Daily Thoughts & Issues

IN THIS ISSUE:

SEPTEMBER 18

Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001

Photo of the Week
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Achieve Your Dreams

It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Month. Remember to visit "Today" during the week of September 20-26. It's Prostate Cancer Awareness Week and we will feature a different issue each day concerning prostate cancer.

September 18 - Independence Day in Chile. * Haiti Invasion averted (1994) Just as military forces of the US were poised to invade Haiti, an agreement was reached with an American negotiating team to restore the President to power. The negotiating team included former president Jimmy Carter, General Colin Powell and Senator Sam Nunn. * Patricia Hearst is captured in San Francisco, ending a 19-month FBI search for the kidnapped newspaper heiress. * In a widely celebrated race, the first locomotive built in America, the Tom Thumb, lost to a horse because of numerous mechanical problems. Thereby the nickname Iron Horse. * The first loan taken out by the US was negotiated in 1789 for the sum over just over $191,608. It went to pay the salaries of the president, senators, representatives and officers of the first Congress. Repayment was completed on June 8, 1790. That was the good old days when we repaid loans instead of borrowing more. * Soyuz 38 (USSR) launched in 1980 docked at Salyut 6 for a week-long mission, returning to Earth on September 26. * Birthdays: Rossano Brazzi, Ray Geiger, Samuel Johnson, Frankie Avalon, Robert Blake (Michael Gubitosi), Jack Warden. Peter Alsop

DAILY THOUGHTS

Call it what you will, genuine love, with all the discipline that it requires, is the only path in this life to substantial joy. Take another path and you may find rare moments of ecstatic joy, but they will be fleeting and progressively more elusive. The Road Less Traveled

It's always best when it's spontaneous. - Jim, 36 Kissing is so very important during sex. I'll remember a truly passionate kiss a lot longer than some weird position. - Diana, 32 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

Conversation is the sex act of the soul, and as such it is supremely conducive to the cultivation of intimacy. Soul Mates

Leadership is to be both a speaker of words and a doer of deeds. Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  The perfect reunion. Toasted cheese sandwiches. Ambient lighting. 14,000 Things to Be Happy About

You can be anything you want to be when you grow up.  Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

There are six basic steps to executing any change in your life. They are:  910 Awareness - becoming conscious of the pattern or issue. (2) Acknowledgment - admitting that you need to release the pattern. (3) Choice - actively selecting to release the pattern. (4) Strategy - creating a realistic plan. (5) Commitment - taking action, aided by external accountability. (6) Celebration - rewarding yourself for succeeding. No lasting change can be made, nor any patterns released permanently, without going through each one of these steps.  If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

Private victories precede public victories. You can't invert that process any more than you can harvest a crop before you plant it. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

The word "drag" is thought to have originated during the Restoration period when men, playing women's roles in theatrical productions, would often dress as royal figures. This included wearing royal dresses bedecked with full trains that would drag along the floor as the men walked across the stage. Gay & Lesbian Calendar

 Active Nights:  The reason newborns are such active sleepers is that they spend more time in the REM (rapid eye movement) phase than do older children and adults. Fifty percent of a newborn's sleep is REM; by contrast, REM accounts for only 20 to 25 percent of adult sleep. The amount of REM sleep infants get gradually decreases, and by the time they're 6 months old, the REM phase accounts for just 30 percent of their sleep. Parents Tips & Tricks

If you're ready to stop sending Christmas cards but still want to make that connection with old friends, send you season's greetings by e-mail this year. Simplify Your Life

Never put off until tomorrow what you can put off forever. Ask yourself if what you're spending your time and energy on is really necessary.  Stress Busters

Shell a nut to make a turtle. Carefully crack a walnut in half. Trace the shell half on cardboard, adding a head and legs. Cut it out. Paint the shell like a turtle's. Let dry. Glue the shell to the body. Bend the legs so the turtle stands up! To Do Today

Entrepreneurs are risk-takers, willing to roll the dice with their money or reputation on the line in support of an idea or enterprise. They willingly assume responsibility for the success or failure of a venture and are answerable for all its feats. The buck not only stops at their desks, it starts there too. - Victor Kiam Win the Day!

