Daily Thoughts & Issues



Days left until the next millennium 01.01.3001


October 27 - "Make a Difference Day". A day millions of Americans are expected to roll up their sleeves to help others. In community, you can act alone. Or enlist your friends, family and coworkers. 800.416.3824 or or www.usaweekend.com (keyword: diffday) or www.makeadifferenceday.com. * The first of the 85 "Federalist" papers appeared in print in a New York City newspaper (1787). These essays, written by Alexander Hamilton, James Madison and John Jay, argued in favor of adoption of the new Constitution and the new form of federal government. The last essays were completed Apr 4, 1988. * Hurricane Mitch (1998) saw more than 7,000 people killed in Honduras by flooding from the Hurricane. Thousands more were killed in other Central American countries, especially Nicaragua. On Sep 21, 1974, more than 8,000 people were killed in Honduras in flooding resulting from a hurricane. * Running from City Hall to West 145th Street, the New York City subway began operation (1904). It was privately operated by the Interborough Rapid Transit Company and later became part of the system operated by the New York City Transit Authority. * The Dow Jones Industrial Average plunges 554.26 pts, the greatest decline to date (1997). * Independence Day in Saint Vincent and the Grenadines. * If this is the 4th Friday in October, In South Carolina, you can be fined for not denouncing "the evils of intemperance". * Birthdays: Theodore Roosevelt, James Cook, Roy, Lichtenstein, Nicolo Paganini, Oliver Reginald Tambo, Dylan Marlais Thomas, Roberto Benigni, John Cleese, Frederick De Cordova, Simon LeBon.


Gentleness is nice, but rough, raw passion is complete satisfaction. - Kirsten, 20 Best of 1001 Sex Secrets Every Man & Woman Should Know

If you would like your child to read more, let him or her see books in your hands and volumes in the bookcase. Dr. Buff's 365 Day Parenting Calendar

Are you going to sit back and let aging happen to you?  Or are you going to continue to make life happen for you?  The decision to renew ourselves for a third age - from sixty-five to who knows? - requires a real investment of faith, risk, and physical discipline. New Passages

Winter Survival Pack:  With winter storms ahead in many parts of the U.S., be sure you have these things on hand:  flashlight and extra batteries, battery-powered radio, candles and matches, canned or dried food, manual can opener, bottled water, warm blankets (wool is good), fire extinguisher. The Old Farmer's Almanac Might consider having the same items in the trunk of your car plus a short shovel, chains, foil blanket, coat, gloves, and hat.

If you want to know the closest place to look for grace, it is within yourself. If you desire wisdom greater than your own, you can find it inside you. What this suggests is that the interface between God and man is at least in part the interface between our unconscious and our conscious. To put it plainly, our unconscious is God. God within us. We were part of God all the time. God has been with us all along, is now, and always will be. The Road Less Traveled

Sex can be the means through which we allow the archetype of life to show itself, so that we live more fully and manifest ourselves more transparently. The whole sphere of sex - emotion, body, fantasy, and relationship - falls within the domain of soul. Soul Mates

Dreams are the touchstones of our characters. - Thoreau Achieve Your Dreams

Things to Be Happy About:  Closed captioning. Reading anything in the original. Having exact change.  14,000 Things to Be Happy About

It's easier to spend the money in your grandfather's pocket than the money in your own. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

It's possible to feel full when it comes to more vegetables, but not full when it comes to a piece of cake. Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me

The reason there is no end to the levels you can reach is that you already have infinite potential within you. Your challenge in this lifetime is simply to uncover that potential by peeling back the layers and remembering this essential truth: there is nothing you can not do, be, or have. All is within your reach. Know your limits, not so that you can honor them, but so that you can smash them to pieces and reach for magnificence. If Life is a Game, These are the Rules

In 1967, Craig Rodwell opened the nation's first gay bookstore, the Oscar Wilde Memorial Bookshop, in New York City. The first two lesbian bookstores in the country were A Woman's Place in Oakland, California, and Amazon Bookstore in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Do you know in what year they both opened?  (Answer below.) Gay & Lesbian Calendar

Sometimes there are apparently noble reasons given for making money, such as the desire to take care of one's family, and these things are important. But to focus on making money as a center will bring about its own undoing. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

