say "The intent is not to single men out, but to implement a variety of innovative marketing campaigns that reach different student populations on campus," claims director Michael Scarce. See Merchandise, Slide Guide, Safe Dating Guide

Wrongful Rape Convictions

Rape is not acceptable. However, charging innocent people of rape is just as wrong and should be prosecution on criminal charges.

DNA evidence proved that a Portsmouth, VA man had been mistakenly accused of rape - but not before he spent 8 1/2 months in jail and lost his job. A 12-year-old girl "positively" identified him as the attacker and his name was released to the media, but genetic evidence cleared him. He requested DNA testing immediately after arrest, but says Marjorie Taylor, the prosecutor, was not interested in pursuing the matter.

A former Sunday school teacher who spent 2 1/2 years in jail before being acquitted of molestation charges is seeking $110 million in damages from the San Diego County.

A man who spent three years in prison on a wrongful rape conviction is suing the state of California, Los Angeles County, and several other groups. The man, a nurse, was sentenced to eight years on a charge of raping a mental patient at Metropolitan State Hospital in Norwalk. He was freed after DNA testing proved him innocent. He says he has gone bankrupt and lost his home and many possessions.

The state of Maryland is giving $300,000 to a Cambridge man for the nine years he spent in prison before genetic evidence cleared him of a rape-murder charge.

Every Two Seconds a Man is Forcibly Rape in the U.S. - The Other Side of Rape

This represents over 100,000 men each year. However, this information isn't reported in government documents because, as stated in the Uniform Crime Reporting definition, the victims of forcible rape are always female. The definition "Forcible rape, as defined in the Program, is the carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will. Assaults or attempts to commit rape by force or threat of force are also included; however, statutory rape (without force) and other sex offenses are excluded." According to government statistics, in 1992 109,062 women were forcibly raped. The 100,000 plus men that were also raped don't qualify. Be sure and see the book and video review of Awakenings. While not directly or currently effecting most of you men, you've got a 1 in 5 chance of being faced with this problem. More Prison Issues, Books, Resources

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Take the opportunity to show love. Don't let life's little details fill up so much of your time that you never get around to showing your loved ones how much you care. What Every Man Needs to Know Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto: Contact Us.

 

BOOK OF THE WEEK

eaarth: Making a life on a tough new planet by Bill McKibben. Twenty years ago, the author offered one of the earliest warnings about global warming. Those warnings went mostly unheeded; now, he insists, we need to acknowledge that we've waited too long, and that massive change is not only unavoidable but already under way. Our old familiar globe is suddenly melting, drying, acidifying, flooding and burning in ways that no human has even seen. We've created, in very short order, a new planet, still recognizable but fundamentally different. We may was well call it Eaarth. That new planet is filled with new binds and traps. A changing world costs large sums to defend - think of the money that went to repair New Orleans, or the trillions of dollars it will take to transform our energy systems. But the endless economic growth that could underwrite such largesse depends on the stable planet we've managed to damage and degrade. We can't rely on old habits any longer. Our hope depends, the author argues, on scaling back - on building the kind of societies and economies that can hunker down, concentrate on essentials, and create the type of community (in the neighborhood, but also on the Internet) that will allow us to weather trouble on an unprecedented scale. Change - fundamental change - is our best hope on a planet suddenly and violently out of balance. Times Books, www.henryholt.com, 2010 ISBN 978-0-8050-9056-7

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AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

October is Adopt-a-Shelter Dog; Alternate History; Auto Battery Safety; Campaign for Healthier Babies; Celiac Sprue Awareness; Child Health; Computer Learning; Diversity Awareness; Dryer Vent Safety Awareness; Energy Management is a Family Affair-Improve Your Home; Family History; Family Sexuality Education, Fantasy; Gay and Lesbian History; Health Literacy; International Fired Up; Listen to Your Inner Critic; Lupus Awareness; National AIDS Awareness; National Animal Safety and Protection; *National Breast Cancer Awareness; National Car Care; National Crime Prevention; National Depression Education and Awareness; *National Disability Employment Awareness; *National Domestic Violence Awareness; National Family Health, National Family Sexuality Education; National "Gain the Inside Advantage"; National Home Inspection; National Orthodontic Health; National Pharmacy; National Physical Therapy; National Pizza; National Popcorn Poppin'; National Roller Skating; National Skin Care Awareness; National Spinal Health; National Toilet Tank Repair; Pediatric Cancer Awareness; Rett Syndrome Awareness; Sarcastics Awareness; Substance Abuse Prevention; Talk About Prescriptions; Unmasking Halloween Dangers; Vegetarian Awareness Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 10/1-7: Mental Illness Awareness; *Minority Enterprise Development; National Health Care Food Oct 8-14: *Fire Prevention; Home Based Business; National Adult Immunization Awareness; *National School Lunch, National Walk to School Week. 10/9-13: Pet Peeve, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Week. 10/10-16: Wildlife Week. 10/14-20: Ally, Pharmacy Week. 10/15-21: Getting the World to Beat a Path to Your Door; *National Character Counts; Teen Read Week. 10/16-22: National Health Education Week. 10/22-28: National Massage Therapy Awareness, National Save Yur Back Week. 10/23-31: Red Ribbon 10/25-31: Peace, Friendship & Goodwill Week. 10/1: World Vegetarian Day. 10/2: World Habitat Day, 10/3: Techies Day. 10/4: Toot Your Flute Day. 10/8 Global Learn Day; National Children's Day. 10/9: Indigenous Persons Day; *Leif Erikson Day, Yom Kippur, Canadian Thanksgiving Day. 10/11: Coming Out; Teddy Bear to Work Day; 10/12: Oktoberfest. 10/13: Blame Someone Else; Scream, Train Your Brain Day, Friday the 13th. 10/14: Sukkot. Be Bald and Be Free Day. 10/15: National Grouch; *White Cane Safety Day. 10/16: Dictionary;  Boss' Day, Intl. Librarians World Food Day. 10/17: Black Poetry, International Eradication of Poverty Day. 10/18: Canadian Persons;  Boost your Brain Day. 10/19: Evaluate Your Life Day 10/21: Sweetest Day. 10/22: Mother-In-Law; National Scientific Literacy Day. 10/23: National Mole Day. 10/24: United Nations Day. Black Thursday. 10/25: Cartoonists Against Crime Day. 10/26: Horseless Carriage; Mule, Intersex Awareness Day 10/27: Frankenstein Friday, Navy Day, Ugly Pickup Contest. 10/28: Make a Difference; Wild Foods Day; Day of Meditation. 10/29: Daylight Savings Times Ends. 10/31: Halloween; National Magic; *National Unicef Day. 11/2 is Election Day. Vote Absentee Ballot.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs and Safe Dating in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto:violence@menstuff.org

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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