Un monton (mohnTOHN) Lots, loads. Tengo un moton de cosas que hacer! I have a million things to do!  Living Language

*SPECIAL BIRTHDAY: Peter Alsop (1946), a nationally known singer-songwriter, educator and humorist. Peter has produced nineteen audio recordings (It's only a wee wee so what's the big deal") and seven videos and dvd's for which he consistently wins "BEST CHILDREN'S" awards from Parents' Choice and the Association For Independent Music. He's also a monthly columnist for menstuff.org.

TODAY'S ISSUE: LEGACY

Who touches a father touches the son. - Ethiopian (Amharic) proverb. My father passed on to me what he had learned, both the good and the bad. He gave me his pain and his hopes, just as he inherited his own father's pain and hopes. This lineage of men, passing their sorrows, joy and wisdom down through the generations, is as old as the human species. What I received from my father, I took, but I also changed it. I didn't want to pass my pain on to my children. So I've changed and healed.

BOOK OF THE WEEK

 

A Little Book of Thanks Yous: Letters, notes & quotes by Addie Johnson. Rediscover the joys of gratitude! The author explores the who, what, where, when, whys, and especially hows to "thank yous."  You'll find handwritten letters and spontaneous acts of random gratitude, a litany of ways to count the blessings we're grateful for, with inspiring words from around the world and throughout the ages, and thank you letters from politicians, artists, and ordinary folk. In this little book of big-hearted ideas, the author offers up inspiration to anyone who has ever frozen before the blank interior of a Thank You car, including: creative and simple ways to express your thanks, practical tactics for giving and acknowledging gifts, poetry and quotations to inspire a grateful heart or jump-start a tank you note, and stories, suggestions and examples of how to enlarge someone's life with the humblest of expressions. Conari Press, www.redwheelweiser.com, 2010, ISBN 978-1-57324-374-2

SPECIAL URLs

 

MENSTUFF COLUMNS BY AUTHOR

  • The Advice Diva - The Advice Diva - relationship and sexuality issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/advicediva/archive.html
  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
    www.menstuff.org/columns/steele/archive.html
  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
  • Michael Taylor - A New Conversation with Men - www.menstuff.org/columns/taylor/archive.html
  • Bruce Van Horn - Yoga for Men - issues around the health benefits of yoga for men - www.menstuff.org/yoga/archive.html
  • Michael Webb - Secrets of Blissful Relationships - on relationship - www.menstuff.org/columns/bliss/archive.html
  • Stuart Wilde - Spirituality - www.menstuff.org/columns/wilde/archive.html
  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html

Plus

  • Health Tips - on general health - www.menstuff.org/columns/healthtips/archive.html
  • Independent Means - resources for raising financially fit kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/independentmeans/archive.html
  • Numbers - www.menstuff.org/columns/numbers/archive.html
  • Questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/q&a/archive.html
  • Surprise - from a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html

AWARENESS EVENTS THIS MONTH

September is Baby Safety Awareness, Children's Eye Health & Safety, Children's Good Manners, Christmas Seal, Cholesterol Education, Fall Hat, Gay Square Dance, Library Card Sign-up, Little League, Organic Harvest, Pediculosis Prevention, Piano, Pleasure Your Mate, Project Aware, Prosperity Creation, School Success, Sea Cadet, Self Awareness, Self-Improvement, Shameless Promotion, and Sickle Cell Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 8/29-9/4: National Sobriety Checkpoint Week, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, www.madd.org; 9/1-7: Childhood Injury Prevention; Self-University Week. 9/4-10: Full Employment Week, Mental Health Workers Week.. 9/5-9: Play Days. 9/9-16: National Five-A-Day Week. 9/10-16: National Suicide Prevention; Substitute Teacher Appreciation; National Brainstorming and Mind Mapping; Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week: 9/14-20 Dementia Awareness Week (Australia) 9/17-23: *Constitution; Balance Awareness; Love a Mensch; Farm Safety and Health; Historically Black Colleges and Universities; Rehabilitation Awareness; Single's Week. 9/19-25 - Prostate Cancer Awareness Week; 9/23-30: Banned Books, Religious Freedom Week. 9/23-29 - Deaf Awareness, National Dog Week; 9/23-24: Family Health & Fitness. 9/10: Swap Ideas Day. 9/17 *Citizenship Day. 9/19: International Day of Peace. 9/22: National Centenarians, Proposal Day. 9/23: Kiwanis Kids', *National Hunting & Fishing, Smash Out Suicide Day, 9/24: *Gold Star Mother's, National Good Neighbor, World Heart Day. 9/27: Ancestor Appreciation Day. 9/28: Cabrillo Day

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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