2 Years - The Moody Twos. Mood swings are common at this age, developmental experts explain, because toddlers are caught in a transitional period between the helplessness of infancy and the relative independence of later childhood. Two-year-old mood swings are also related to a limited sense of time. Although kids this age can remember the past, they have difficulty recalling a sequence of events. Sticking to a routine will help teach your two-year-old what to expect; this may lessen outbursts and moodiness. Either way, keep in mind that this stage will end.  Parents Tips & Tricks

If you want physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health, rest and relaxation are not options: they're NECESSITIES!  Schedule daily R&R in your life. Stress Busters

Pretend, with your kids, that you are aliens on Earth!  If you're having a friend over for a "non-sleep"  sleep over, play alien escape. You're aliens being held hostage by humans (your family). Sneak around the house without being spotted by a single human. If they see you, they'll put you into a bed chamber, so be careful! To Do Today

An intense anticipation itself transforms possibility into reality; our desires being often but precursors of the things which we are capable of performing. - Samuel Smiles. Win the Day!

Soportar (sohpohrTAHR) To support, to put up with. No soporto tu sentido del humor. I can't stand your sense of humor. Living Language

Answer: 1971.


We believe that positive change in roles and relationships is possible. We believe that women and men are each other's natural allies and are inherently eager to work together. Men are not women's enemy, nor vice versa. We believe that ending sexism is in the interest of both groups and equality will be achieved most quickly and effectively in the spirit of cooperation. We believe that it is of utmost importance to "Make the World Safe for Children", so much so that we actually created bumper stickers. We believe in the importance to Know Fear and encourage adolescence to Know Fear so that they won't make dumb mistakes. We believe "Men make the best fathers" and that it is of utmost importance we find ways to insure that a father remains a parent to his child. We also believe that each individual can make a difference, and that it takes some kind of action on your part. What kind of person are you going to be in the new millennium?  What difference will you have made in this world?

Today is Make a Difference Day. Make it part of you. Reach out to others today. Consider the following:

Step 1:  Decide to help others by volunteering on this day. Choose any cause:  act alone or enlist a whole club, class or town.

Step 2:  Tell us your plans so we can help you get publicity and volunteers for the follow-up. We'll list your project in our "Requests" section, if you want.

Step 3. After helping others today, submit an entry form. All participants are eligible for $10,000 or $2,000 charitable awards. Call 800.416.3824 or check out the web site at www.makeadifferenceday.com

Be the First in Your Neighborhood

We can keep people informed on what's available locally if we know what's available. And, who knows better than people in local communities? In that regard, we're looking for regional contacts. Would you be willing to do one or more of the following to help get the word out to men in your community that reach out for help.

1. Events & Services: Gather and send us information on future events in your area that we will list in Menstuff, free of charge. This could include keeping us up to date on men's services, publications, and bookstores in your area that have a separate men's section, and anything else you think we should know.

2. A Local Contact: To act as a liaison - we'll list your name and number when someone asks us who they can contact in your area. It may be someone who already lives there but doesn't know about any men's work or someone moving there or a visitor.

3. An Organizer: Organize an event we call Everyman. It gives you an opportunity to bring men in your community together for a day of information and process with the goal of building a stronger local men's community.

4. A Fund-raiser: Be a local fund-raiser for The National Men's Resource Center. We're a non-profit educational organization (68.0337499) so the gifts are tax deductible. And, many companies have a matching gift program so it doubles the value of the gift. Let us know if you have any connections you think might be helpful. And, if there's an organization you think might be appropriate to go to for a grant and/or someone you know who writes grants, please let us know.

We believe that our work will be a major factor in ending men's isolation. We need you to not only dream along with us, but help us out. Your contribution will make a difference.

Hey Man: Did you make a difference yesterday? Let us know at Contact Us. Want to make a difference but you don't know where to start?


Sh*t My Dad Says, Justin Halpern. After being dumped by his longtime girlfriend, the author found himself living at home with his seventy-three-year-old dad who is like Socrates, but angrier, and with worse hair." He has never minced words and when the author moved back home, he began to record all of the ridiculous things his dad said to him. More than a million people how follow his philosophical musings on Twitter, and in this book, his son weaves a brilliantly funny, touching coming-of-age memoir around the beset of his quotes. An all-American story that unfolds on the Little League field, in Dennny's, during excruciating family road trips, and, most frequently, in the authors kitchen over bowls of Grape-Nuts. This book is a chaotic, hilarious, true portrait of a father-son relationship from a major new comic voice. www.ShitMyDadSays.com or www.Twitter.com.ShitMyDadSays. HarperCollins, 2010 ISBN 978-0-06-199270-4




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  • Peter Alsop - Song of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/alsop/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - A Man Overboard - Interview of the Month - www.menstuff.org/columns/overboard/archive.html
  • Reid Baer - Poetry - poetry read on YouTube - www.menstuff.org/columns/baer/archive.html
  • Molly Barrow - Shrink About This - www.menstuff.org/columns/barrow/archive.html
  • Peter Baylies - At Home Dads - on at-home-dad issues that impact fathers who stay at home to raise their kids - www.menstuff.org/columns/baylies/archive.html
  • Tom Blake - Middle-Age Relationships - from an expert on dating after 50. www.menstuff.org/columns/blake/archive.html
  • Mark Brandenburg - Great Fathers - on fathering issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/greatfathers/archive.html
  • Ted Braude - BoysWork - a columnist in the The Detroit Free Press "Body and Mind" section www.menstuff.org/columns/braude/archive.html
  • Armin Brott - A Father's Guide - hosts "Positive Parenting" on radio www.menstuff.org/columns/brott/archive.html
  • Dan Bulf - Get Real - weekly pod cast on men's issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/bulf/archive.html
  • Ken Byers - Transition - on men's life transitions - www.menstuff.org/columns/byers/archive.html
  • Sandra L. Caron - Sex Talk - college students get answers to their questions - www.menstuff.org/columns/sextalk/archive.html
  • Neil Chethik - Relationships - www.menstuff.org/columns/chethik/archive.html
  • Otto & Susie Collins - Susie and Otto - relationship issues discussed - www.menstuff.org/columns/susie&otto/archive.html
  • David Copeland - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Forrest Craver - Spirituality & Social Change - www.menstuff.org/columns/craver/archive.html
  • Layne & Paul Cutright - Powerful Partnerships - relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/cutright/archive.html
  • Ron DesMarais - Cavemen in the Kitchen - great recipes for men - www.menstuff.org/columns/desmarais/archive.html
  • Jed Diamond - Irritable Male Syndrome - www.menstuff.org/columns/diamond/archive.html
  • Doc Love - Women Don't Lie, Man Don't Listen - answers to relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/doclov/archive.html
  • Barry Durdant-Hollamby - Creating Change - creating change in your life - www.menstuff.org/columns/durdant/archive.html
  • Irv Engel - The Real Deal - www.menstuff.org/columns/engel/archive.html
  • Nancy Fagan - Expert Dating Advice - with Nancy Fagan - www.menstuf.org/columns/fagan/archive.html
  • Warren Farrell - Men's Issues: Facts and Perspectives www.menstuff.org/columns/farrell/archive.html
  • Leonard Felder - Wake Up or Break Up - www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/archive.html
  • Marty Friedman - Strong Men, Strong Marriage - www.menstuff.org/columns/friedman/archive.html
  • Kim Garretson - Mansgland - using humor to encourage prostate exams - www.menstuff.org/columns/mansgland/archive.html
  • Lion Goodman - How to get Women to Love You - www.menstuff.org/columns/goodman/archive.html
  • Liz Halliday - In a Man's World - www.menstuff.org/columns/halliday/archive.html
  • Rick Hanson - Your Wise Brain - www.menstuff.org/columns/hanson/archive.html
  • Tim Hartnett - Daddyman Speaks - being a father www.menstuff.org/columns/daddyman/archive.html
  • John Hershey - Blood, Phlegm & Bile: Parenting with Humor - He writes a syndicated biweekly humor column about parenting and family life. www.menstuff.org/columns/hershey/archive.html
  • Gary Hoeber - Psychotherapy as Soul Work, www.menstuff.org/columns/hoeber/archive.html
  • Patrick Houser - Fathers Make a World of Difference, www.menstuff.org/columns/houser/archive.html
  • Paul Joannides - The Guide to Getting It On - on sex - www.menstuff.org/columns/getiton/archive.html
  • Jack Kahn - NOMAS Boston - www.menstuff.org/columns/kahn/archive.html
  • Patrick Kennedy - Seniors - www.menstuff.org/columns/kennedy/archive.html
  • Joe Kort - Gaydar - to increase understanding between gay and het men - www.menstuff.org/columns/kort/archive.html
  • David Kundtz - David Kundtz - presents seminars, workshops, retreats, and conference presentations in the areas of men's emotional health, stress management, and spirituality. www.menstuff.org/columns/kundtz/archive.html
  • Bruce Linton - Dr. Dad - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/drdad/archive.html
  • Ron Louis - How to Succeed with Women - www.menstuff.org/columns/howtosucceed/archive.html
  • Tom Matlack - Tom Matlack - Good Men Project - www.menstuff.org/columns/matlack/archive.html
  • Wendy McElroy - Wendy McElroy on Feminism, www.menstuff.org/columns/mcelroy/archive.html
  • Robert N. Minor - Minor Details - on GBT sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/minordetails/archive.html
  • Robert L. Moore - Man & Mythology - www.menstuff.org/columns/moore/archive.html
  • Dennis W. Neder - Being a Man - general questions about men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/neder/archive.html
  • Marty Nemko - Worklife - general questions about men and work - www.menstuff.org/columns/nemko/archive.html
  • Eli Newberger - Eli Newberger - general information on men's lives - www.menstuff.org/columns/newberger/archive.html
  • Linda Nielsen - Embracing the Father - working with the father/daughter relationship. www.menstuff.org/columns/nielsen/archive.html
  • Kathy Noll - Bullies and Youth Violence - working with schools, teachers and parents to end school violence - www.menstuff.org/columns/noll/archive.html
  • Mark Phillips - Stay-at-Home-Dads - helping men maintain that which makes us men, instead of becoming hairy Mom-substitutes - www.menstuff.org/columns/phillips/archive.html
  • Carey Roberts - Socialism & Feminism - is a social commentator on political correctness. www.menstuff.org/columns/roberts/archive.html
  • Perry Rose - Dating, Relationship, Sex
  • Glenn Sacks - His Side - on fathering - www.menstuff.org/columns/sacks/archive.html
  • Trudy Schuett - Domestic Violence - serving the under-represented www.menstuff.org/columns/schuett/archive.html
  • Carl J. Schutt - Circumcision - social commentator on circumcision - www.menstuff.org/columns/schutt/archive.html
  • Hugo Schwyzer - A Pro-feminist's Response - www.menstuff.org/columns/schwyzer/archive.html
  • Michael Shaffran - Men's Issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/shaffran/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Judith Sherven - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • George Simons - Bellicose Veins - is a US specialist in intercultural and gender communication who hangs out in Mandelieu - la Napoule, France, as well as in Santa Cruz, CA. www.menstuff.org/columns/simons/archive.html
  • Andy Smith - Hard Hat Brotherhood - www.menstuff.org/columns/hardhat/archive.html
  • David B. Smith - Fighting Father Dave - www.menstuff.org/columns/smith/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - Judith & Jim - discussion and answers regarding relationship issues - www.menstuff.org/columns/judith&jim/archive.html
  • Jim Sniechowski - The New Intimacy - www.menstuff.org/columns/newintimacy/archive.html
  • Reena Sommer - Custody - is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant. www.menstuff.org/columns/sommer/archive.html
  • R. Don Steele - Don Steele - relationship questions answered -
  • David Steinberg - Comes Naturally - on sexuality - www.menstuff.org/columns/steinberg/archive.html
  • Mary Lou St Lucas - A Mother's Love - www.menstuf.org/columns/stlucas/archive.html
  • Surprise - Surprise Author - From a new columnist every month - www.menstuff.org/columns/surprise/archive.html
  • Steven Svoboda - Fatherhood, Activism and the Law www.menstuff.org/columns/svoboda/archive.html
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  • Dr.Williams - Sex Health - on sexual health - Dr. Williams, www.menstuff.org/columns/sexhealth/archive.html
  • KC Wilson - On Gender Politics is a social commentator and author. www.menstuff.org/columns/wilson/archive.html


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  • Words Can Heal - helping children grow up healthy - www.menstuff.org/columns/wordscanheal/archive.html
  • Wuzup?! - National or international events happening this month - www.menstuff.org/columns/whassup/archive.html 


October is Adopt-a-Shelter Dog; Alternate History; Auto Battery Safety; Campaign for Healthier Babies; Celiac Sprue Awareness; Child Health; Computer Learning; Diversity Awareness; Dryer Vent Safety Awareness; Energy Management is a Family Affair-Improve Your Home; Family History; Family Sexuality Education, Fantasy; Gay and Lesbian History; Health Literacy; International Fired Up; Listen to Your Inner Critic; Lupus Awareness; National AIDS Awareness; National Animal Safety and Protection; *National Breast Cancer Awareness; National Car Care; National Crime Prevention; National Depression Education and Awareness; *National Disability Employment Awareness; *National Domestic Violence Awareness; National Family Health, National Family Sexuality Education; National "Gain the Inside Advantage"; National Home Inspection; National Orthodontic Health; National Pharmacy; National Physical Therapy; National Pizza; National Popcorn Poppin'; National Roller Skating; National Skin Care Awareness; National Spinal Health; National Toilet Tank Repair; Pediatric Cancer Awareness; Rett Syndrome Awareness; Sarcastics Awareness; Substance Abuse Prevention; Talk About Prescriptions; Unmasking Halloween Dangers; Vegetarian Awareness Month.

9/15-10/15: Hispanic Heritage Month. 10/1-7: Mental Illness Awareness; *Minority Enterprise Development; National Health Care Food Oct 8-14: *Fire Prevention; Home Based Business; National Adult Immunization Awareness; *National School Lunch, National Walk to School Week. 10/9-13: Pet Peeve, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Week. 10/10-16: Wildlife Week. 10/14-20: Ally, Pharmacy Week. 10/15-21: Getting the World to Beat a Path to Your Door; *National Character Counts; Teen Read Week. 10/16-22: National Health Education Week. 10/22-28: National Massage Therapy Awareness, National Save Yur Back Week. 10/23-31: Red Ribbon 10/25-31: Peace, Friendship & Goodwill Week. 10/1: World Vegetarian Day. 10/2: World Habitat Day, 10/3: Techies Day. 10/4: Toot Your Flute Day. 10/8 Global Learn Day; National Children's Day. 10/9: Indigenous Persons Day; *Leif Erikson Day, Yom Kippur, Canadian Thanksgiving Day. 10/11: Coming Out; Teddy Bear to Work Day; 10/12: Oktoberfest. 10/13: Blame Someone Else; Scream, Train Your Brain Day, Friday the 13th. 10/14: Sukkot. Be Bald and Be Free Day. 10/15: National Grouch; *White Cane Safety Day. 10/16: Dictionary;  Boss' Day, Intl. Librarians World Food Day. 10/17: Black Poetry, International Eradication of Poverty Day. 10/18: Canadian Persons;  Boost your Brain Day. 10/19: Evaluate Your Life Day 10/21: Sweetest Day. 10/22: Mother-In-Law; National Scientific Literacy Day. 10/23: National Mole Day. 10/24: United Nations Day. Black Thursday. 10/25: Cartoonists Against Crime Day. 10/26: Horseless Carriage; Mule, Intersex Awareness Day 10/27: Frankenstein Friday, Navy Day, Ugly Pickup Contest. 10/28: Make a Difference; Wild Foods Day; Day of Meditation. 10/29: Daylight Savings Times Ends. 10/31Halloween; National Magic; *National Unicef Day. 11/2 is Election Day. Vote Absentee Ballot.

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

Domestic Violence Prevention Month - See Issues. Also, see books on anger, violence-general, violence-domestic, violence-rape, violence-sexual, women's violence, sexual harassment plus Q&A Slide Guide on Gangs and Safe Dating in Merchandise and Alternatives to Violence programs. - resources for male and female perpetrators and male and female victims. Got some information to add, send it to mailto:violence@menstuff.org

* Means a Presidential Proclamation has been made.

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Men are so competitive that we even "out-die" women in all 15 of the major causes of death in the U.S. Most of these deaths are preventable with a positive change in life-style, eating habits, and/or general health care. Let's not strive so hard to hold on to this record. See what you can change now to live a healthier life.

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